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Turning Conflict Into Intimacy: Relationships of any depth and any magnitude are going to hit up against conflict. It is just the nature of being close to someone. You are going to have differences that emerge. It is not a question of if, but when those differences appear. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

43 min listen

“How Do You Deal With Bitterness And Resentment?” – Listener Question: .Resentment eats away at any relationship. It can destroy a marriage. Bitterness takes over and every good memory or thought is re-remembered and "bitter-ized" The foundational connection in the relationship is sapped of energy. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

21 min listen

“How Long?” Trust, Trauma, and Towels: I'm still answering your questions! If you have a question you want me to cover on the podcast, just SEND ME AN EMAIL HERE. Today, we cover "time." Or more specifically, "How Long?" The questions come from 2 listeners, "B" and "J." by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

How Do You Know If Things Are Improving?: Phil asked, "How do you know you are making progress?" And perhaps fearing that the signs point the other way, he also asked, "how long is long enough to be trying before it is unhealthy for me." Those are two great, if somewhat polarized, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

23 min listen

Depression And Your Marriage Crisis: Lately on the podcast, I have been answering listener questions. And quite a few have come in about how depression affects a marriage. Does depression cause a crisis? Or do people get depressed because of the crisis? Or... by The Save The Marriage Podcast

28 min listen

When Your Spouse Can’t See A Way Forward – Limiting Beliefs: We all have limiting beliefs. You... me... and your spouse! I always work to change my limiting beliefs. You are probably doing the same. But you can't just change your spouse's limiting beliefs! What is a limiting belief? by The Save The Marriage Podcast

23 min listen

“Why Can’t I Get Started?”: Audrey wrote me to ask, “I just can’t get started on my marriage. What’s wrong with me?" She wrote in as a listener of my podcast. (And if you have a question for the podcast, send it to me here: Podcast@SaveTheMarriage.com) by The Save The Marriage Podcast

21 min listen

“Why Should I Try? Don’t Tell Me What To Do!”: Jared was a bit more pointed in his question. But to be fair, I HAVE been asking for people to submit questions. And he did. He told me straight up, "You tell me to connect with my spouse. Well, I've been trying to do that. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

25 min listen

“Is ‘Trying’ Disrespectful?” – When A Spouse Wants Out: "Gem" wrote me after a recent episode of my podcast. In that episode, a therapist said, after one single session (where divorce had not been mentioned) that the client needed to prepare for divorce. In Gem's case, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

24 min listen

Moving Forward… One Way or The Other…: "I need some encouragement," the note ended. The writer is a listener of my podcast and admitted the hard work that has gone into trying to save his marriage. At the same time, another listener asked about whether this effort -- the work to save her ... by The Save The Marriage Podcast

23 min listen

Disrespect and Boundaries: "A" has been trying to set boundaries with her husband. Trying to get the treatment she deserves. Trying to get the relationship to a healthy spot. But then, her spouse throws a little shade her way... rolling eyes, using a demeaning tone. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

22 min listen

How Steep is the Climb?: “How hard is it to save my marriage?” the email started. The writer wanted my opinion on whether my System would work. There was a problem, though. The problem was… I had no details about her marital problems. I didn’t know what she was facing. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

The Affair… and The Aftermath: Question: does an affair cause marital problems or do marital problems cause affairs? Answer: YES. Longer answer: for the majority of affairs, weak points in the marriage create a vulnerability to infidelity. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

Co-Dependence, Independence, and Interdependence – Listener’s Question: Here we are, Independence Day in the United States, marking the moment when the young colonies rejected ties to the British Crown. So many times, I have people "declare their independence" from their marriage... by The Save The Marriage Podcast

18 min listen

Where Did The Love Go?: I get that question very frequently: “What happened? Where did the love go?" Maybe you feel it, maybe you hear it. The end result is the same: one or both people just not feeling it… not feeling love. Maybe “I love you, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

21 min listen

Work on Me, Work on WE?: What do you do if your spouse decides they need to work on themselves... and then they may (or may not) be willing to work on the marriage? What do you do if your spouse just refuses to work on your marriage? That is the question of the week, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

17 min listen

“Why Should I Even Try?” – When Discouragement Hits… Hard: Several people have asked me the same thing: "What if I am not even sure I want to save my marriage? I am so frustrated and discouraged, I feel like quitting... not even trying." It is a great question! (By the way, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

28 min listen

How To Guarantee No Divorce: Over the last episodes, I have been answering listener questions (you can submit your question by email - CLICK HERE). In this episode, I respond to Susan. She wants to guarantee that she does not get divorced. So, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

24 min listen

Is “Space” the Opposite of Connection?: It is such a common demand from a spouse during a marital crisis: “I need space! You just need to give me space!” Yet here I am, telling you to connect with your spouse, to rebuild the broken connection that led to the crisis. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

17 min listen

Your Questions About Infidelity, Part 1: Someone cheated. What now? Can a marriage survive infidelity, either physical or emotional? Can a relationship recover after an affair? Over the past while, I have been answering listener questions (you can submit by emailing here). And this week, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

Why It All Came Tumbling Down: “It suddenly fell apart,” Jenny told me. As far as she could tell, everything had been great until… one day… her husband said, “our marriage is over.” Before that, Jenny said, there had been no trouble. Why did it all come tumbling down? by The Save The Marriage Podcast

20 min listen

Is Your Marriage in the Safe Zone?: She started the conversation by telling how she was confused… her spouse had confused her. He said he didn’t feel safe enough to share his emotions, didn’t feel safe enough to move back into their bedroom, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

25 min listen

Marriage Wrecker: Disconnection: Your marriage is hurting. Why? What happened? What wrecked your marriage? In the last podcast episode, I discussed how expectations can wreck a marriage. But unfortunately, there are some other issues and concerns that can wreck your marriage. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

Staying Stuck in the Negative – What DO you DO?: [Have a question about saving your marriage? Ask it by emailing me HERE.] Several listeners asked why a spouse only remembers the negative, or only dwells on the negative. Why don't they remember the good times or see the good things? by The Save The Marriage Podcast

23 min listen

Dealing with Indifference…: For awhile, I have been answering listener-submitted questions, and continue to do so in this episode (if YOU want to ask a question, send it to podcast@savethemarriage.com). This week, I respond to a couple of questions about a spouse's indifference ... by The Save The Marriage Podcast

27 min listen

The Problem with Changing… and Proving It!: Things hit a bad spot in your marriage… and your spouse isn’t sure about staying or leaving the marriage. Sure, it may have been a relationship issue, but you may be feeling blamed. It’s pretty common to go looking for the “bad guy” in any situation.... by The Save The Marriage Podcast

28 min listen

Heavy Holiday? Marriage Crisis and the Season: When life is hard, Holidays can feel heavy. When there is a marriage crisis, it can be tough to muster the energy to even move forward — especially when all the commercials and movies push the “merry and bright” of a mythic holiday. And here we are, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

16 min listen

Time for a Relationship Reset?: Unless you are hiding out in a cave somewhere (I read about a person who had been on a silent retreat — went in with everything normal and came out to the pandemic), your world has been topsy-turvy. We will get through this. The pandemic will pass. by The Save The Marriage Podcast

22 min listen

Pushing Through…: What do you do when you feel like giving up, like nothing you do is making a difference? Or when your spouse says you are trying to hard, or acting strange? Or when you have dragged your spouse to retreats, therapy, workshops… and at every turn, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

31 min listen

All The Wrong Reasons: Should You Stay Together?: We continue with listeners’ questions on the Save The Marriage Podcast. And in this episode, I pull together a central question about “Should we stay together because of this Insert Bad Reason Here?" Several people told me they were still married, by The Save The Marriage Podcast

20 min listen

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