Professional dominatrix Colette Pervette joins me to look at BDSM as a microcosm of the macro culture + our lives, and how you can find transformation with the intentional embracing of power roles, toys, tools, scenes--whether that’s with a partner or with a professional dom.
I’ve brought many experts on to talk about BDSM, but this episode is hands down my favorite. Probably because Colette has such a brilliant + academically inclined mind, as well as, someone who is deeply devoted to spirituality + alchemy.
In this episode, you’ll hear:

Colette’s journey of accessing her power through softness + quietness
Self-conscious submissives and sub-conscious dominants
Ways to integrate powerplay beyond the confines of the bedroom
How you can start becoming the top or dominant in your life
Weaving spirituality, symbolism + alchemy in a BDSM practice
How a professional dominatrix designings scenes for clients
Can BDSM re-traumatize wounds? Can BDSM heal deep wounds?
Dispelling the misconceptions of submissives being "weak" or "powerless"
Steps for couples to explore BDSM and play
When do you hire a pro-domme to facilitate the scene?
Qualities to look for or be cautious of when vetting a professional dom or dominatrix
Challenges that come from being a public-facing figure teaching taboo topics
Recommended books for learning more about powerplay and transcendence
Learn from Dr. Cat and Colette in their upcoming couples retreat, Love + Leather

She even answers some questions from our audience:

How has your play evolved over the years? Have your desires changed?
I feel I have a part of me that is dom, but I lack confidence. How do I explore more?

THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS
Colette is an educatrix. She is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for over 18 years. She holds a PhD in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, Colette dispels misconceptions about kink, sexwork, and alternative sexuality. She leads an online course, MistressClass, where she teaches aspiring Dommes a he(art)tistic approach to Female Domination.
WANT MORE?
Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics
Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather
BOOKS MENTIONED:

Radical Ecstasy
Existential Kink
The Loving Dominant
The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book
Playing Well With Others
The Dominance Playbook


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