Emotional Blackmail
Emotional blackmail is well known to all of us, probably every one of us has tried it. No matter if children or governments, again and again other people try to manipulate us strategically through emotions.
The goal of emotional blackmail is to make the victim feel anxious, guilty, or even have a guilty conscience, and of course to be willing to do what the blackmailer(s) want us to do.
If others threaten us with feelings, whether individually or from a group, then caution is always required, because we are to be put under pressure, manipulatively and unobjectively moved to an action (or omission).
Notorious is the so-called love withdrawal, which is supported with sulking, crying or raving. Often the partner then complies, perhaps for the sake of peace, or because an underlying fear arises, one does not want to "disappoint" the partner, or because one gives in out of a "sense of duty". But if the partner notices that he/she can get away with this trick, the partner will be manipulated again and again, therefore the following applies: Resist the beginnings!
According to Buddha, we should always look behind the scenes anyway, don't let anyone fool us. If you loved me, you would ......, the number must not become the standard. Especially the teacher of all teachers admonished us not to have any attachments, so in such a case then also draw the necessary consequences, right at the beginning, otherwise it is usually too late.
How to recognize emotional blackmail? Usually it is done with very disparaging comparisons, such as: My girlfriend's husband really loves her, because ....., or threats are brought up, reproaches are made. This creates a structure of superiority and subordination in the relationship, the blackmailer gets power, begins to exploit the emotional dependence, and of course also to enjoy it. Fears of loss are built up, in general emotional blackmailers work mainly with fears.
As a result, self-doubt and feelings of guilt are aroused, which are then further exploited, the matter becomes a vicious circle.
Who now avoids open conflicts, has already lost, here helps only to oppose with all his strength, otherwise the matter goes on and on, until a usually bitter end.
Whoever remains silent here will end up as a doormat, this sick behavior pattern must be broken, a correct and open communication must take the place of the spiral of silence.
Therapeutic help should also be sought here without hesitation, because emotional blackmail is a form of behavioral disorder that can quickly drift into pathological.
Your own needs are important, not those of the blackmailer. If necessary, you have to stop the play, at least for a while.
The way is the goal!
Own mistakes are hard to see; with strangers you easily reach the goal. Everyone rolls the dice for foreign mistakes; one hides one's own, no matter how many, cunningly, like a cheat, brings false dice in the game.
- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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