Timari is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, married and the mother of two children. She is a listener who contacted me to say that she’d like to talk about her history with abortion, because it hadn’t been addressed much on the show yet. Along the way, we also talk about being raised in the Mormon church, being in an abusive marriage and cheating, and her sex life with her current husband. Here are some of the notable moments she shared with us: 4:40 – Timari’s first memory of being told not to touch herself 6:00 – What she considers the benefits of frequent masturbation, especially early in life 7:40 – Her first experience with a penis 11:00 – The impact of sex ed 15:05 – Growing up in a Mormon home 19:28 – Timari’s “fuck buddy” 23:20 – Feeling empowered by childbirth and sex after giving birth 24:50 – Watching her sisters get involved in abusive relationships 27:30 – Her decision to leave the LDS church over their stance on homosexuality 29:45 – Timari’s curiosity about polyamory 30:20 – Healing from the emotional impact of her own extramarital activity 32:00 – How her current relationship satisfies her emotionally and romantically 32:20 – Her history with abortion The Lowdown (37:30): What kind of touch do you enjoy most? What are your hard red lines? Are there sexual things you’ve tried that you never want to do again? The Patreon extras for this episode are: At the $1/month level, Timari talks about learning to be comfortable with her period thanks to a boy she dated when she was young At the $5/month level, Timari talks about the abortion process and the aftermath in her first marriage At the $7/month level, that conversation plus the extended Q&A At the $10/month level, all that plus a monthly Ask Me Anything! Learn more and become a community supporter at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. If you like this show, please leave a rating and review at https://ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls. Want to be on the show? Visit www.leahcarey.com/guest and let me know that you’re interested. I’d love to talk with you! To learn about Sexual Communication Coaching, visit www.leahcarey.com/coaching Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email) Editor – Gretchen Kilby Music by – Nazar Rybak