This week, Kris welcomes Kate Lund, Psy.D., and author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help children build resilience, deal with frustration, and negotiate better when things don’t go their way. Kate shares the Seven Pillars of Resilience that she has identified after 20 years of working with so many kids and families, and she and Kris talk through the specific strategies for how to be more tolerant of frustrating circumstances. Kate talks about the importance of this message as many children and adults are feeling their stress at a higher level these days.   Key Takeaways: [12:49] Kate talks about how her book Bounce brings together her professional experience working with hundreds of families and children and also the personal challenges she had to grapple with in her own youth. [15:13] Two fun facts about Kate: she has twin boys that are great buddies but very different, and she was an intern for Bill Clinton! [16:34] Kate lists the Seven Pillars including: The ability to tolerate frustration and manage emotions Navigating friendships and social pressure  Sustaining focus and attention Developing courage Building Motivation Finding Confidence Creating optimism [22:01] Kate talks about some powerful daily mindfulness practices such as visualization and deep breathing. [25:00] We are at all-time-high levels of anxiety and behavioral stress in kids coming out of the pandemic. [30:00] We should try to get the words “fail” and “failure” out of our vocabulary and flip to learning and underperforming. [33:47] When Kate isn’t writing, teaching, or golfing, you can find her training her cute therapy puppy.   Quotes: [25:35] “Globally across the continuum of kids, adults, parents, the stress is high out there, and people are struggling. And it’s very, very hard. And so that’s why it’s so important to focus on this idea of, you know, how to help folks manage their stress response.” — Kate [30:04] “It’s okay for things not to work out the first time.” — Kate [30:09] “Win or learn.” — Kris   Sponsored By: ChildCare Education Institute (CCEI) Use code CCSC5 to claim a free course!   Mentioned in This Episode: Kris Murray The Child Care Success Company The Child Care Success Academy The Child Care Success Summit Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive In School, Sports and Life Kate Lund