There’s a mindset that keeps parents stuck and suffering, and really holds us back. We have a lot more control in our lives than we sometimes believe, and it can take some gentle nudging (or tough love, for some of us) to help us see things for what they are. Changing our mindset in this one area can make a big difference in our lives and empower us as parents and leaders of our family.  [04:20] We often CAN do the things we say we can't do...we've really just chosen NOT to do them. [09:29] Saying "I can't" breeds desperation, anxiety, and depression.  [11:05] We have nearly endless choices over the majority of things in our lives (80%).  [12:58] Why do we choose not to? Sometimes we just don't want to.  [14:10] Sometimes we aren't willing to pay the price. [16:40] Sometimes it's just not a priority for us. [17:08] We need to take ownership of our choices. [19:04] Reframing our choices is empowering and can help us through difficult circumstances. So instead of saying “I can’t”, which is true only 20% of the time, own your choice: Say you don’t want to, you aren’t willing to pay the price, or you’re prioritizing other things. Then when you need to, remind yourself of the choices you’re making, and why you’re making them.  Need help setting up your family for homeschooling success? Check out our course, Focus Time. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.  Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.