The Dating Game Uncensored

By Richard Modeste

The Dating Game Uncensored chronicles dating in a free society. In other words, if you are raised in a society where marriages are strictly prearranged as the norm, then there's really no need to read a book on dating.

The goals are to provide an interactive dating guide for all ages--for parents/guardians/adults to be aware of who their kids interact with and where and how and persuade everyone to do their own research and background checks (as deemed necessary).

The objectives are to provide an easy-to-read guide for readers looking to acquire more knowledge on dating, to identify and analyze personality traits and characteristics, to acquire dating skills, to develop effective and safe dating strategies, to identify red flags and avoid dangerous situations, to learn from (or share) others' experiences by patronizing the following question-answer email: [e-mail], and how to find a date: socialize!

The methodology for this book involved gathering information from informal and unstructured interviews with several individuals from different backgrounds and careers, namely school teachers, pediatricians, single people, married people, and divorcees, to name a few. Considerable internet research was done also.

Perspectives are based on views and insights from family background, upbringing, early childhood education and socialization, social and neighborhood environment, human psychology, personal experiences, education, income, and social class and status.

Over thirty type of daters are listed by definition, ranging from smart daters, to dumb, to serial killers, to haters, and to one-night standers. Pick your poison (if you rush in blindly).

Many scenarios are discussed: dating during a pandemic, youth dating, dating for seniors, the power of love, training your children (bending the tree while it's young), dating in the city where everyone can see you vs. dating in a remote rural area, online dating vs. in-person, and blind dating vs. wing dating. There are lots more.

Some hot-button issues are examined too. For example, at what age is it okay to start dating? Should dating be part of the school's curriculum? Should families teach their kids how to date? What are the two-to-five-year rule vs. the three-to-six-month rule? Do you believe in the zodiac (compatibility) signs?

How do you approach someone for a date? Do pickup lines work? There is no "one size fits all approach." Hint: ask open-ended questions that can't yield simple yes or no answers. Pique someone's interest by trying to find out what they are interested in. The list goes on and on. Be my guest.

Practice safe dating. How to look for red flags and which ones to look for are of paramount importance. There can be lots on intrigue and drama in dating. We live in a complex and diverse world that has dangerous people. Bad people. This book identifies numerous personality traits and types. Ask your romantic interest or date about their (life's) timeline. For instance, do "missing" years in their life story mean they might have been incarcerated? You just never know. Daters, beware!

Take time to read this book. There's lots more. Did I mention a part 2? Stay tuned.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Fulton Books, Inc.
• Release date: Apr 1, 2024
• ISBN: 9798892212366

Book preview

Table of Contents

Title

Copyright

Prologue: The Gold Standard of Dating

Introduction and Overview

Chapter I: Youth Dating: How You Become You (in A Dangerous World)

Chapter II: Knowing the Game (Diversity of Personal Characteristics)

Chapter III: Rules of Engagement: Make Your Dating List / Find Your Common Ground

Chapter IV: Red Flags: A Brief Lesson

Chapter V: Where (and When) to Find a Date

Appendix I: Birth Sign Compatibility Table

Appendix II: Questionnaire: What Do Women (Men) Want?

About the Author

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The Dating Game Uncensored

Richard Modeste

Copyright © 2024 Richard Modeste

All rights reserved

First Edition

Fulton Books

Meadville, PA

Published by Fulton Books 2024

ISBN 979-8-89221-235-9 (paperback)

ISBN 979-8-89221-236-6 (digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Prologue

Prologue: The Gold Standard of Dating

(Dating in a Perfect World)

This is it. You've made it. You put God first in everything you do. You've achieved the gold standard of dating. Therefore, you don't need to read another dating book.

The gold standard of dating is as follows:

You have the perfect life. You live with a faultless family. You live in a big house in an affluent neighborhood. You have perfect upbringing. You are well educated in elite private schools. You were born in wealth. You have great socialization. You have perfect friends raised just like you. You upkeep high moral values. You are highly religious and spiritual. You didn't make mistakes while growing up.

You did not kiss on your first date. You were supervised by one of your parents on your first date. You won't have sex before marriage. You don't keep secrets from your parents. Your parents get along well. They don't have marital problems. You know how to avoid all the pitfalls of dating. Your world is sheltered and safe.

Your first date will be your spouse. You both share similar values. You've had similar upbringing.

Having checked all the boxes above, there's no need to read a dating book.

However, if your lifestyle is not on par with the gold standard, then you are invited to read this book.

Be my guest. Thank you.

The Dating Game Uncensored: Nothing's Guaranteed

Introduction and Overview

This book addresses concepts about dating in an open and free society among adults eighteen years and over. Are you eighteen or older? And is your society dating-free? Younger readers can read, as well as members of non-free dating societies, of course. You're never too old or too young to learn.

On the other hand, are you part of a non-free dating society where young girls, for instance, are bought into marriage (or in others, sold) for some heads of cattle or where ten-year-old girls are given into prearranged marriages predestined from birth for a price? Are you part of a closed society where you can be disinherited, scorned, or punished for dating freely?

With that said, dating is all about socializing and building your social skills.

Dating During a Pandemic, Social Distancing, and Vaccines (Mandates): The New Normal

We are currently experiencing the coronavirus pandemic, where we are required to wear a mask, be on quarantine, get vaccinated, and/or practice social distancing. It's called the coronavirus disease of 2019, with the acronym of COVID-19. Seeing that dating is all about socializing and honing your social skills, this is a challenging time to be looking for a date. I urge you to bear that in mind as you read on. People may do more online dating. We do not know what the eventual new normal may look like. It, more than likely, will change the dating game. Therefore, do not risk your health (or your life) just for a date.

If you live in the state of New York, for instance, where there is an active vaccine mandate in place, you are required to show valid proof of vaccination at work, to dine at an indoor restaurant, and to attend theaters, sporting arena events, and the list goes on and on. Hey, maybe you should look for a date within states without a vaccine mandate. To put all this into perspective: if you are fully or partially vaccinated, would you date someone who's not? Either way, where do you take or meet someone on a date if both parties are not validly vaccinated? Does your religious convictions or underlying medical condition prohibit you from being vaccinated?

Let me be clear, I am no scientist or medical expert, so I therefore cannot advise you on the pandemic as it pertains to vaccines. One thing I know for sure: everyone's life is affected in one way or another by this COVID-19 pandemic. I would not even dare to venture into all the conspiracy theories, media blitz, political influence, mental health challenges, and fearmongering flying rampant worldwide.

Use good common sense.

Post-Pandemic Dating

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