Love Like a Roman : The Secret to Love That Lasts

By STEVE LARRY

Embark on a journey through time to the heart of ancient Rome with "Love Like a Roman - The Secret to Love That Lasts." This transformative book unveils the long-lost secrets of Roman love, offering a unique blend of historical wisdom and modern relationship insights that promise to revolutionize your approach to love.

In the bustling forums and grand palaces of ancient Rome, love was an art, a science, and a way of life. "Love Like a Roman" captures the essence of this timeless approach to romance, bringing to light the profound principles that have been whispered through the ages. This is not just another relationship guide; it's a portal to the past, where the secrets to eternal love have been carefully preserved in the annals of history.

Imagine possessing the knowledge to create a love that lasts a lifetime, a love that endures through trials and triumphs alike. "Love Like a Roman" offers that knowledge, distilling the essence of Roman passion, loyalty, and devotion into practical advice that resonates with modern-day relationships. Through captivating stories, insightful analysis, and actionable strategies, this book will captivate your heart and mind, guiding you toward a love that is both ancient and ageless.

As you delve into the pages of "Love Like a Roman," you'll discover the five core principles that defined Roman love:

Passio: The fiery passion that ignites the flames of love.

Fidelitas: The unwavering loyalty that forges unbreakable bonds.

Sapientia: The wisdom to navigate the complexities of the heart.

Virtus: The courage to love boldly and without reservation.

Aeternitas: The pursuit of a love that transcends time itself.

Each chapter is a treasure trove of knowledge, filled with practical exercises, reflective questions, and powerful affirmations designed to help you integrate these ancient principles into your modern love life.

 "Love Like a Roman" is more than a book; it's a movement. It's a call to embrace the depth and richness of love that has stood the test of time. Whether you're seeking to rekindle the spark in your relationship, deepen your emotional connection, or find the courage to pursue a new romantic endeavour, this book holds the keys to unlocking a love that is both profound and enduring.

Join the legion of readers who have already discovered the secret to love that lasts. Embrace the Roman way of love and transform your relationship into a timeless testament to passion, loyalty, and enduring affection. "Love Like a Roman - The Secret to Love That Lasts" is not just a reading experience; it's a journey to the heart of what it means to love and be loved, a journey that promises to change your life forever.

Step into the world of "Love Like a Roman" and let the ancient wisdom of Rome's greatest lovers inspire your heart. This is your chance to unlock the secret to a love that lasts, a love that echoes through the ages. Don't just read about love; live it, breathe it, and let it flourish in your life.

"Love Like a Roman - The Secret to Love That Lasts" is available now.

• Language: English
• Publisher: STEVE LARRY
• Release date: Mar 19, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224671526

Book preview

Chapter 1

What Happens to Love  After the Wedding?

At thirty thousand feet, halfway between Buffalo and Dallas, he said, What kind of work do you do? as he turned to face me after putting his magazine in his seat pocket."

I said matter-of-factly, I lead marriage enrichment seminars and provide marriage counselling.

He said, I've been wanting to ask someone this for a long time. What transpires with love once you tie the knot?"

Giving up on my dreams of taking a nap, I inquired, What do you mean?

Well, he replied, "I've been married three times, and the first time was great, but the second time around, everything fell apart. The love I felt for her, and the love she seemed to have for me, all vanished.

I think I'm a pretty smart person. I run a profitable firm, but I don't comprehend it.

For what duration were you wed? I inquired.

The first one lasted for almost ten years. On the second occasion, we were wed for three years, and on the last occasion, nearly six.

Did your love fade away quickly after the wedding, or did it take time to fade away? I asked.

"Well, the second one was a complete failure from the start. I’m not sure what went wrong. I genuinely believed that we were in love, but our honeymoon turned disastrous, and we never got over it. We didn't date for six months. It was a brief romantic affair. It was so thrilling! However, following the marriage, things were difficult from the start.

We enjoyed three or four happy years in my previous marriage before the baby was born. I had the impression that she focused her attention on the newborn and I was no longer important after that. She seemed to have only wanted a child, and after she had one, she didn't need me anymore. Did you tell her that?" I inquired.

Yeah, I did tell her that. She called me insane. She added that I didn't realise how stressful working as a twenty-four-hour nurse was. She remarked that I ought to be more sympathetic and supportive of her.

I truly did try, but it didn't appear to have any effect. Following that, we simply drifted further apart. After a while, all that remained was death, not love. We both decided that the marriage was ended.

"My most recent union? I had a strong suspicion that one would be unique. It had been three years after my divorce. We had a two-year relationship. I genuinely believed that we understood what we were doing, and I believed that maybe this was the first time I truly understood what it was to love someone. She really did seem to love me.

"I don't think I changed after the wedding. I kept loving her in the same way that I did before being married. I told her how gorgeous she was. I expressed my affection for her. I informed her that I was honoured to be her spouse. However, a few months after our marriage, she began to complain—at first, about insignificant things like my failure to hang up my clothes or take out the garbage. Afterwards, she started criticising my character, saying that she didn't think she could trust me and that I hadn't been loyal to her. She turned into an extremely negative person. She was never negative prior to marriage.

She was among the most upbeat individuals I've ever encountered. That’s among the things that drew me in to her. She was never one to whine. I was really good at whatever I did, but when we were married, it seemed like I could never do anything right. To be honest, I have no idea what happened. I eventually stopped loving her and started to hate her. It was evident that she didn't love me. We decided there was no point in continuing to live together, so we parted ways.

That happened a year ago. Thus, I would like to know what happens to love following the wedding. Is my experience typical? Is that the reason our nation has so many divorces? It still amazes me that it happened to me three times. And those who choose to stay married—do they learn to accept the emptiness in their lives, or can love truly endure in some relationships? If so, how?"

The questions that thousands of married and divorced people are asking today are the same ones that my acquaintance, who is sat in 5A, was asking. Some are asking their friends, some are asking the clergy and counsellors, while still others are asking themselves. Sometimes the answers are buried in nearly unintelligible psychological study jargon.

They are occasionally buried in jokes and legend. While some of the jokes and corny sayings are true, it's like giving an aspirin to a cancer patient.

Marriage's longing for passionate love is a deeply ingrained psychological need. Every popular magazine contains at least one piece about maintaining love in a marriage in every issue. There are several books about the topic. Talk shows on radio and television discuss it. Maintaining our spouses' love is a critical matter.

Despite the abundance of books, publications, and helpful advice accessible, why do so few couples seem to have figured out the key to maintaining their love after marriage? How come a couple can go to a communication class, get some great tips on how to improve communication, go home, and then find that they are completely unable to put those great ideas into practice? How come we read an article in a magazine titled 101 Ways to Express Love to Your Spouse, pick two or three that particularly appeal to us, give them a try, and our spouse doesn't even notice our efforts? We give up on the other 98 options and resume our regular lives.

To effectively communicate love, we need to be open to learning our spouse's primary love language. This book's goal is to provide a response to those queries. It’s not that the published books and articles aren't valuable. People speak different love languages, and it is the essential truth that we have neglected to consider.

The following are the main language groupings in the field of linguistics: English, Portuguese, Greek, German, French, Japanese, Chinese, Spanish, and so on. The majority of us acquire our parents' and siblings' languages as children, which becomes our first language or native tongue. We might be able to learn other languages later on, but it usually takes a lot more work. These turn into our second tongue. We communicate primarily in our original tongue. Speaking that language makes us feel most at ease. We get more at ease communicating in a second language the more we use it. Our ability to communicate will be limited if we only speak our primary language and we come across someone who only speaks their primary language, which is different from ours. We have to rely on gesturing, sulking, illustrating, or acting out our thoughts.

We are able to speak, although it is awkward. Variations in language are a fundamental aspect of human civilization. To effectively communicate across cultural divides, we need to understand the language of the people we want to speak with.

In the domain of love, it is comparable. Your spouse's language and your own emotional love language could differ as much as Mandarin and English. You can try all your efforts to communicate your love in English, but if your spouse speaks only Chinese, you will never know how to truly love each other. While using Affirming Words with his third wife, my acquaintance on the plane commented, I told her how beautiful she was. I expressed my affection for her. I told her how happy I was to be her husband. He was being real and speaking love, but she didn't get what he was saying. Maybe she didn't notice the love in his behaviour because she was searching for it. Being real is insufficient. To be good communicators of love, we need to be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language.

After thirty years of providing marriage counselling, I have come to the opinion that there are essentially five different ways that people can express and comprehend emotional love. Different dialects or variations of a language can exist, according to linguistics. Similar to this, there are numerous dialects within the five fundamental emotional love languages. That explains why there aren't 10, 20, or 365 basic love languages, despite the magazine articles with titles like 10 Ways to Let Your Spouse Know You Love Her, 20 Ways to Keep Your Man at Home, and 365 Expressions of Marital Love. There are, in my view, only five. On the other hand, multiple dialects might exist. The only restriction on the variety of ways one can communicate love within a love language is one's imagination. Communicating with your partner in their language of love is crucial.

It has long been recognised that every child has distinct emotional patterns during the early stages of development. For instance, some kids grow up with a tendency of poor self-esteem, whereas other kids have healthy self-esteem. While some people grow up feeling safe, others acquire emotional habits of uneasiness. Certain children experience love, desire, and appreciation throughout their childhood, whereas some have unlove, undesired, and unappreciated childhoods.

Youngsters who experience love from their parents and peers will form a basic emotional love language that is shaped by their individual psychological makeup and the ways in which their parents and other important individuals show them love. Their common language will be their primary love language. They may eventually pick up a second language that they adore, but their native tongue will always make them feel the most at ease. Youngsters who experience a lack of love from their parents and classmates will also acquire a primary love language. It will be slightly skewed, though, in the same way that some kids might pick up bad grammar and have a limited vocabulary. That does not imply that they are incapable of developing into effective communicators. They will, however, need to put in more effort than those who had a more encouraging example. Children who experience an underdeveloped sense of emotional love can also learn to feel and express love, but they will need to put in more effort than their peers who grew up in a caring, healthy environment.

Husband and wife almost never share the same core emotional love language. We have a tendency to communicate with our partner in our primary love language, and we get bewildered when they don't understand us. Even though we are trying to communicate our love, it is not getting through since we are communicating in a language that is strange to them. Herein is the core issue, to which this book seeks to provide an answer. I dare to write another novel about love because of this. After learning about the five fundamental love languages and comprehending both our own and our spouse's primary love languages, we will be equipped with the knowledge and skills necessary to put the concepts found in books and articles into practice.

Finding and mastering your partner's major love language will, in my opinion, be the first step towards a happy, long-lasting marriage. After marriage, love doesn't have to die; nevertheless, most of us will need to make the effort to acquire a second love language