The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival: Personal Transformation, #2

By MOHD MURSALIN SA'AD

The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival: It is Time to Move on, Make Peace with Painful Memories and Reinvent Your Life.

Enjoy great insights via observation, and analysis to prepare the reader before marriage life, that said is by understanding marriage commitment, sharing the house burden, and most importantly keeping the intimacy alive with care, concern, and supporting each other. Marriage Is a one way-ticket to a life-long journey when the husband turns to captain to cruise the ship and meet the purpose of that marriage.

 

"An eminently survival skills—choosing the right spouse —and beware of red flag signs—and post marriage.

The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival has revamped the way we understand marriage life. We take for granted that love will blossom, but our busy schedule eradicates intimacy and care. By the time you know, you are stranded, ousted out of marriage, and dreams shattered.

 

Mohd Mursalin has over 30 years of marriage experience and is a volunteer consultant in a mental health club and handles marriage issues. He is concerned that marriage is the core of happiness—and break—a marriage.

The content discusses the experience of other marriages as a comparative discovery and understand the reason for marriage issues and resolve it.
 
The author explains principles for developing understanding between partners with approaches to resolve conflicts, and great tips implementing "the six ground rules," and achieving greater levels of intimacy. The author offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to money, religion, work, family, or anything else. He decided to write this book "The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival" contemplating that perhaps a book with messages written like sermon would not help. Thus, he uses a proactive approach by inserting discussions with dialogues to stir interest and for couples to understand transparencies behind a family scenario.  Samples of these discussions may perhaps awaken our understanding of what is lacking in the marriage life. 
 
"The six ground rules. It is Time to Move on, Make Peace with Painful Memories and Reinvent Your Life." are realistic as core values in a family.

The author discusses the following topics:

1. Things you should know before marriage.
2. How to choose a spouse before marriage
3. How to keep your marriage alive
4. Marriage ground rules
5. Fix marriage issues with solutions
6. How to develop lasting impact on your marriage relationship
7. Spot the red flag and fix it

• Language: English
• Publisher: LETS LEARN EFFECTIVE TRAINING SKILLS
• Release date: Oct 26, 2023
• ISBN: 9789811885174

MOHD MURSALIN SA'AD

Mohd Mursalin Sa'ad: Author, Marriage Consultant, Mental Health Advocate Mohd Mursalin Sa'ad is a seasoned marriage consultant, mental health practitioner, and insightful author dedicated to fostering resilient relationships and well-being. With a background in psychology, Mursalin blends evidence-based practices with cultural sensitivity to guide individuals and couples through the intricate dance of love and mental health. His compassionate approach extends beyond consultancy rooms to literature, advocating for mental health awareness and nurturing healthy connections. Mursalin envisions a world where love thrives, stigma fades, and every individual finds the support needed for a flourishing life.

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Title: The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival

Subtitle: It's time to move on, make peace with painful memories and reinvent your life

Series: Personal Transformation 2

Copyright © Mohd Mursalin Sa’ad

Copyright © 2023 by L.E.T.S. learn effective training skills. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or distributed in any form or by any means; or stored in a database or retrieval system, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

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Mohd Mursalin Sa’ad

National Library Board, Singapore Cataloguing in Publication Data

Name(s): Mohd Mursalin Sa'ad.

Title: The six ground rules for marriage survival : it is time to move on, make peace with painful memories and reinvent your life / Mohd Mursalin Sa'ad.

Other Title(s): Personal transformation ; 2.

Description: Singapore : LETS Learn Effective Training Skills, [2023]

Identifier(s): ISBN 978-981-18-8557-0 (paperback) | ISBN 978-981-18-8517-4 (ebook)

Subject(s): LCSH: Marriage. | Married people—Psychology. | Marital conflict.

Classification: DDC 306.872—dc23

Table of Contents

Copyright

Preface

Objective of this book

1-Things you should know before marriage.

2-How to Choose a Spouse Before Marriage

3-The Six ground rules in Marriage life

4- Ground Rule 1 # Communication

5-Ground Rule 2 #Mutual Respect

6-Ground Rule 3 #Quality Time

7-Ground Rule 4 # Disconnect from technology

8-Ground Rule 5 #Appreciation

9-Ground Rule 6 #Express Gratitude

10-Ground Rule 7#Teamwork

11-Ground Rule 8#Share responsibilities

12-The Eight Skill Sets

13-Skill set 1#Forgiveness

14- Skill set 2#Keep the romance Alive

15- Skill set 3#Individual Growth

16- Skill set 4#Financial Planning

17- Skill set 5#Conflict Resolution

18- Skill set 6#Cultivate Trust

19- Skill set 7#Sense of Humour

20- Skill set 8#Seek Help

21- Fix Marriage Issue with a solution

22- The Six Tips for Marriage Survival

23- How to develop a lasting Impact on your Marriage Relationship

34- What action to take if you notice red flag in marriage Relationship

35 -Last Word from the Author

Preface

In the intricate tapestry of life, few experiences rival the profound beauty and complexity of building a marriage. As I reflect on my own journey, navigating the ebbs and flows of matrimony, I am compelled to share insights that have become the bedrock of enduring love – the six ground rules for marriage life.

Marriage, I have come to realize, is not a static destination but a dynamic voyage. It's a journey where laughter dances with tears, and moments of joy stand alongside challenges that test the very fabric of commitment. My partner and I embarked on this odyssey with dreams, promises, and a shared vision of a future filled with love. Little did we know that the path would be shaped by the wisdom encapsulated in these ground rules.

In the chapters that follow, we will explore the nuances of communication – the first and perhaps most crucial ground rule. From the tender art of listening to the courageous act of sharing vulnerabilities, effective communication laid the foundation for a relationship where words became the bridge to understanding.

Mutual respect and understanding emerge as pillars that support the structure of a lasting marriage. These ground rules implore us to appreciate the unique individuality of our partner, celebrating differences, and weaving them into the rich tapestry of our shared life.

Responsibility, a term often misconstrued, takes on a new meaning in the context of marriage. As we delve into the third ground rule, we unravel the beauty of shared responsibilities and collaborative decision-making. It's a dance where each partner plays a vital role, choreographing a symphony of harmonious living.

Conflict, a natural part of any relationship, finds its resolution in the fourth ground rule – crisis management and conflict resolution. Here, we learn the art of turning challenges into opportunities, transforming conflicts into stepping stones towards growth, rather than stumbling blocks.

Cultivating emotional intimacy is the fifth ground rule, inviting us to infuse our relationship with moments of connection, gestures of love, and the unspoken language of shared experiences. It's in these intimate moments that the soul of our marriage thrives.

Finally, the sixth ground rule beckons us to embrace change, growth, and adaptation. The only constant in life is change, and a marriage that evolves with its partners becomes a dynamic force, resilient in the face of life's inevitable transformations.

As we embark on this exploration of the six ground rules for marriage life, consider it not as a manual but as a collection of shared experiences, lessons learned through the tapestry of joys and challenges that define the remarkable journey of building a life together. May these ground rules serve as beacons, guiding you through the vast and beautiful sea of marriage, where love is not just a destination but the very essence of the voyage.

From the desk of the author

Mohd Mursalin Sa’ad

Damascus, Syria

Objective of this book

Establishing the Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival

As a marriage consultant, the primary objective in establishing "the six ground rules for marriage survival" is to provide a framework that fosters a healthy and resilient marital relationship. These ground rules are designed to promote effective communication, mutual understanding, and the cultivation of a strong foundation for lasting companionship. The overarching aim is to guide couples toward creating a thriving partnership that can withstand challenges and enhance the overall well-being of both individuals. The specific objectives include:

Communication Enhancement:

Objective: To facilitate open and honest communication between partners, ensuring both feel heard and understood. This ground rule aims to establish a foundation where thoughts, feelings, and concerns are expressed in a respectful and constructive manner.

Mutual Respect and Understanding:

Objective: To cultivate an environment where mutual respect is paramount. This ground rule seeks to instil an understanding of each partner's unique perspectives, values, and needs. The objective is to foster empathy and appreciation for the differences that make each individual unique.

Shared Responsibility and Collaboration:

Objective: To encourage a sense of shared responsibility in managing the various aspects of married life. This ground rule aims to promote collaboration in decision-making, financial matters, and daily responsibilities, creating a balanced and supportive partnership.

Crisis Management and Conflict Resolution:

Objective: To equip couples with effective tools for crisis management and conflict resolution. This ground rule seeks to establish a constructive approach to navigating challenges, emphasizing problem-solving skills and the ability to address conflicts in a healthy and respectful manner.

Cultivation of Emotional Intimacy:

Objective: To prioritize emotional intimacy development and maintenance. This ground rule aims to strengthen the emotional connection between partners, encouraging regular expressions of love, appreciation, and support, fostering a deeper bond, and understanding.

Continuous Growth and Adaptation:

Objective: To promote a mindset of continuous growth and adaptation within the marriage. This ground rule seeks to instil a commitment to personal and relational development, recognizing that individuals and relationships evolve over time. The objective is to embrace change positively and ensure a dynamic and resilient marriage.

The overall goal of establishing these six ground rules is to guide couples in building a marriage that survives but thrives, creating a fulfilling and enduring partnership. These rules serve as a roadmap for navigating the complexities of married life. They promote harmony and contributing to the overall happiness and longevity of the relationship.

How to use this Book?

The author observe situation in some marriages and heard complaints as a marriage consultant.  He decided to write this book The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Survival contemplating that perhaps a book with messages written like sermon would not help. Thus, he uses a proactive approach by inserting discussions with dialogues to stir interest and for couples to understand transparencies behind a family scenario.  Samples of these discussions may perhaps awaken our understanding of what is lacking in the marriage life.  It is not the partners are not compatible, but the lack of marriage skill set to understand their roles and duties in the family. Most importantly both partners should decide the home settings such as, roles and duties at home, the sort of family upbring that you want. Let us say, that we want the children to be educated people, or getting them to know about life skills, then the couples need to set up the home environment and rules. However, we notice children not brought up with proper character or vision in life. But instead of a caring and concern family, it becomes disperse with conflict. It is sad to see divorce emerging in many countries, but looking back at these horrific scenarios, it literally makes sense that couples need guidance to foster a solid foundation in their marriage life.  

When reading this book, please read through it with an open mind considering the mistakes and red flag that cause chaos and stress. Yet with knowledge and skills the marriage will survive the hard times of turmoil and conflict.

Cheers! Read this book to save your marriage life.

From the author

The Six Ground Rules for Marriage Life

Mohd Mursalin Sa’ad

Things you should know before marriage.

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