Sex Life in Couple

By Ingrid M Taylor

There are moments in life, both for men and women, in which our body seems to be uninterested and closed to sexual relations with the other: we define this characteristic as "sexual silence", that is, a moment in which the libido is asleep and the body is silent.

A moment in which sexual pleasure is not desired and we have no intention of bringing it back into our lives; although the other is more than interested in satisfying his lust between the sheets. As a result, disagreements, misunderstandings, frustrations, feelings of guilt, or even worse situations.

There are many reasons why our body rejects sexual intercourse, including grieving, financial difficulty, stress, loss of physical attractiveness, or most commonly, the routine that leads to boredom. In these situations, our desire is missing in action and sexual fulfillment is in limbo.

In this book, you will find the reasons explained by professionals about why these situations occur and the ways to solve them. You will access dozens of tips on how to rekindle the flame of love, a list of aphrodisiac foods, and simple tricks to return to the stage where the ardor of sexual life was at its peak.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Editorial Anuket
• Release date: Jul 24, 2023
• ISBN: 9798223880769

Book preview

Chapter 1

Common couple problems

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Have you ever sat down and wondered why marriage or cohabitation, in general, is difficult? Have marital problems made you doubt your relationship and its duration?

I want to clarify that if I speak of marriage I am not only referring to the legal or religious institution, but also to its concept of union by two free people in an agreement to share feelings and join efforts and dreams for the common good.

Marriage can be difficult for most people because it involves merging your life and goals with someone else's; as much as he looks like a soulmate in the first stage called falling in love he is actually someone we don't know completely.

Marital problems after children or other major changes can be difficult to deal with and often lead to feelings of rejection and disappointment.

However, the obstacles along the way, very often, do not appear because of insurmountable situations, but as a result of complacent behavior and forgetfulness. These problems can be solved with the right approach and openness to thought.

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Some of those problems and their possible solutions

There are many difficulties in married life, and many of them can be avoided or resolved using many different methods and techniques.

Let's take a look at the most common marriage challenges common partners face and learn how to resolve marital problems before they cause irreparable damage to your relationship.

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• Infidelity

Infidelity is one of the most common marital problems in relationships. The most recent data suggests that around 20% of men surveyed confessed to cheating on their partner, compared to 10% of women. This includes cheating and having emotional affairs. Infidelity is one of the most frequent causes of divorce. Marital separation reaches almost 50% of formally married couples in the Western world.

Other cases included in infidelity are one-night stands, physical infidelity, online relationships, and short-term and long-term affairs. Cheating happens in a relationship for many different reasons; it is a common problem and couples struggle to find an answer as to why this situation has come about.

Solution: Cheating can happen when the bond in your relationship is not strong and can lead to a breakdown of trust. Research reveals that maintaining a strong emotional connection, sexual intimacy, and respecting boundaries are the three main pillars for dealing with partner infidelity.

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• Sex differences

Physical intimacy is essential in a long-term relationship, but it's also at the root of one of the most common marital problems of all time. Sexual problems can arise in a relationship for any number of reasons, setting the stage for more marital problems in the future.

Studies reveal that sexual compatibility, along with sexual satisfaction, has been cited as the most crucial factor in determining relationship satisfaction.

The most common sexual problem in a couple is loss of libido. Many people are under the impression that only women have libido problems, but men do too.

In other cases, sexual problems may be due to the sexual preferences of the spouse. One person in the relationship may prefer different things to sex than the other spouse, which makes the other uncomfortable.

Solution: Communication and open-mindedness are key to overcoming any form of sexual incompatibility. It can restore the physical and emotional connection that is crucial for sexual intimacy to flourish. In the next chapters we will delve into the how to do it.

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• Values and beliefs

Certainly, there will be differences and disagreements within the couple, but some differences are too important to ignore, such as core values and beliefs.

One spouse may have one religion and the other may espouse a different belief. Differences in values can lead to an emotional chasm between other common marriage problems.

As you might have guessed, this could cause major problems when one spouse gets tired of doing things separately, like going to a different service.

Such marital problems are extremely common in cross-cultural marriages. Other differences include core values. These include how children are raised and the things they were taught in childhood, such as the definition of what is right and what is wrong.

Since not everyone grows up with the same belief systems, morals, and goals, there is a lot of room for debate and conflict within the relationship.

Solution: The only solutions to conflicts arising from different values are communication and compromise. And in cases where compromise is not possible, the best solution is to be understanding, tolerant, and willing to disagree on these issues.

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• Stages of life

Many people do not consider the stages of their life when it comes to a relationship.

In some cases, the complications of coexistence