Real Events of Narcissistic Abuse: Someone's Survival Guide

By Michelle Dickey

Michelle Dickey is a consultant, coach, trauma specialist, author, and spiritual leader. She helps survivors of narcissistic abuse overcome the brain fog and other obstacles associated with the abuse through God's wisdom. Her work is focused on trauma healing and spiritual growth. This book details identified narcissistic abuse situations the author experienced. Her story is one of a roller coaster ride as the spiritual battle became intense and she shares God's wisdom about human behavior to help others learn the red flags. Real Events of Narcissistic Abuse is an easy read to comprehend! She does not use fancy language as there is nothing fancy about her story. Welcome to real-world events of narcissistic abuse with mind-blowing moments. Plus, you will take a walk with her as she makes her way into God's reality! 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Michelle Dickey
• Release date: Jul 5, 2023
• ISBN: 9798434137324

Michelle Dickey

Michelle Dickey is a consultant, coach, trauma specialist, minister, author, spiritual leader, and public speaker. She is also a forensic and business consultant. She is the founder of Consulting for Heightened Awareness (CHA), a nondenominational, spiritual ministry that specializes in narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery with God's wisdom.  CHA's Spiritual Warriors for Christ (SWFC), is a community for like-minded souls to connect, helping one another learn and grow together. Iron sharpens iron! CHA is a ministry that is 100% Holy Spirit led and does not ascribe to any 'religion.' As a spiritual leader, Michelle helps fellow warriors understand this spiritual battle between good and evil, and helps them navigate through the spiritual awakening as they adapt to the new spiritual norm. CHA is all about trauma healing and spiritual growth with God's wisdom, basic scientific facts and more. You can learn more by visiting CHA's website! 

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Real Events of Narcissistic Abuse: Someone’s Survival Guide

Michelle Dickey, Consultant, Coach, & Trauma Specialist

All photos and designs created by me, Michelle Dickey, and Canva Pro.

© 2021, Michelle Dickey

Dedication & Thanks

I dedicate this book to Jesus Christ, our Savior, the light, and the way to the Heavenly Father, God Almighty. Thanking God for another day, every day keeps me going and keeps me alert to see what He needs me to see. Jesus is and has been my inspiration to get this information out to the public.

I thank the Godhead first and foremost for all that happens, good and bad, because life is full of ongoing lessons. Secondly, I thank all my supporters on Quora, YouTube, Facebook, Pinterest, Patreon, and Instagram, and my immediate family for standing by my side through thick and thin.

I want to thank all my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ for being who you are and staying steadfast with the Godhead. In this spiritual battle, we all need to keep that full armor of God on to thwart the fiery darts of the wicked. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

What’s in This Book

Introduction

Chapter 1: Was it Love at First Sight? I was only 17! Narcissistic Abuse Situation #1

Chapter 2: Almost Married! Narcissistic Abuse Situation #2

Chapter 3: And We Keep Dodging Bullets – Narcissistic Abuse Situation #5

Chapter 4: Single but Still a Target – Narcissistic Abuse #8

Chapter 5: The Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back – Narcissistic Abuse Situation #9

Chapter 6: The Aftermath of Situation #9

Chapter 7: Workplace Abuse & Narcissism

Chapter 8: Early Workplace Abuse I Missed

Chapter 9: Common Weird Things All Narcissists Say & Do

Chapter 10: Narcissists Online with Social Media

Additional Information About Narcissism

New Revelations from God!

About the Author

Further Readings

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All of Michelle’s books are self-edited by her to the best of her abilities.

Introduction

Jeremiah 1:5 King James Version

⁵Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.

The above verse answers a question I asked a former pastor, who didn’t or couldn’t answer, Does God choose us before we are born? We are by no means perfect nor saints, and God knows this, but He chooses His elects before we are born. And when we have the light, we will face attacks from those who hate us for it. Attacks from the demon spirits who will do everything they can to keep us from finding our way to the Godhead. Those demon spirits are the very narcissists we speak of today, for we wrestle not against flesh and blood.  

Note, some of this information will be familiar if readers have read my first two books and follow me on all my social platforms, but it deserves repeating for the newbies. And it will be a good reminder for those who need it as we have grown spiritually since the first two publications.

As we continue to navigate this world full of narcissism and cognitive dissonance, people ask us long time survivors and warriors lots of questions about narcissistic behaviors. Aside from the fact these behaviors have been programmed into the minds of these human hosts of the narcissists in many ways, the I’sm mindset took over their lives and anyone who does not possess the same is a threat to their, the demon spirits’ existence. When we finally wake up from years of the cognitive dissonance coma, we see what is going on out there in the world. We learn to walk away from the world and learn to reshape our lives to walk with Jesus Christ, our Savior. We start to share our knowledge with those in the world who have yet to wake up and provide insight to how things of this world came to be with God’s word.

In this book, I am going to provide many real-world examples of how narcissistic abuse occurs throughout my life. It will help readers who have yet to identify the red flags and readers who may be feeling alone after a narcissistic abuse situation. The information will resonate with people on different levels, and it is important to put aside any habits of justifying other people’s behavior to gain the full meaning behind the actions of a narcissist. We are, after all, in a spiritual battle between empaths and narcissists. We all need to keep in mind that the behaviors of narcissists are all the same because the demon spirits are all the same. And the intentions of the demon spirits are deliberate.

Demon spirits will attach to a human host who has pushed God and Jesus away, or anyone who hasn’t been reborn yet. Narcissists abandoned the Godhead and turn around to project their fear of abandonment onto others. Everything a narcissist does is a double standard, and it comes from the devil projecting those behaviors onto the narcissists. As stated elsewhere, it is a trickle-down effect, just like a game of dominos. At the same time, we need to remember there are many people who are crept in unawares, as stated previously in other work. There are evildoers who know exactly what they are doing, and they are the ones who abuse humanity on a massive scale every day that think their abusive behavior is normal, the crept in unawares.

The best way to summarize the process briefly is that the evildoers who are running the show on this stage called earth are projecting their childish things onto humanity. The narcissists we encounter daily are often unaware they are working for the devil. How do they not know they are a walking book of wicked behaviors? Because, again, the wicked behaviors have not only been normalized, but the human hosts of these demon spirits do not think what they are doing is wrong. Now, there are some who know what they are doing is wrong and don’t care, while there are some who know what they do is wrong, and they do back off occasionally. Regardless, we can see their reward of confusion, shame, guilt, embarrassment, and self-loathing upon them, when in God’s reality.

Narcissists read and feed on people’s emotions, not the person, and they collect data about the person to try and use as ammunition to abuse. It drives them crazy when people who have the light come on the scene and start to stir up the waters a bit. They like us to have social media accounts, hoping to get ammunition to use against us and to steal our ideas. An important concept to keep in mind is they need information about you to try and mirror you. That is always first and foremost. They have got to be able to mirror you and that includes pretending to be a chosen one by using God as a gateway. The irony is, when we are close with the Godhead, we will see through that too because God sees all and knows when people are genuine. He knows the heart. And these narcissists cannot mirror righteous spirituality either because when they try, they expose how fake they are.

Also, when we are in God’s reality, we rarely, if at all, react to anyone’s poking and prodding for emotional fuel because, after all, Jesus has helped us put away those childish things. The narcissists won’t know that about us as they will assume we are in the same reality they are. Narcissists like to assume everything is the way they perceive it and believe it to be. You may have heard how they create a fantasy world for themselves and use their workplaces as a playground. They get this from their master, the devil, who uses the earth as a playground and tricks his flying monkeys (the narcissists) into living and acting out some fictional character or event from movies and books.  

While the narcissists conjure up whatever fantasy in their mind, they pick their target’s script based on several things. They build the script based on education, outward appearances, and expectations. Again, the problem they face when doing this is the assumptions that they make about those three attributes. Basing a script on a person’s appearance will always disappoint the narcissist because guess what? If we are all dolled up for a special occasion, we are not going to look the same when we get home and take off our make-up. Narcissists will assume we have the same level of expectation they do for other people, which is usually too high. Again, they will be disappointed, but in a different way.

The disappointment they face with expecting us to be like them turns into more jealousy because often, we who are in God’s reality can run circles around them. We get stuff done. Reprobate minds are generally lazy and confused, which makes them easier to manipulate by the narcissists who control their minds and behavior. When they try to build the script based on education, they are also disappointed because they will automatically assume we were indoctrinated like they were. They are always wrong about the script they want us to play, 100% of the time. That is what causes them to play themselves, meaning they duped their own mind into thinking we are all the same out here on earth.

The narcissists will pull all the same tactics in the beginning with everyone they meet whether they like that person or not. It is all a test to see if you can be controlled. We see it on the societal level all the time. Sometimes it is comical how narcissism works. Narcissists don’t like anyone yet will pretend they like a person they can control and abuse. Mind you, each situation we find ourselves in where we must interact with a narcissist, or three, the games they play and their responses to rejection are all the same, but the circumstances around how they occur can vary greatly. The patterns of abuse are the same yet happen under different circumstances, which is why it is, again, very important to not forget what we learn because of a new situation. That ties in with what Churchill quoted about remembering history, so we don’t repeat it.

In the coming chapters, I share with you all some real-world events to offer more insight to the games these demon spirits like to play with empaths. Well, they play the same games with anyone, but empaths get targeted the hardest. Anyone with the light of Jesus Christ is a target, this we know because God told us that is how it was going to be. However, we learn that God doesn’t put us where He cannot protect us, so once in His reality, we realize that our journey through the first two realities was for a reason. Highly spiritual beings go out into the line of fire to battle the demon spirits while the cowardly demon spirits just play mind games with everyone. We go into some very dark situations to fight that battle, and until later, when we finally hear God’s call, we learn what Jesus went through while He walked the earth.

We learn and appreciate that Jesus was an outcast too. He may be the most popular name today, but it wasn’t always that way. Hence why being perceived by the fallen world as an outcast is okay. We realize that what others think of us doesn’t matter and we get focused on working in our purpose for God.  

Chapter 1: Was it Love at First Sight? I Was Only 17! Narcissistic Abuse Situation #1

Oh yes, right out of high school, graduating a year early, I met a young man who was 21 and we immediately hit it off. I remember learning in the two rose tinted lenses reality that there was such a thing as love at first sight and that is what it felt like. My dad, a wise man, kept trying to tell me it wasn’t love, but why would I, at 17, listen to