Dominant Women: The Dominant Women's and Submissive Men's Handbook For Amazing Relationships: Femdom Action, #1
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Dominant Women is a guide for novice and semi-experienced women who are into the FLR-lifestyle. It covers everything from being and acting as a Domina, understanding male sexuality, the importance of communication (and how to do it well), and giving inspirational stories of FLR role-playing sessions, and much more.
After reading the book, you will have everything you need to express your desire to be in charge and start dominating your man.
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Dominant Women - Alexandra Morris
Dominant Women
The Dominant Women's and Submissive Men's Handbook for Amazing Relationships
Alexandra Morris
CONTENTS
Dominant Women
Introduction
PART ONE: BEING A DOMINANT WOMAN
Start Slowly
Different Ways of Being a Domme
PART TWO: UNDERSTANDING MALE SEXUALITY
Defining Domination
Male Submission
The Male Sub vs. the Bottom
Getting to Know Your Male Sub
Erogenous Zones
PART THREE: COMMUNICATION AND SATISFYING EACH OTHER’S NEEDS
Open and Honest Communication
Boundaries
PART FOUR: PERFORM THE ACT
The Process
Mounting
Arousal and Denial
Cuckoldry and Emasculation
Punishment
Pet Play
Body Worship
Taking it Step-by-Step
Making Mistakes
After A Session
Connect With Me
Introduction
The concept of dominance and submission is viewed as anathema in vanilla society. Most people don't understand how one can relish being submissive to another or give up that kind of control and trust another human being with their body like that. It is viewed as an outdated concept, and that's when the dominant is male and the submissive is female. The idea that a man might want to be the submissive is just inviting ridicule and disbelief.
Unfortunately, the benefits that bondage provides in a relationship with two consenting adults is often overlooked or simply not understood. So let us start from the beginning and define what dominance and submission mean. In the simplest terms, domination and submission refer to a power exchange between two consenting adults. The division between who is submissive and who is dominant is not limited by age, sex or gender. The level of domination and submission varies within relationships. In some it is limited solely to the bedroom, in others it carries on to other household dynamics. In very few of these relationships, it is a full lifestyle with the dominant making all decisions with total power control.
In what might be surprising to most people, the most common type of submission is male submission. This has been illustrated in erotic fiction and film, due to the appeal of thumbing a nose at the patriarchy. The domination of these males might be psychological or sexual in nature; being required to please their dominant before they are allowed to achieve arousal. In other cases, orgasm is denied until the dominant says they can come. This could be arbitrary or based upon certain behavior or completion of certain tasks.
Because it is traditional for males to dominate a relationship, flipping it and reversing it so that the female takes the Domme role can be sexually liberating and also very arousing. Since the act of sex usually involves inserting the phallus into the vagina, the male is often considered as the ‘active' partner. The phallus actively penetrates the submissive vagina and so the latter is considered to be receptive. This leads to males fantasizing about male chastity in a bid to subvert this notion. It arouses them to relinquish control because they are expected to always be in control. To expound on this, it must be reiterated that the submissive does not submit by force. They willingly surrender all their power to the dominant. This can be a difficult concept to understand in that in a paradoxical way, the act of submitting and surrendering all power to the dominant is an act of dominance within your submission. The submissive always has a safe word, which they can use to immediately stop any activity they are tired of, are not in agreement with or would simply like to discontinue.
If the submissive feels unsafe, threatened, uncomfortable or scared by anything going on they invoke the safe word. It’s their security blanket, which ensures that they will never be forced to do anything they don’t want to or which is beyond their comfort levels or safety. This shows that the submissive is actually the one with all the power in the relationship because they have an emergency exit button that they can use at any time.
This book will look at the male submissive in a heterosexual relationship with a female Domme. As was mentioned earlier, this relationship might take place only in the bedroom or extend to everyday household activities. Male submission can also take place in a dungeon, with a professional Domme, using role play that is usually non-sexual in nature.
Research has shown that many high profile individuals faced with tough daily decisions at work where they are placed in high stakes dominant positions find sexual and psychological relief by being submissive in their relationships. The submissive role is stress relieving and liberating for them because they are constantly in charge of every aspect of their professional lives and give that control up in their sexual relationship. When they give up their power in this way, they not only relieve stress but it is also beneficial to them and their lifestyles.
Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have done interviews in which they both admit to wearing similar outfits on a daily basis in order to take away that one decision from the myriad ones they have to make every day. This helps them to focus on other things that matter more and helps them to do their jobs better.
In choosing submission, the man relinquishes his power in one way while still retaining it in all others. The use of a safe word enables them to have peace of mind as they willingly put their well being in someone else's hands. They are able to explore and bring to life their sexual fantasies and erotic thoughts without fear. Being able to do this is far from being helpless or powerless contrary to popular belief. This book will seek to debunk all the myths behind male submission and take a deep dive into what it means.
I have been inspired to write this book from my own experience because it so radically changed my life and my relationship with sex. I am a female in my early thirties whose sex life was what could always be described as satisfying, but after reading 50 Shades, something in my sexual psyche was awoken and I knew I must explore it further. The idea of sub/dom relationships always titillated my imagination and I was more than happy to try out a submissive role and found it erotic and stimulating. However, my partner confessed that he would like to try out adopting the role of submissive as well and I agreed that it was only fair that he get a chance to live out his fantasies too.
At first, it felt as if we were on totally unfamiliar ground and we were both feeling our way, uncertain of how we should progress exactly. I must confess that at first it did feel strange being the Domme because society very readily slots us all into our gender typical roles and we mature believing that we have found sexual gratification and often stop there without question. However, for those of us who are more adventurous, we often find that, if we can release the inhibitions which are bred into us, we can discover a widely more satisfying experience altogether.
Our first efforts were tentative and unsure but we both soon gathered speed when we tasted how scintillating sub/dom sex could be. What drove us on was sheer passion and lust and we soon learned to overcome our inhibitions and enter into a rollercoaster journey of our erotic shared adventures together. We spoke about the limits we were both willing to endure and took pains to put each other at ease, building confidence in the other so that no actual fear was ever present. Needless to say, we trust each other implicitly, which I believe it paramount when setting out on this path, which, potentially, can present huge risks to its participants. We were explicit about how much pain we wanted to experience and the type of feelings we wanted to evoke. Some of our sex play was pure experimentation because I believe that sex should always involve the imagination and, for me, sex is as cerebral as it is physical.
I am lucky to have a partner who is as keen as I am to try out new things to keep our sex lives fresh and lively, and we talked about boundaries before we sprung anything on the other. Nevertheless, it did come as a bit of surprise when my partner said that he wanted to be the sub; it wasn’t anything I’d considered previously. But because is always so obliging to my needs I was ready to give it a go if it meant it would enhance his experience. We were careful to agree on a safe word just as we had been when I’d been the submissive. I had thought it was probably going to be something we tried briefly and moved on from.
I have to confess that I did feel just slightly silly at first and a little self-conscious, even though we have always indulged each other’s fantasies. As I relaxed though, I realized that was actually relishing the power that being the Domme gave me and I began to get into role and enjoy myself. I must have been convincing because it seemed that my partner was enjoying himself enormously too and rather than just trying it out and moving onto the next thing, we found that me adopting the Domme role became the fantasy of choice, which we seemed to indulge in increasingly until eventually it monopolized our sex lives completely.
I realized pretty quickly that I found it extremely liberating and that I enjoyed it more than I ever would have thought possible. It meant that I could be sure that sex was never hurried again. I could make sure I was completely satisfied in whichever way I felt like before agreeing to penetration or any other sexual gratification was allowed for my partner. He has a very demanding job and I think having an opportunity to relinquish the responsibility he has to wield constantly in a work environment was a complete relief for him. We normally keep sub/dom action to the bedroom, but he is catching on that if he is ‘good’ out of the bedroom he is more likely to earn sexual favors. His domestic prowess and involvement has certainly expanded and that makes me happier too. And, if I’m happier, then I’m more likely to be nicer to him too. He’s more likely to come home bearing gifts now too, and it might be as simple as a bunch of flowers or a bottle of perfume – or even some type of sex toy. He enjoys seeing me happy and being the instigator of my happiness, which now very easily enters or sexual domain too. Our sex life, although it has always been good, has now reached new heights. I feel empowered and totally released from any past inhibitions.
We’ve started using costumes and sex toys more freely. He says that he finds my Domme persona hugely erotic and sexy and I like having complete control over him