The Heart of the Dominatrix

By Inanna Justice

This book is about female domination.

This book is about dark corners, both physically and psychologically.

This book is for you, whether you're a beginner or have decades of experience with BDSM, whether you're eager to learn more about power exchange dynamics or are simply interested in relationships and the aesthetics of this worl

• Language: English
• Publisher: Inanna Justice
• Release date: Aug 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9782958471408

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THE HEART OF THE DOMINATRIX

PORTRAITS AND INTERVIEWS OF EXCEPTIONAL MISTRESSES

COMPILED BY

INANNA JUSTICE

The Heart of the Dominatrix:

Portraits and Interviews of Exceptional Mistresses

Copyright © 2022 by Inanna Justice. All rights reserved.

No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, without permission in writing from the author or publisher.

CONTENTS

Introduction

Methodology

Lady Vyra

Ezada Sinn

Lady Daria

Mistress Carol

Miss Foxx

Lady Vi (Satanatrix)

Maîtresse Maylis

Mistress Baton

Fetish Queen Hinako

Karen Chessman

Empress Katana

Mistress Elis Euryale

Milady Blanche

Sadistic Coach Master Lady L

Goddess Cleo

Domina Goddess Jaguar

Pramila Ganguly

Lunatika

Madame Margherite

Governess Katherine Worthington

Nurse Zoé

Photo credits

Acknowledgments

Bonus: Inanna Justice

INTRODUCTION

This project started on a whim. I was having dinner with two dear Dominatrix friends and discussing our current and upcoming projects. Both are writers, and I’m an avid bookworm with a degree in literature. I threw out the idea that maybe it would be interesting to write a book featuring women in the marvelous world of BDSM. After mulling it over for about 32 seconds, I decided that it would be an exciting experience… if I could find women who were open to participating, that is. I reached out to a few Dommes I know in France and elsewhere and received plenty of positive feedback. The decision was made: I was going to write a book.

Truth be told, I’ve done little writing up until this point, and my role was that of an editor. If the process interests you, you can read more about that in methodology.

When I started this project, I had several goals, but first and foremost was the desire to unite women. I do this in many ways, including a monthly Domme dinner in Paris, event organization, and workshops on safety and prevention. There are few things I enjoy more than watching a group of ladies come together for a specific goal: hone their skills in the dungeon, have a meal together and share stories, or attend a play party. This book allowed me to do that on an international level, with hopes of showing how vast the world of BDSM truly is.

I also wanted to highlight the diversity of what we do. We are not all whip-wielding, latex-clad Amazons so often depicted in pop culture. On the contrary, our styles and preferences are as diverse as snowflakes. Some of us adore impact play, others don’t. Some of us wear leather, some are vegan. Some of us enjoy blood, others are turned off just by the thought of it. What we have in common is a need to exercise our power and to show the world our strength.

One question that particularly interested me was for women who had immigrated to other countries: how does your culture shape your style of domination? I grew up in the United States and immigrated to France in 2016. My views on female domination and my style are certainly different from many of my French colleagues, as is how I conduct my business. My cultural history is not the same and certainly plays a role in my FemDom philosophy. Several women in the book live in countries other than their birthplace, and I was intrigued to read how they feel that plays a role in their style of domination.

Why I chose these women

I wanted to focus on women known for a certain practice to highlight how diverse female domination is. While some of the women in the book are very well-known, I also included others slightly off-the-radar. I didn’t want this to be a book showing only the most prominent social media stars, although it’s hard not to include some of them, as they have truly made their mark as The Queen of XYZ.

They all had one point in common: they are recognized for mastering (mistressing?) their art. Whether it’s animal training or heavy bondage, hypnosis or FinDom, each of these women has found her niche and has taken it to another level. And, of course, they are all passionate about female domination.

I also wanted to feature women from around the globe. Certain countries are better known for FemDom: England, the USA, and Germany are generally the ones that come to mind first. But how about less-represented regions? India, Japan, and Mexico are not necessarily places that come to mind, yet female domination and BDSM certainly exist there.

It has been an incredible learning process, and I am so thankful to finally be at this point, writing this introduction, the chapters edited, the photos chosen, and ready to send off to print. I could never have imagined the work involved, but I am thrilled at the result. I hope you will be, as well.

A little disclaimer: I believe that all of these women are safe in their practices, but I haven’t yet had the opportunity to visit their dungeons or play with them personally. I cannot attest to their practices or ethics firsthand. If you are looking to reach out to one of them for a session, I invite you to do your research, as should always be the case when contacting a professional, whether for a BDSM session or otherwise.

METHODOLOGY

This book was compiled over 18 months in 2021 and 2022, during a global pandemic. It would not have been the same had it been written ten years ago or ten years from now. Our practices change, our access to knowledge and information changes, and the women in the BDSM scene change. It is a snapshot of FemDom at this moment.

Technically, I didn’t write this book at all. It was written by each of the women featured. That is certainly not to say that I haven’t spent an incredible amount of time on this. I had no idea what I was getting into when I set out on this adventure, but watching it come together has been marvelous.

I contacted each of these women and sent a questionnaire with 65 questions. You will notice that the chapters are not all the same length and that the questions vary from person to person. Some women responded to five questions, and some responded to 50. Rather than having it read simply as a Q&A session in the book, I reorganized their responses to be more fluid, as if they had responded to just a few questions.

I avoided making significant changes to their writing, but it was sometimes necessary. For example, change passive to active voice, reformulate a sentence for clarity, word choice to avoid redundancy, and other minor adjustments. I also made stylistic choices, such as the use of the Oxford comma. Overall, however, I tried to let their voices shine through. This book, after all, is about them.

In some chapters, you will see Me or My capitalized. To show superiority and respect for women, some Dommes use capital letters at the beginning of Me/My/Mine. I respect their choice and left this unchanged based on the wishes of the Woman/woman in question. Some also prefer to capitalize certain practices (Financial Domination, Pet Play…)

Throughout the book, I always capitalize Domme, Dominatrix, Domina, Mistress, Maîtresse, Ma’am, and so forth. In my view, these are titles equivalent to Doctor, Ms., or Mr., so it seems logical to follow this rule.

After editing, each chapter was sent to the woman in question for review to ensure I didn’t misunderstand anything. I wanted to ensure they were satisfied with my work before moving forward. Consent, consent, consent!

I then asked each woman to send me photographs, and I made a selection. I hope to do another book where I travel worldwide with a photographer to interview and photograph different Dominatrix where they live.

This was a truly remarkable project, and there are many other practices that I would have liked to include: wrestling, shibari, tickling, and many more, but that will be for another time. The world of BDSM is so incredibly vast! I hope you enjoy learning about these women as much as I did.

01

LADY VYRA

Engaging with different roles can give us permission to do things we would not normally do and in some cases, be transformative and healing. Role-play allows me to step into a fantasy world of my creation. It opens the door to experience things that are not possible in real life and it has the potential to free us from restrictive thought patterns.

Name: Lady Vyra

Preferred honorific: Mistress

Origins: USA

Location: Berlin, Germany

Specialties: Sensual BDSM, Role Play, Toilet Training/Scat

Website: ladyvyra.com

Photo of Lady Vyra

How did you get started in the BDSM scene?

When I look back, I realize there have always been elements of BDSM in my personal life. I played with it as soon as I started experimenting with my sexuality, although I didn’t use that term at the time, and it would be a long time before I learned what BDSM was. My official start was nine years ago when I went to a play party for the first time. A few days later, I enrolled in a week-long intensive workshop; from there, I couldn’t stop! I delved into it pretty deeply after I made that first step. It felt so natural; I wondered why it had taken me so long to do so.

As a child, I had sensory deprivation fantasies and enjoyed certain types of sweet pain. I remember liking to wear a plastic Halloween mask and push powdered Kraft Parmesan cheese through the small mouth hole in it. The raspy saltiness of the cheese on my tongue, paired with the soft crunch sound that echoed in the plastic mask, gave me a tingle that seems very kinky when I think about it. I did nipple play with the first person I kissed. It is as if I discovered my love of seeing someone in pain for my pleasure at the same time that my own sexuality was budding.

Photo of Lady Vyra

I realized my feminine power as I discovered and felt empowered in my body and through my desires. It started in my teens as I started exploring my sexuality and kinks, even though I didn’t realize yet that my desires were kinky. Recognizing and coming into my power is a journey; I am constantly discovering different aspects of it.

I was always fascinated with FemDom and the figure of the Dominatrix. I met a lot of professional sex workers in the workshops and play parties that I went to and was curious about their work. I asked questions, and the idea of going pro was attractive, but I was nervous. One day, a friend told me that she had started working at a studio and there was an opening. That was the little push I needed. I went for an interview and started working there shortly after. Some initial reasons for going pro were that it seemed like it would be a fun side job and a great way to make money. Of course, now that I have been doing it for a few years, there are many more reasons that I do it professionally. BDSM was already an important part of my private life, and it seemed like doing this as a job would be a natural way to incorporate more play and pleasure into my life.

My first paid session was mind-blowing. I remember it very clearly. It was actually a scat session! Scat was something I hadn’t tried before I started working as a pro-Domme. Of course, I had heard about it, but I was pretty sure that it was something I would never try. I thought, Okay, I’ll do it once to see how it is and can always decide not to do it again if I don’t like it. I remember how nervous I was before the session started and I can barely remember what we did leading up to the grand finale. But I clearly remember how powerful I felt as I stood over the client, lifted my skirt, then began slowly lowering myself down… What a rush!

Photo of Lady Vyra

Being a pro-Domme comes with no official credentials or diploma, so one’s knowledge and expertise are often not recognized. This lack of acknowledgment can be tough. We interact with a lot of people and their different desires, needs, and reasons for booking a session. This can be a lot to navigate but is very rewarding in the end.

My kinks give me inspiration and interesting stories. I learn a lot about people and what moves them. My clients or people I play with at a party are often people I would probably never meet in my private life. This has opened my mind to different experiences and helped me become a more empathetic person.

That said, I feel that sensual domination is sometimes not respected or seen as real domination. There is the belief that incorporating elements of sensuality into a session detracts

from the power dynamic, which is simply not the case. I love to use my body. As a dancer, movement excites me, and I enjoy incorporating touch into a session and observing how the body reacts. There are many different ways to express one’s dominance. Using sensuality and the body as a sensual Dominatrix does is a refined skill.

Role-play can be challenging or even embarrassing for some people. There is the fear that it will be difficult to go with the flow or that one will not know what to do or say at the right moment. But I believe that role-play can take us to very deep places. Engaging with different roles can permit us to do things we would not normally do and in some cases, be transformative and healing. Role-play allows me to step into a fantasy world of my creation. It opens the door to experience things that are not possible in real life, and it has the potential to free us from restrictive thought patterns.

Photo of Lady Vyra

There is the misconception that a toilet training/scat session will be too extreme or too dirty. I have had many scat sessions, and no two people’s desires are exactly alike. This kink is often related to a deep desire to worship and I see scat sessions as the ultimate form of devotion. The taboo and extreme kinkiness of toilet training/scat sessions excite me and I love playing with mental and physical boundaries. It is not everyone’s kink, but it is very empowering for some people.

Talk to me about some of the projects that you have worked on.

I co-organized a sex worker unconference that was amazing. I work at a great studio and feel lucky to have a network of so many colleagues, but that is not the case for everyone. The unconference was a way to bring people together and create networks for those that don’t have one because they work alone.

Splishy Sploshy is a project I am doing with another Dominatrix. We both love sploshing (playing with food), but noticed that there seems to be a focus on gooey, slimy videos. We were interested in creating beautiful, aesthetic sploshing videos with us sitting on gorgeously frosted cakes, rubbing cupcakes on each other, and playing with fruit. I completed hypnosis training a few months ago and would like to incorporate that into some of my sessions and offer kinky hypnosis audio files in the future. I am also learning 3-D modeling and would love to use that in my Domme work, as well. Perhaps I will create some virtual reality JOI (jerk off instructions)?

What is the one piece of advice you would give to a woman starting a career as a Domme?

I have two pieces of advice:

Respect your boundaries – Do not cross your limits for any amount of money. You do not owe anyone anything, you define your work and are allowed to set your limits the way you want to.

Take notes. This is great for reflecting on what happens in sessions and will help you build a good clientele. Your regulars will appreciate you remembering their kinks.

In the beginning, it was challenging to get over my perfectionism and it took time to trust that I had the skills to do this professionally. Screening clients was also interesting, learning to distinguish serious from non-serious requests. When one is starting out, it takes a bit of time before developing that radar.

Photo of Lady Vyra

Is being a Dominatrix intrinsically political?

It can be, although it’s hard to say yes or no. There are days when it feels like a job, just like any other. This is perhaps the most political part – seeing this as work, recognizing that sex work is work.

People often think that what we do is not serious work or that it is easy money. What might sound like a high hourly rate might not be so high when studio rent, advertising costs, taxes, toys, and outfits are taken into account, but the worst thing is the cleaning and sanitizing of the room and toys – it just takes a lot of time!

What brings you fulfillment in your work?

It is creative, erotic, and makes me feel powerful. It is work that allows me to use all of my different skills – I think everything I have done up until this moment comes together in this job. The longer I do pro-Domme work, the more it becomes clear what I have to offer. I discover new kinks in sessions and always have new experiences, which keeps me engaged and interested. Being a professional Domina has made me a more empathetic, interesting, and playful person. Over the past few years, I’ve had the opportunity to play with people I may never have met outside the studio, and this has given me some of the most beautiful and intense moments I’ve experienced.

Each session is unique and sparked by the chemistry between two people. I love the surprise of discovering new kinks through my guests, which has opened my mind and expanded my own desires.

Photo of Lady Vyra

How does your job affect your relationships outside of the dungeon?

Doing this as a job has enriched my relationships as I am aware of my limits and can clearly set them. For example, I try to no longer make space for relationships that do not bring me joy or where I do not feel appreciated. I am open to people I date about my work, but it is important