HIS Bride: I am HIS... He is mine

By Kina N. Arnold, D.Min., J.D.

His Bride explores a plethora of themes that can carefully serve as catalysts for transparent conversations in various demographics, youth and young adult groups, workshops, coffee houses, and even in one's individual prayer time and mediation. God requires us to submit to HIM first as His Bride before becoming his Bride. We must ask ourselves some hard questions:
Is God truly my Adonai. The Lord my master?
Am I ready for an authentic marriage covenant?
Am I looking for a Savior in a husband?
Am I really who HE is dating?

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Jan 24, 2023
• ISBN: 9780970876515

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Title

My beloved is mine,

and I am HIS…

Song of Solomon 2:16

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HIS Bride

I am His….He is mine

Kina N. Arnold

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P.O. Box 208245, Chicago, Illinois 60620-8245

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Table of Contents

TO LOVE

DEDICATION

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

MY LOVE

IN THE BEGINNING

INTRODUCTION

PHASE 1 ENCOUNTERING MY DESTINY:

Where is the Love of my Life?

PHASE 2 THE COURTSHIP:

At Last, My Love? is Here

PHASE 3 THE ENGAGEMENT:

My Rock is Hot!

PHASE 4 THE PREPARATION FOR MARRIAGE:

In-2-Me-See

PHASE 5 THE VOWS OF COVENANT:

Yes, I do, I DO!

PHASE 6 THE COVENANT:

Sweet Communion

PHASE 7 THE CONSUMMATION:

Let's Get It On!

PHASE 8 THE GLORY OF HIS COVENANT REVEALED:

In and Through Us!

PHASE 9 YOU, ME, AND BABY MAKES THREE:

Fruitful Childless Covenant

EPILOGUE

COVENANT ENRICHMENT RESOURCES

APPENDIX A: COVENANT LESSONS FROM THE SCRIPTURES

APPENDIX B: COVENANT PLANNING GUIDE

1.A Sample Planning Calendar

2.Chart on Wedding Event vs Covenant Ceremony

3.Economical Resources for the Party-Planner-Bride

APPENDIX C: NEWLYWED’S 1ST CHRISTMAS

APPENDIX D: DAILY VITAMINS FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP

APPENDIX E: DECLARATIONS FOR MY CHRISTIAN BROTHER, MY FRIEND, MY SPOUSE, MY LOVER

To Love....

My Pastor, Prophet, Provider, and Protector, Confidante, Encourager — Big G — because you are secure in who you are — as a son of God, a man of HIS standard, a husband with immeasurable depth and my best friend you have freed me to just be me. You know the tears behind each word of this book. Thank you for your unwavering support.

I Will Love U Forever (and that’s a really long time),

Beautiful

Dedication

To my Soaring Eagle Sista, my Dear Friend, my Divine 9 sister, a Fire-starter in the Spirit, a Warrior for Christ, a Phenomenal Preacher, a Gifted Teacher and a Studious Learner,

GINA NICOLE GRAY

You were the first to prophesy that this book would be and yet you did not see it materialize in the natural, but you knew in the Spirit. I thank you for being HIS mouthpiece that spoke the conception of this spiritual baby for the world to read. You sharpened my iron in friendship, business and ministry. Little did we both know that our journey together would pause so suddenly.... I was so unprepared but, yet you were. So, in that, I learned the lesson that to be prepared for my destiny in HIM is to do as HE commands, faithfully and wholeheartedly, with every pulsating breath.

Just as you have done, I pray too to soar in the path HE lays before me only to hear the same words Jesus lovingly spoke to you at Heaven’s gate: My child, thou good and faithful servant, well done.

Acknowledgments

Apostle Dad and Pastor Mom, H. Daniel and Beverly Wilson: Thank you for honoring us with your gifts of counsel and wisdom before, during, and after our covenant ceremony. We were so blessed and honored to have you there but, most importantly, to usher us into our new season of life.

Pastor Arlene Farmer and the House of Prayer and Healing Apostolic Faith Church family: My husband is so awesome because of your loving, supportive and nurturing environment. Thank you for aiding in his walk with Christ and welcoming me into your church family.

The Broadview Baptist Church Marriage Ministry: We thank you for the intense conversations, homework and strength from over 100 years of marriage expertise that counseled us every Monday night for 13 weeks. It is because of this awesome class that Monday night continues to be date night.

Deacon Richard and Maryam Olds: Thank you for counseling us with such tenderness and grace. We have taken heed to every admonishment. We desire to be one of your success couples. You are an asset to The Kingdom family as well as to the Christian Marriage Counseling community.

Helen Ramey: You were divinely assigned to walk me through a rough time in my life. Your guidance and wisdom, through the display of your faith in God, encouraged me through my pain and confusion and enabled me to do the seemingly impossible: to forgive and live!

LaKita Lorena Garrett: Chile, life has not been a crystal staircase for us. We have been through a whole lot with yearning for our true identities through our Earthly fathers. You are my bestie since I was 15 years and you were 13 years young. We shared so many things in common but yet we were different. We found HIS Shalom by resting in the healing arms of Abba. Abba loved you best. HE chose to call you home to Himself. I was not and still not ready. But, I am grateful for the time we shared. You are TRULY forever HIS Bride and the Queen of our Hearts.

Mommy — Carolyn Y. Nichols: Independence, Self-Confidence and an Authentic faith in God are gifts you role-modeled and taught me. I thank you for loving me through so many of life's challenges. Being your loving and supportive daughter is my greatest accomplishment and will forever be my honor. Love you forever and a day!!!

my Love expressed to ABBA is Worship.

my Love given to others is Embracing.

my Love reaching to enemies is Forgiving.

I shall love my husband as God has loved me: without cause,

without stipulations, without measure....

Endlessly.

In the Beginning...

In November 2007, I graduated as a soaring Eagle from the Ministerial Dance and Arts program, The Eagles International Training Institute under the dynamic leadership of Apostles Drs. Christopher and Pamela Hardy. I was engaged to be married to a man I thought was the one HE kept for me. My soaring wings were abruptly clipped… the wind was choked from my lungs… I cried a sea of tears when the engagement was called off. I was not expecting this just three days after I was commissioned to soar. Yes, I soared directly into the storm of my lifetime. It seemed that I would never, ever see the light of any day. But, now that the light has come through, so bright and clear, I cannot remember the colors of that hurricane or even the stench of its death. For eight months I was broken, torn completely apart from the inside out. Prayer, praise and worship helped me to see the truth of the storm passing. I waited anxiously and sometimes aggressively, for my suddenly to occur, as it did for so many in the Bible.

You see, my suddenly did not include marriage. I just wanted my pain to end. I erased the possibility of marriage from my future. In January 2008, I decided to take the vow of the eunuch that Matthew 19:12 referred to. It was just us four forever and ever: God, Jesus, Holy Spirit and little ‘ole me against this great big 'ole world. By the time this desert experience had unfolded, I had already had three failed engagements/marriage intentions in my recent past. The problem was that I listened to the still small voice in my spirit man which said, no to those engagements. Because I listened and obeyed, I felt that I was cheated out of my Boaz, whom I had picked out from my own limited, clouded understanding of what a husband was, what a husband should do and how a husband should be.

For 200+ days, I mourned not only the deaths of those relationships, but I also mourned the aborted relationship that I never had with my earthly father. Simply put, I was the surprise daughter that was unveiled during a paternal family dinner in the summer of 1989, approximately nine months before my biological father's untimely departure, due to cancer. The long-awaited announcement haunted me throughout my young adult life. The feelings of abandonment never released its hold on my psyche. As a result, whenever I had a disappointment in a relationship, those feelings returned full throttled. That was the additive to my 200+ days of mourning. The old wounds were open and new wounds were attached in the mix of my extreme disappointment. The depth of my hurt was much deeper than I could describe.

In 1 Samuel 13-15, King Saul had done many ungodly things. Even though God had given him chance after chance to redeem himself, God tried working with this unworthy vessel as the earthly king of HIS people. God grew tired of this king whom the people had chosen. So, God found a replacement king in a young shepherd named David, the youngest son of Jesse. Well, the Prophet Samuel was saddened by God's decision to remove King Saul even though the Prophet Samuel knew God was justified in doing so. In 1 Samuel 16:1, God said to the Prophet Samuel: Why do you mourn for Saul when I have chosen another? This phrase played sour in my head before I understood that God desired me to submit to HIS perfect will for my life. My pain was real like a two-edged sword; however, my desires were not reflective of God's desires for me. What I wanted was at the root of my tearful days and pillow-soaked nights. Deliverance after repentance were my portion to either accept or reject. That meant to repent from all ungodly vows that I had made and to be delivered from the soul ties that were choking the life out of me. Once this process had begun, my true liberty and freedom were in view.

These revelations occurred during intensive counseling sessions, prayerful discussions with Abba Father and honest conversations with some confidantes. One of those confidantes was Big G to whom I was introduced by a childhood friend. He became my prayer partner, my friend and one who would give me Godly wisdom from a man's perspective. With everyone's help, God did a new thing in me. God renewed my faith in HIM as Adonai — my Master, as El Shaddai — the many breasted one, as Jehovah Ish — my husbandman and as El Elyon — the LORD most high, who oversees everything.

God's relationship with me prior to marriage reflected my commitment to HIM. I would often say: But I have been faithful in this task, that group or this church body and God has not blessed me yet with marriage, so I don't want it! Well, being faithful did not predict my reward on my terms. I had to check my motives because God is not fooled. Galatians 6:7-8 Hurting people will always hurt other people intentionally or unintentionally because hurting people cannot make loving decisions. Hurting people live life through their festering wounds. My tears were no longer raging rivers, but intermittent rain falls required for my emotional healing. My fractured, esteem transformation into wholeness had come without any grand announcement....it happened suddenly just as God had promised.

On May 23, 2010, while I was preparing for my marriage to Big G, my First Lady, Pastor Beverly LaJoyce Wilson spoke the following words into my life:

The Lord says that even as I prepare for upcoming nuptials…that my heart Is heavy. Do not doubt what God whispered in my ear regarding is this the man that you would send to me? This is the one that I sent to you…remember those words despite the circumstances and situations that we may face. This will be the key in our marriage – being dependent upon the words god spoke to me. You are stepping into a new realm of revelation and understanding. Listen closely to the voice of the Lord as you prepare for your upcoming marriage.

Then, in the Summer of 2010, my dear sister, Minister Gina Gray, was praying with me during a prep (rehearsal) with Charisma Kingdom Arts Ministry. In her prayer, she decreed prophetically that I would write a book on preparing for a wedding for others to use as they make bridal preparations. I cherished the words that she spoke over me...I just prayed about them in secret and awaited for the Spirit to show me confirmation. So, it was during the Summer of 2010, while riding in my car that the Holy Spirit downloaded into me every chapter title that you will read and gave me the tag line that would accompany this book. It was in that suspended moment in time, I started writing....

Later, in November 2010, Pastor Prophet Phil Tarver spoke a confirming word that I must write this book on marriage because he believed that we [my husband and I] have much wisdom to share. This was weird considering Big G and I had only been married for a little less than 2 months at that time. What wisdom could we possibly have to give to someone else?

As I look back, I recall the decrees that Big G and I made over our individual lives, as well as our marriage as we prepared for the covenant ceremony on September 18, 2010. I can note the various times since our covenant ceremony that we have had to remind ourselves of the commitments that we made to each other. Not because we were having strife, but because life happened. From three close relatives dying within the first 4 months of our marriage to the endless attacks on our finances, we have stood the tests of life and remained faithful to HIM that united us. It was during those times that I found it extremely difficult to write anything. I was at a standstill. There was seemingly no fork in the road. I was in literary