This Is Not the Relationship That I Ordered: Empowering Abused Women to Recognize, Strategize, and Win Back Their Lives with God

By H. Michelle Gregory BBA M A JD

A woman’s ability to recognize, escape, and heal from an abusive man is greatly enhanced by the information, scriptures, and affirmations in this book, as well as, by the grace of God!

“This devotional was written with love by a woman who truly walks with the Lord. It will help you in your own journey. Well done, Michelle Gregory!”
Elisa M. Duncan, L.M.H.C, L.M.F.T

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Jan 12, 2023
• ISBN: 9781664270121

H. Michelle Gregory BBA M A JD

H. Michelle Gregory, attorney-at-law, mediator, and divorce coach used her legal and personal experience, coupled with her Christian faith, to recognize the abuse she was experiencing and strategize a plan that allowed her to escape and win back her life. In this devotional, she shares the scriptures that the Holy Spirit revealed and that she used to help herself get free from abuse and live a more happy and healthy life. In Psalms 118:17, the Word tells us that we will live to tell our amazing stories of how God has gotten us through the storms. Michelle now shares those same scriptures with other abused women in order to help them get free from their abuser so that they too may live successful, happy, healthy, and Christian lives without fear, shame, and guilt. Knowing that God loves you and has your back is all you need to get out, get through, and get back your life. Conceive it! Speak it! Believe it! Receive it! Victory!

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THIS IS

NOT

THE RELATIONSHIP

THAT I ORDERED

Empowering Abused Women To

Recognize, Strategize, And Win Back

Their Lives with GOD

Devotional Journal

H. Michelle Gregory BBA, MA, JD

Divorce Attorney & Survivor

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WestBow Press rev. date: 12/31/2022

CONTENTS

LOVING DEDICATIONS

FOREWORD

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

PREFACE

INTRODUCTION

PART 1: GOD’S LOVE, PROMISES, AND BLESSINGS

•God Is Love

•God Holds My Hand

•God Praises Fearing Women

•God Gives You Love And Eternal Life

•God Will Rescue You

•God Is Faithful And Loves Me

•God Destroys For Disobedience

•God’s Glory Is In You

•God Will Raise You Up And Bless You

•God Spares The Defeated

•God Blesses And Cures

•God Gives You Power And Love

•God Forgives And Redeems You

•God Makes All Things Possible

•God Goes Before You So Do Not Fear

•God Rescues, Redeems, And Forgives Me

•God Is Unchanging And Eternal

•God Wants You To Remember Him

•God Loves Those Who Love Him

•God Hates Those Who Love Violence

•God Wants You To Learn Good From Evil

•God Loves You Even When You Sin

•God Is For Me So No Man Can Hurt Me

•God’s Truth Sets You Free

•God Stands Next To The Needy

•God Heals Your Broken Heart

•You Are A Beacon Of Light In This World

•God Works Through Jesus

•God Is Your Safe Place

•God Is The Light To Guide You

•God Made You The Head, Not The Tail

•God Anointed Jesus And Every Knee Must Bow

•God Will Provide According To His Riches

•God’s Blessing Maketh You Rich

•Wealth Is Stored Up By The Wicked

•God Provides Everything

•God Thinks Big

•God Gives You The Ability To Create Wealth

•God Made Me Rich

•God Gives Wisdom, Wealth, And Happiness

•God Will Bless You Abundantly

•God Provides Good Things When You Obey

•God’s Word Is Alive And Penetrating

•God Is Light, Not Darkness

•God Sees All That Is Done

•God’s Word Is A Perfect Shield

•God Is Your Shelter

•God Sacrificed Jesus For Your Sins

•God Covers You

•God Blesses Those Who Trust His Instruction

•God Can Deliver You From Fiery Situations

•God Nailed Your Sins To The Cross

•God Shows His Glory

•God Will Do What You Ask

•God Seated Me In Heaven

•God Strengthens Me

PART 2: RECOGNIZING ABUSIVE MEN

•Dishonest Men Will Not Ascend To Heaven

•Verbally Abusive Men’s Life’s Are Set Ablaze

•Alcoholic Men Are Not Wise

•Good-For-Nothing Men Have Nothing

•Volatile Men Start Arguments

•Raging Men Are Unwise Fools

•Harsh Men Cause Tempers To Flare

•Mouthy Men Cause Fights

•Controlling Men Value Their Own Opinions

•Wicked Men Lie And Listen To Vicious Lies

•Adulterous Men Destroy Themselves

•Judgmental Men Believe They Are Above The Law

•Jealous Men Are Worse Than Cruel Men

•Greedy Men Kill For Want They Cannot Get

•Men With Low Self-Esteem Fight And Quarrel

•Violent Men Lure You Down The Wrong Path

•Lazy Men Do Not Reap Riches

•Drunk Men Lead Lives Of Sorrow And Conflict

•Abusive Men Gorge Themselves And Become Poor

•Abusive Men Insult Behind Closed Doors

•Controlling Men Are Mean And Quarrelsome

•Hating Men Are Blinded By Darkness

•Arrogant, Prideful Men Are Not Tolerated

•Abusive Men Say Nasty, Mean Things

•Violent Men Are Unforgiving And Unfeeling

•Cruel Men Are Full Of Anger, Hatred, Slander

•Thieving Men Prefer Stealing Over Working

•Abusive Men Are Coldhearted And Ignorant

•Men Without God Abuse Others

•Foolish Men Speak Inappropriately

•Devious Men Despise God

•Deceitful Men Love Lying And Evil

•Controlling Men Love Porn And Adultery

•Abusive Men Are Not From God?

•Controlling Men Love Money, Not God

•Abusive Men Pursue And Crush Women

•Predatory Men Select And Hunt Their Victims

•Abusive Men Choose Violence To Oppress Others

•Volatile Men Lack Tolerance

•Unstable Men Have No Restraint

•Unlawful Men Alter Justice By Accepting Payoffs

•Controlling Men Destroy With Their Words

•Malicious Men Love Wickedness And Lies

•Sinful Men Enjoy Quarreling

•Verbally Abusive Men Make False Allegations

•Immature Men Share Intimate Information

•Abusive Men Scoff Others And Avoid Criticism

•Devious Men Purses Their Lips And Scheme

•Warlike Men Despise The Righteous

•Abusive Men Are Stingy And Cause Strife

•Abusers Add To God’s Word And Are Rebuked

•Rebellious Men Are Rejected By God

PART 3: STRATEGIZING YOUR ESCAPE

•God’s Word Will Assist You

•God’s Word Brought Forth Jesus, The Liberator

•With God You Will Be Fruitful

•God Can Do Exceedingly More Than We Think

•Speaking And Mediating On The Word Brings Success

•Seek God First

•Seek God’s Guidance Before Making Plans

•God Has A Plan For Your Future

•Write Down Your Plan

•Pledge Your Plan To God

•Pray, Be Thankful, And Ask God

•Speak Blessings In Order To Prosper

•Ask, Seek, Knock, Open

•Ask God For What You Want

•Ask God In Tongues

•Ask When Two Or More Have Gathered

•Ask, Believe, And Receive

•Ask, Then Wait On God With Confidence

•Ask God For Wisdom And Believe

•Believing Makes Everything Possible

•Enjoy God And Receive Your Heart’s Desires

•There’s A Season For All Things

•Keep Your Eyes Fixed On Jesus

•Keep Your Thoughts On Things Of Heaven

•Confess Your Sins To Prosper

•Let Go Of Your Sins To Advance Forward

•The Holy Spirit Guides You With The Truth

•Let Go Of The Past And Grab The Future

•Wait On Your Vision To Arrive

•Press Toward Your Goal And It Will Be Clear

•Do Not Give Up On Your Goal

•Faith, Speak, And It Will Be Done

•Forgive Your Abuser So God Can Forgive You

•Pray Blessings For Your Abuser

•Overflowing Bless Awaits Those That Tithe

•Give To Receive

PART 4: WINNING BACK YOUR LIFE

•Winners Call On God To Be Saved

•Winner’s Believe And Are Baptized

•Winners Know God’s In Control

•Winners Leave Behind The Tormentor

•Winners Stand Firm

•Winners Remain Patient And Calm

•Winners Declare They Are Strong

•Winners Ask God To Strike Down Their Enemy

•Winners Are The Children Of God

•Winners Are Born Again

•Winners Are Healed By Confessing Their Sins

•Winners Repent And Believe

•Winners Repent, Return To God, And Cleansed

•Winners Release Their Wrongs

•Winners Forgive And Are Forgiven

•Winners Hold On To Hope

•Winners Exercise Peace And Self Improvement

•Winners Speak