Toxic Person: The Moment I Knew I was the Toxic Person

By John Miller

How to change your life such that it is no longer harmful to you or to others.

Author john miller shares his experience and offers us all advice on how to avoid being toxic.
John miller, an author, act, comedian, and columnist, finds after believing herself for two-thirds of her life that everyone was black and evil and that she was the only nice person, that he is the poisonous person. He saw this connection following a cordial relationship that ended and which, gradually, planted the seed of a new age. He wants to share her experience and advise about how to stop being toxic with all the individuals who share our lives, whether they live nearby or far away, with humour and kindness

• Language: English
• Publisher: Miller
• Release date: Dec 11, 2022
• ISBN: 9798215366714

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INTRODUCTION

AND IF YOU WERE MADE TO WRITE YOUR LEGEND?

To write your caption is a nice concept, but what does it really mean? From the outset, I am going to ask you to invest yourselves by taking a few moments to think carefully about this question because you are the only one to have the answer.

Indeed, each person has their own desires, dreams and life goals. In my opinion, writing your legend is simply realizing what you most deeply wish for.

So, to write your legend, you don't need to have your star on Hollywood Boulevard, you don't need to have a bank account to make Scrooge pale, or to have the latest red car made in Italy . In my eyes, writing your legend means getting up every morning with a smile, and accomplishing things that are close to our hearts and with which we will be aligned.

And that's why I put you to work by asking you to think carefully about what makes you vibrate. Whatever your choice, never stray from this dream and never let no one lower your requirements. You are able to achieve the impossible.

And in order to better explain my vision to you, I would like to tell you a little more about me and my background. There are surely aspects from this part that you can draw inspiration from. Do not see any pretension, I just want to show you how I took my life to the next level and what allowed me to write my legend.

In reality, the concept of writing his legend is not determined in time. Do not imagine that there is a moment when everything is accomplished! Writing his legend never really stops.

WHERE ARE WE GOING TOGETHER?

Is it really possible to create a tailor-made life? Am I able to make my own choices and assert myself? How to achieve happiness and flourish day after day?

Writing your personal legend can seem unattainable, especially when you start comparing yourself to others. At least, I thought so when I was still a child. For me who dreamed of being a professional basketball player, I did not understand why another was bigger, faster or more muscular. I only saw my flaws and told myself that, even if I worked hard, I would never have the pos ability to compete with them. And yet, all of this was what is commonly called false beliefs.

Today, as I write these lines, I realize that I have realized several childhood dreams. The first was to come and live in the United States. From an early age, I spent my free time discussing basketball and watching NBA (North American Basketball Championship) games with my friends. I dreamed of one day being able to be present at such an event and even of settling across the Atlantic to be able to live the American dream.

But that's not all, as I write these lines, it's a second project that I had when I was younger that comes true, namely to write a book. I was not at all concerned with the field of personal development, I rather had the ambition to write fantastic stories. However, the 3W method that I am about to reveal to you throughout this book has nothing supernatural about it!

These two examples are not the only ones, I could cite dozens of others! To be completely transparent, I am of a rather Cartesian nature, so the idea of believing in a law of attraction was completely unthinkable for me. You know, this law of thinking that you can get anything you want by focusing your attention on the end goal, by manifesting your desires without ever being in need, and by using the power of Positive thought ? Well, it is clear that it really works, that life sometimes does things well because it can take us where we want to go.

So the question I'd like to ask you is, What makes me different from you? Do you sincerely think that I have more luck or that I have the recipe to realize my dreams? »

I would like to tell you that I have discovered the secret... But no! On the other hand, there are tools, tips, advice, and above all a three-step methodology, which adapts perfectly to everyone and which will help you bring out the best in you.

After accompanying thousands of people all over the world, I realized that the same process worked and that we get amazing results for everyone. Of course, everyone adapts it according to their own personality, but whatever your plans, your age, your level of income, your origins, your place of residence, you just have to follow the exercises in this book to obtain concrete results. I know it sounds completely crazy, but whether you're a sportsman, butcher, engineer, restaurateur, student, mother or father at home, we all share the same doubts about our life project and how to write its legend.

In reality, everything starts from the stories we tell ourselves and I will discuss them at greater length in the next chapters.

I am going to give you a precise vision of the 3W method so that your life takes a turn. And I promise you practical exercises, accompanied by examples and concrete coaching experiences, so that you don't never make the reflection: "This book is super nice, I learned a lot of things but it lacks the 'how to take action'! »

DISCOVERING THE 3W METHOD

As a field coach, I realized that there were always three pillars in our life, whether to create our business, write our personal legend, or simply to be more fulfilled in our daily lives. They boil down to three main questions, all beginning with a W in English:

Who? (Who am I ?)

Where? (Where am I going ?)

Why? (Why ?)

They seem simple, but when we take care to answer them, they require reflection and they give real meaning to our lives.

I reassure you immediately, there are no right or wrong answers because they are only personal. They depend on you, your desires, your desires, your projects, your dreams, what you have in your guts as well. On the other hand, there is one point that is non-negotiable: these answers must be aligned with your personality. You absolutely must Make sure it's your intuition that responds and not your surroundings or your influences. Elements that we will see in detail together. Simply, keep in mind that you must act according to your own aspirations.

It is a journey that is not easy, I grant you, but it is the key to fulfillment and change.

I firmly believe that we all have the power to create our own tailor-made life and write our legend. That's why I want to get you on board with a practical book that will help you take action to make your dreams come true.

I say. I know that you have always been told to put them aside and this is also the teaching that I received from a young age. Maybe to keep us from falling from above? To have a hope that would make us suffer? However, I tell myself that we only have one life, so why not exploit our full potential?

To be honest, I haven't always had this way of thinking. I discovered personal development very early on but I didn't know how to take advantage of it, until an event that changed my life and made me decide to write my legend...

My job as a personal development coach made me open my eyes to my abilities but also to the role my parents had for me. I now know that everything starts from our personality and our childhood. For my part, I was a very calm little child and I was absolutely trying to do well to satisfy my parents.

But before getting to the heart of the matter, let me tell you a bit more about me. It is likely that it will help you to better understand what I will convey to you in the following parts.

HOW I ARRIVED IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND COACHING

I took the first turn of my life at 16, when I decided to throw myself into basketball by going to study sports and therefore to leave the family home to go to Dijon, at three o'clock. drive from my parents. The following year was simply the BEST YEAR of my life because I was doing what I loved most in the world. At this precise moment, I train every day, I have a mental trainer and my life is all mapped out: I see my career as a professional basketball player unfolding in front of me.

Unfortunately, life has decided otherwise: by taking an absolutely innocuous pivot step, I feel my left knee give way and go to the side. I see the top of my leg stay straight and the other part below the knee crooked, a bit like in a cartoon. Impossible to describe the pain to you... I find myself with a loose knee, immobilized for several months, at only 17 years old... First blow hard of life, but as my father said so well: "There are never any failures, only lessons. »

Today, I speak to you about it with a little detachment but it is true that at the time, I collapsed for several months. I was depressed not to find the same physical qualities, to have to draw a line under my most precious dream, and above all, to be in the uncertainty of the future. I had no choice but to listen to my dad and focus on my studies to secure a plan B.

So I discover the university. Being very attracted by personal development, I turned to a master's degree in human sciences with the objective of becoming a profiler and headhunter. I don't know why, but I had a real desire to understand human beings and understand how