It's a Baby Girl!: The Unique Wonder and Special Nature of Your Daughter From Pregnancy to Two Years
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- Why you need a book just about girls. The very different health issues, genetic predisposition, hard wiring, neurological and biological development of girls, including unique strengths and weaknesses.
- How to understand the core nature of your girl and nourish it through problems of crying, fussing, eating, sleeping, attaching and other key issues during the first 12 months of life.
- Warm hearted stories about girls and tips from real moms, and a preview of what's to come for girls as they become toddlers, preschool kids, pubescent and beyond.
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It's a Baby Girl! - The Gurian Institute
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page
Foreword
Dedication
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Girls Really Are Different from Boys
How This Book Works
Chapter 1 - The Girl Inside You
Gene Talk
From Embryo to Baby Girl
Is Your Girl’s Brain Different from Her Brother’s?
Is Your Girl Pregnancy
Different from a Boy Pregnancy
?
Will My Girl Be Okay? Ten Simple Things to Do
What Else Can I Do for My Baby’s Brain?
Chapter 2 - Her First Year
How Your Girl Experiences Sight
How Your Daughter Experiences Sound
How Your Girl Experiences Smell and Taste
How Your Girl Experiences Touch
How Does Your Girl Learn to Speak?
Your Little Girl in Motion
Hormones Already?
Your Daughter and Her Female Parts
A Few Final Words About Dads
Chapter 3 - Gazing into the Future: Toddler and Preschool Girls
A Short Introduction to Toddler and Preschool Girl Brain Development
Steps to Pirouettes—Your Little Girl in Motion
Your Baby Girl’s Cognitive Development
Gender Stabilization
Child Care, Preschool, and Beyond
Chapter 4 - A Baby Girl Is a Family Affair! Circles of Support
The Biology of Mother and Father Brains
So What Are Two Loving Parents to Do?
Where Else Can You Find Support?
A Final Word
Sources
Resources for Parents of Girls
The Gurian Institute
About the Authors
Index
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Foreword
Congratulations! You have a brand new baby girl!
Having a baby girl will change your lives in beautiful ways that you could not have imagined until now. With your new baby girl in your arms, your home, your relationships, your day-to-day existence will flower as they never have before. To have such a child is to experience ecstatic joy and humbling awe at the miracles inherent in the universe.
As with every great thing in life, however, having a new baby girl presents challenges. Before you had your daughter, people may have smiled, Life will never be the same!
Now here you are—life will never be the same . . . and a little help would be nice!
If you have received or picked up this book, you might be wondering
• How does one care for a baby girl in particular?
• What does this young daughter need?
• What are key developmental moments in her life?
• What are accurate expectations for her development?
• How are her needs the same as any child, and yet, also, unique to her as an individual girl?
All of us at the Gurian Institute are devoted to providing science-based and life-affirming answers to parents’ questions about how to raise their children. In this book, you’ll find information, wisdom, stories, and fascinating science about your developing girl.
Dr. Stacie Bering, an obstetrician who specializes in women’s health and child development, and Adie Goldberg, a clinical social worker who specializes in early childhood education, have culled through the best new literature (and best old wisdom) on raising girls in order to bring you this book. They have also infused this book with their own personal experience with patients. Between them, Dr. Bering and Ms. Goldberg have sixty years’ experience in helping families of young children.
Along with their experience and understanding, Dr. Bering and Ms. Goldberg are also Certified Gurian Institute Trainers. Thus they specialize in helping parents understand the individual needs of girls and boys. Boys and girls are similar, but they are also different. I hope as you read this book, you’ll be intrigued by how wonderfully similar and different they are.
Enjoy this book and enjoy your beautiful girl. If you can, share comments with us on www.gurianinstitute.com. We look forward to hearing about how your daughter is flourishing. The world needs her passion and purpose, and I know she will make you proud!
—Michael Gurian, president, the Gurian Institute
From generation to generation.
To Jeffry, Cassie, and Zack,
Emily, Maggie, Chloe, and Robb,
and
the families who have entrusted their stories to us.
Acknowledgments
Baby girls grow best when there are more than their two loving parents involved in their care. Families thrive in a circle of support. This is the case when it comes to writing books as well.
Michael Gurian is at the core of the professional circle of this book. Last summer the phone rang and it was Michael. He said he had an opportunity. When Michael calls with an opportunity there is usually growth and a fair bit of work involved. Writing this book and its companion book for boys was just such an opportunity. Michael has a passion for making sure that girls, boys, and their parents are supported and informed as they embark on the parenting journey. We cannot begin to thank Michael for the advice, inspiration, and guidance he has freely given us. His generosity has not gone unnoticed.
However, vision alone does not sustain the writing of a book. Alan Rinzler, our editor at Jossey-Bass, assisted by his editorial team of Carol Hartland, Nana Twumasi, and Donna Cohn, moved us and the project forward with his editorial expertise. He has been more than patient with a pair of first-time authors. We have learned much under his tutelage and we can truly say that we are stronger writers at the conclusion of this project.
Over twenty years ago we began working together at WomanHealth, an OB-GYN clinic. Women came to us to share their concerns, fears, and dreams for and about their children. We offered advice despite the fact that we were still without children of our own. Five children later, we are wiser and humbled. We offer a special thank-you to the patients of WomanHealth who shared their lives with us. The staff at WomanHealth were patient with us over countless lunches. Their good humor sustained us, and their stories have made us both laugh and cry.
Pam Silverstein was the founding physician of WomanHealth. Her husband, Steve, and their children, Shayna and Josh, completed our families’ circle of support. We both cherish their wisdom, love, and loyalty, especially during this writing process.
Please indulge us for a moment as we acknowledge our own families, for they have taught us more than all the collected years of postgraduate education between us. Stacie would like to thank Jeffry Finer, without whom she would never have known the joy of parenthood, and her two children, Cassie and Zachary, who, even as young adults, continue to guide her in this on-the-job training that is the true nature of being a parent.
Adie would like to thank Robb for his computer knowledge, patience with the writing process, and his ability to still make her laugh at the end of the day. To her daughters, Emily and Maggie, who listened ad nauseam long distance, gave feedback on early drafts, and asked questions that continue to make their mother think, a mother’s thank-you and love. A special thank-you to Chloe, who, as the last of the littermates still at home, was asked to be the most patient with us as we wrote this book. She served as our memory bank, reminding us of stories long forgotten.
Our thank-you to each of our readers. You will continue to teach us and remind us that there is always much to learn.
Stacie Bering, MD
Adie Goldberg, ACSW, MEd
Introduction: It’s a Baby Girl!
Congratulations! It’s a girl!
From the moment you found out you were pregnant, the wondering began. Healthy? Blond or brunette? Musician or scientist? Your family’s athleticism or your husband Harold’s sense of humor? Boy or girl?
You and Harold had the name list pared down to three of each. Your Aunt Tillie predicted a girl from the way you were carrying the baby and your neighbor confirms the prediction when she noted your craving for sweets. The next few months and years will reveal the answers to many of your questions, but the wonders of twenty-first century medicine have officially ended the gender-guessing game.
The reason you know now is that you are thirty-five years old. Your doctor ordered an amniocentesis to be performed at week sixteen of your pregnancy due to advanced maternal age
(a phrase