Summary of Tony Stoltzfus's Coaching Questions

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#1 The asking approach changes the relationship between you and the person you’re talking to, and it forces you to listen more intently. Asking questions also redefines your relationships with others.

#2 There are five key reasons to ask instead of tell: all the information is with the coachee, asking creates buy-in, asking empowers people, asking develops leadership capacity, and asking creates authenticity.

#3 The Master of Asking schedule is a ten-week weight-training program for your asking muscles. It includes a 60 to 75 minute phone or in-person peer session where you practice on each other, as well as one exercise to try out on your own during the week.

#4 To build a stronger repertoire of life coaching skills, sign on for another ten weeks with your peer coach and do the exercises below. You can work on the exercises on your own and then just discuss the results, but you'll get more practice if you coach your peer through the exercises right in your sessions.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 6, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822531413

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Insights on Tony Stoltzfus's Coaching Questions

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The asking approach changes the relationship between you and the person you’re talking to, and it forces you to listen more intently. Asking questions also redefines your relationships with others.

#2

There are five key reasons to ask instead of tell: all the information is with the coachee, asking creates buy-in, asking empowers people, asking develops leadership capacity, and asking creates authenticity.

#3

The Master of Asking schedule is a ten-week weight-training program for your asking muscles. It includes a 60 to 75 minute phone or in-person peer session where you practice on each other, as well as one exercise to try out on your own during the week.

#4

To build a stronger repertoire of life coaching skills, sign on for another ten weeks with your peer coach and do the exercises below. You can work on the exercises on your own and then just discuss the results, but you'll get more practice if you coach your peer through the exercises right in your sessions.

#5

To convert a closed question into an open one, first become aware of what you are asking. If you catch yourself before you've finished asking, stop and restate the question. You'll know a closed question because it can be answered with a simple yes or no, like these examples: Is there a way to do that and still keep evenings for family. Can you realistically take that on too.

#6

A special type of closed question is the solution-oriented question. These are pieces of advice with a question mark pasted on. We want to tell the client the answer, but we remember we are supposed to be coaching, so we give our solution in the form of a question.

#7

SOQs are questions that arise from an intuitive insight. They typically