W.A.R. (Women in Abusive Relationships): A Spiritual Journey

By Dr. V. W. Taylor PhD

Women in Abusive Relationships (WAR). This is the perfect name because women in abusive relationships are essentially in a WAR with the enemy every day. Just like any war there are good days and bad days, but it is a constant fight for survival. This is a battle women go through every morning when they wake up until the time they lay their heads down to sleep at night. Each WAR is different whether it is neglect (the spouse is not home much and leaves the woman open and vulnerable), physical (the spouse puts his hands on the woman, throws objects at or in the direction of the woman), emotional (the spouse constantly puts down the woman, spouse is very controlling) or a combination. All of them end up being a spiritual battle.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 3, 2022
• ISBN: 9781664265431

Dr. V. W. Taylor PhD

This book is about a spiritual journey that was taken from the lowest point in her life to where she is now, all while attending school and getting her PhD. Her experience in an abusive relationship with children has lead her through a windy path with ups and downs until finally she reached the light. She used this low point in her life to draw closer to the Lord and guide her to this point in her life that she is able to talk about her experience and hopefully help others that are involved or have been involved in abusive relationships.

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Contents

Introduction

Chapter One

The Low Point in Life and the Beginning

of the Spiritual Journey

Chapter Two

Surround Yourself with Godly People and His Word

Chapter Three

Prayers

Chapter Four

Your Escape

Chapter Five

Follow Through

References

Introduction

Women in Abusive Relationships (WAR). This is the perfect name because women in abusive relationships are essentially in a war with the enemy every day. Just like any war, there are good days and bad days, but it is a constant fight for survival. This is a battle women go through every morning when they wake up until the time they lay their heads down to sleep at night. Each WAR is different, whether it is neglectful (the spouse is not home much and leaves the woman open and vulnerable), physical (the spouse puts his hands on the woman, throws objects at or in the direction of the woman), emotional (the spouse constantly puts down the woman, spouse is very controlling), or a combination. All of them end up being spiritual battles. It is a spiritual journey down a long, broken, and beaten road.

It is one thing to be unequally yoked in a marriage to a decent man, but it is an entirely different story if the man is an abuser. There may be some men who try to use religion against you or throw it in your face. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to their husbands in everything (Ephesians 5:22–24 NIV). Some men take this scripture out of context. This does not mean that the husband is the authoritarian in the relationship, and you must obey his orders. The Lord made Eve for Adam as a companion for the man so he would not be alone in his daily life; she was not made to be his slave. For women of God, this really puts us in an awkward position because we are being pulled in two different directions.

The first rule of thumb is that if you recognize signs of abuse prior to getting married, most likely it will not change once you get married. It may possibly get worse because he will think he