Beloved son, I am going to be your Father: Letters of an ''expecting father'' to his unborn son
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Reynaldo Pareja
Reynaldo Pareja, PhD en Comunicación y Sociología del École des Études en Sciences Sociales, Paris. Maestría en Comunicación por la Universidad de Cornell, Estados Unidos. Licenciatura en Filosofía y Letras de la Universidad Javeriana, Bogotá, Colombia. Todos los libros en español del autor se pueden ver y adquirir en: amazonbooks.com
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Beloved son, I am going to be your Father - Reynaldo Pareja
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Reynaldo Pareja
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To my Mother . . .
now that my wife has made me a father, I understand and appreciate what she underwent and how much she loved me when I made her my Mom.
I
NTRODUCTION
There are many good diaries
written by pregnant women for pregnant women, but a dairy written by an expecting father
is not common. Most men hide their feelings under the archetype of a strong, tough guy
. They forbid themselves from expressing them, even when the arrival of his first son brings forth a wave of new and profound emotions.
This small book has that merit. The author has allowed himself to write freely, without shame the feelings that invaded his heart and mind while his wife shared with him the impressions, emotions and experiences of the coming of their first son. He did this by writing letters to his unborn son telling him how he, as a father-to-be, was experiencing his wife’s pregnancy. In the process it became his experience of an expecting father
. There are many men, too many, who have not had the chance to confess to themselves nor to others what they have felt while their wives were pregnant. Probably because they did not have a chance to reflect consciously about such new emotions, nor did they have a frame of reference of another man experiencing those feelings and expressing them. This is the reason why this book may be helpful. It offers to those expecting fathers
a rich frame of reference, which they can use to clarify their feelings. They will find out how common these emotions can be when they read in this diary how another man had similar responses.
May reading this book help everyone value the Miracle of Life. The bearing of a child is judged to be so natural
that at times it losses the best it has to offer: a direct contact with the Act of Creating Life. When we have this attitude, that is, that procreating a child is no big deal
, we become insensitive and lose altogether the possibility of becoming fully conscious of participating in the renewed Miracle of Life when we become fathers.
Expecting fathers can and should participate consciously in this precious experience which women have had for too long to experience all by themselves. Men are also pro-creators of that son or daughter to be. Being present during the pregnancy, feeling it as it develops and sensing its grandeur will ultimately make him a better dad, as he experiences in a much closer, conscious manner the process of becoming a father. In the process he will be able to give his wife the precious support she needs to carry on her pregnancy so that it becomes a truly experience of growing Love for all three of them.
January 8,
My beloved Son,
I am going to be your father !
Today we went to the doctor. He gave your mother the routine pregnancy checkup and confirmed what she had being telling me. I had refused to believe the news until a professional confirmation had been made. You are three months old, you are developing well, and Mom is really pregnant ! According to his calculations you will be arriving around the 25th of June of this year. Mom’s prognostics is that it will be days earlier.
An overflow of sensations went through me at that moment. It was mostly a dream come true. It was the formal confirmation of a fact your Mom knew from the very beginning, but I had resisted believing for fear that she was making a mistake, and that all my hopes and illusions of becoming a father would vanish if it was a false diagnosis.
The doctor said you are three months old. Mom knew it since October of last year when she began to feel changes in her body typical for the situation: her menstruation did not arrive, she had nausea, vomiting, sleepiness, and unexplained tiredness. You have no idea how many biological systems have to go into gear, and what a radical change has to take place inside your Mom’s body in order to accommodate your coming.
We went to visit my father during this month of October where he lived, in Barranquilla, Colombia. Boy was that an ordeal. She really had some bad days: her blood pressure went up or down, and one day she had a splitting headache. It was so acute I had to call a doctor to get some extra strength pain reliever, but Mom insisted the doctor prescribe something, which would not affect you. Since she felt she was expecting you she has being extremely careful not to drink alcohol, take medicines, or do anything that could potentially harm your development. I loved her in a special way at that moment because she was so responsible for your wellbeing from the very beginning. She had really taken your coming very seriously, even before receiving confirmation of her pregnancy.
The only person we told about it was my father’s wife, Ines. She knew it from the moment she saw your Mom. One of those things women just know. It must be the energy reading, the subconscious communication, and the subtle signs of pregnancy that women seem to capture immediately. Ines just fired Mom the question if she was pregnant and we had no way of denying it. Ines was enchanted with the discovery. She even volunteered a name, Catalina, because she was convinced you were a girl. The name sounded so good, that if in fact you are a girl, we will seriously consider it as the possible name we will give you.
These first three months have been a real whirlwind of changes. Not being a woman, I can’t even imagine what is to become the receptacle of a new Life. It is an experience we men will not have, for we cannot become physically pregnant. It is something so personal, so intimate, and so radically unique, that only a woman can truly live it. Besides, it is a process so dynamic and changing every day that a woman is not even aware of all the changes that are happening inside her, even though all these changes affect her profoundly.
If I wanted to wait for the doctor’s confirmation of your coming, it was not because I could not rely on your mother’s intuition and wisdom to know her body. No. It was because the sole premonition that if it was true it would make me so happy that I did not want at all for her to be wrong about it. We had been trying to conceive you for the past year without much success. My sperm count exam supposedly did not contribute in making the conception because I was presenting a technical low sperm count
. Hey, out of 60 some odd million spermatozoids I was producing, one would have done it ! Added to this ‘apparent handicap’ I have had an intense trend of work, which did not give us much chance