Kingdom Marriages: The Commitments Book
By Milton Maye and Sheena Stewart
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He also wages war against another institution he knows has the power to withstand him. In the recent Covid-19 pandemic, the church globally was rendered dysfunctional in the aspect of its standard gathering. Ministry was redirected to the homes. The devil knows that strong homes are the final battle lines even if the churches should fail or persecution should scatter believers.
He is raging mad at families even more in these end-times than ever before. He is absolutely livid at Godly families.
There is no room for complacency in marriages; the devil is constant and active, never sleeping. He fights a merciless war, tirelessly looking for openings and a very strategic war; patiently strategizing to create openings.
His great agitation that ignites his fiery hatred is that he knows his time is short.
There is no room for presumption in marriage, just proactive commitment to daily activate the principles that make strong marriages.
The resurgence of the Jezebel spirit with greater ferocity in these end times is another reason for couples and families to be even more watchful.
Marriages are under attack but if we are committed we have angelic help in this season. Where marriages embrace the vision of Christ, Jesus Himself watches over it and directs the fulfillment.
We are mandated to take a workman-like approach to our marriage commitments for the devil is always, actively working to destroy it.
If you know you have deadly enemies, you are always on guard and you take steps to protect yourselves. If you know you have valuables that armed robbers are always seeking to steal, you deploy security and constantly evaluate the adequacy of your security. In addition, you never go to sleep without checking to ensure your security procedures are in place.
The commitments in this book are proactive measures to guard your marriage and your precious family from the evil directly targeting marriages from the spiritual realm of darkness.
We are living in the end times. The coming of the Lord is much closer than we think. With the coming of end-times plagues and persecution, it is very important that families get even closer together. You will need people you can trust and truly rely on when evil has free reign. Your standing will depend on who you lean on. The devil knows this and is ferociously against marriages and will continue to intensify his assault. Maintaining strong marriage and family relationships in these times must be very deliberate and intentional. The marriage commitment Bible is a summary of commitments and pledges that couples should adopt or emulate to keep the marriage fire glowing.
We recommend you use these pledges or modify them to customize your own. Make your pledges to each other in sincerity, sign off on them and hand the signed document to your partner.
You will then review these pledges periodically, assess how faithful you were in the previous period, look at your failures, determine adjustments needed and renew your commitments. For some, this process will be annually on your wedding anniversary but for others it will be quarterly and for others, monthly.
Couples struggling in specific areas will seek to review those areas more frequently than the others.
You will however, pray the prayers continuously. For some it will be daily, for some weekly and for others monthly.
Whatever your approach is, this commitment Bible will help you break your marriage vows down into an everyday proactive, prayerful approach that will consciously keep the momentum going throughout your marriage.
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Kingdom Marriages - Milton Maye
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ISBN: 978-9-769-61363-8
TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
COMMUNICATION
AFFIRMATION
SUPPORT
LOVE
HONOR
SUBMITTING
FINANCES
CONFIDENTIALITY
TRUST AND JEALOUSY
COMPETING & COMPARISON
INTIMACY (SEX)
FAITHFULNESS
TOGETHERNESS
CONFLICT OF TIME
MINDSET OF CHANGE
RECONCILIATION
BLAME
RAISING CHILDREN
THE MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR
DIFFERENCES
CHEMISTRY
THREATS
MANIPULATION
FAMILY DEVOTION & PRAYER
ONENESS
CREATING MEMORIES
ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS
INTERFERENCE
THE MARRIAGE BIBLE
THE BOOK OF COMMITMENTS AND PRAYERS
PAGES 175 - 197
PRAYER TO RENEW YOUR PLEDGE DAILY
WITH GOD AND WITH YOUR SPOUSE
PAGES 198 - 199
SUPERNATURAL ENCOUNTERS
-SHEENA’S TESTIMONY
PAGES 201 - 208
INTRODUCTION
The devil is on the warpath like a rabid infected mad dog. He gnashes his teeth at the church and tears apart anyone he finds he can devour.
He also wages war against another institution he knows has the power to withstand him. In the recent Covid-19 pandemic, the church globally was rendered dysfunctional in the aspect of its standard gathering. Ministry was redirected to the homes. The devil knows that strong homes are the final battle lines even if the churches should fail or persecution should scatter believers.
He is raging mad at families even more in these end-times than ever before. He is absolutely livid at Godly families.
There is no room for complacency in marriages; the devil is constant and active, never sleeping. He fights a merciless war, tirelessly looking for openings and a very strategic war; patiently strategizing to create openings.
His great agitation that ignites his fiery hatred is that he knows his time is short.
There is no room for presumption in marriage, just proactive commitment to daily activate the principles that make strong marriages.
The resurgence of the Jezebel spirit with greater ferocity in these end times is another reason for couples and families to be even more watchful.
This spirit has no rules. It takes down its prey in the homes and in the church. It is aggressive, manipulative, seductive and pathological. It is cold and heartless and has no compassion or love for anything.
The devil also understands strong families have a greater chance of survival against his impending end-times assault. He knows if he divides the family he could easily target each member separately and destroy them.
Marriage in these end-times cannot be ordinary nor can its success or survival be left to chance. It must be determined, principled and intentional.
The devil understands that if he divides a marriage, he has access to both the man and woman if there is residual bitterness. It also removes the covering guard of the couple from over the children. He will attempt to destroy them and divert their destiny.
Where the spirit of Jezebel is in operation, it will use the spouse it possesses to sacrifice their children on the guise of doing good, but in personal gratification or revenge.
These are the days when marriages cannot be taken casually.
This book is a commitment rule book for all marriages. It walks the reader through commitments to make and to keep that will not just keep the marriage strong constantly, but rousing and resilient.
Kingdom Marriages seeks to break the marriage vows down into daily commitments.
COMMUNICATION
The wheels of his car turned over like an old record on a turntable as he spun his way home. This time it was not spinning those oldies that he loved and enjoyed so much it was spinning him to the arms he longed for. His heart raced after the wind as good memories filled his heart. He could feel her in his arms, holding her, dancing to these old songs, his hands around her waist, his eyes looking deep into hers. For just a moment, time got lost in his sweet memories, the synergy, but then it gave way to impatience. He dearly missed her. He sped home.
The pillar of cloud he left behind in his wake was a testimony of the dry season they were experiencing combined with his excitement to get home. He was eager to reach his wife. He was speeding.
I know I am late from work,
he thought, "but it is better late than never. She will appreciate the effort I am making to get to her. I wonder what she is thinking. My phone is dead, totally dead. I would normally call to let her know I am running late but she will understand. I should have been there half a day earlier. If it was not for this client who came by the office and refused to leave, my job, one of the craziest things. How could I tell him that family is priority, I have to go? Would they listen?
I am so happy I have a good wife at home. She always listens and understands.
As he turned the corner, he saw the lime green house half a mile up the road. It was perched on a hill. He saw the driveway and his heart leapt. The well-manicured lawn and the floral arrangements spoke of the time and the effort that she took in keeping and ensuring that there was a good environment to come back home to.
He knew inside that, as at times before, his return would be extra special and she would be waiting for him.
They were well off, living above the ordinary but it came with sacrifice. He was out of town many times on his job. If absence made the heart grow fonder, his longing to be home every time was a testimony. He appreciated her even more and anticipated coming home every moment he was away.
As he got closer, his feet unconsciously went down on the accelerator. He sped up the lane. The car came to a screeching stop in the driveway and he looked, anticipating to see his wife, his beautiful wife running out to meet him as at times before.
He anticipated that hug; in fact, he could almost feel her arms enclosing him. He could feel her lips on his as she greeted him. Oh how he needed that! The day was very stressful.
He had been speeding. He knew he had exceeded legal limits just to be here; just for this one moment. He opened the door and looked. Yes, sure enough, there she was. A smile lit his face. He ignored the fact that she stood there, not running to him as at times before.
Hello Pattie
he said, trying to jumpstart that magic. Any moment now, but that moment never came. No smile greeted him. Instead, her face was angry.
Hi honey,
he said, trying to break the ice. Waiting, anticipating that warmth he was familiar with, that he wanted, that he needed, that he risked his life to be here for. That warmth that brought him home every time after a horrid and tiring week.
His heart sank as he realized that greeting was not coming. In fact, she seemed upset, perhaps even angry. He had seen her like this before but at most times she had exercised restraint.
This was different. The load that lifted from his shoulders when he entered the gates of his yard was returning. He saw her looking angry and the weight suddenly returned with twice its mass.
What is it honey?
he asked.
The response came back with the chill of an ice storm in winter. There were no frills. Why are you so late Shane? And why could I not reach you on the phone?
She did not wait for a response. There was no mood, no atmosphere for dialog. She turned and disappeared into the house as he sat in his car deflated.
Should I go in and pursue her or should I turn around and just go? Not now. I really don’t have the energy for this.
The children were asleep, or they would have broken the ice of the moment. What was he to do? Shane knew his wife Pat had gone into one of her closets. The rare moments where she would not listen, where she would withdraw for a time and where reasoning would be futile. The truth had no place in this closet.
She had already formulated her truth. The facts remained and they were factual.
"My phone was dead. I was late. It was totally beyond my control and that is the truth. I risked my life speeding to get here and that is the truth. I need a caring, loving, non-judgmental wife in this moment and that is the truth.
I do not feel like going inside." This was the burden of the truth of the moment.
I feel like turning back and disappearing.
Shane stayed in his car for half an hour with his head on the steering wheel. He did not want to face her and face the possibility of contention. The moon rose in the night sky and he felt that she was perhaps asleep. He slipped into his house like a thief, afraid to enter his own doors; afraid to be caught by accusing eyes.
He refused to enter his bedroom.
I am not ready for any of this.
O sofa!
Exhaustedly Shane walked towards her. He was greeted by his old familiar friend. She knew him very well. She had a soft and cozy hug for him. She would embrace his tired body as he released himself to her. In the comfort of her embrace and the misery of his marriage at the moment, he fell asleep. His sofa would hold him until the tiredness drained from his body and he was mentally prepared to face his marriage again.
The marriage counsellor nodded at a typical example of a breakdown in communication. The eyes for strong relationships spotted defects that could easily be fixed by defining communication boundaries in the marriage and agreeing on responses when they are breached.
The areas are:
Trust: love believes all things and therefore approaches all situations with trust. It brings trust as a banner into every situation of doubt or disappointment and listens with expectation for it to be justified.
Listening: The word of God clearly states one should be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. This applies even more to marriage. It is foolhardy to respond to a problem before you confirm you have one. This is a common mistake in many marriages that have caused irreparable damage.
Jealousy: This also was present in Pat’s response. This however contradicts love which is supposed to believe all things. The benefit of the doubt goes ahead of the offense to satisfy trust.
Forgiveness: This should be automatic and will cause couples to look for bridges instead of looking for offenses.
Patience: Going beyond your last limit at all times to find the rest you need in times of marital crisis.
Respect: This ensures your response to your spouse at all-time honors them and not your feelings.
Positive communication builds synergy and trust and makes it easy when dealing with tense situations.
This situation was nothing as Pat perceived and had prejudged it. Hasty responses can create problems when none exists or magnify problems that could have easily been addressed.
COMMUNICATION COMMITMENTS
• Commit to quality time with each other; to sit down daily to have deep, meaningful talk about different aspects of your day.
• Commit to undivided attention during all communication times, to maintain eye contact, to speak confidently and legibly with a smile and a welcoming attitude and to respond well so that they know that you are all ears.
• Commit to listening, to hearing and hearing, not just the content but the intent and the context before you respond. Ask questions in kindness and without conflict to ensure you have heard and you answer appropriately.
• Commit to answer with respect and understanding that is irrespective of the perceived fault of the other party. Respect is a personal commitment and must never be breached even if not reciprocated. Respect is a reflection of your heart, not of the other person’s. Respect creates its own platform and steals the show in the end.
• Commit to consistent communication.
• Commit to fill your words with grace and season them with salt so you will know how to answer your spouse all the time. Every conversation should make the other person feel good about themselves and about the conversation. Commit to give your spouse every good and kind word they deserve and compliments they do not deserve; more grace. Where the conversation is difficult then commit to salting your words with praise, tenderness, gentleness or a smile.
• Commit to begin each potential contentious conversation with faith, ready to believe what is being said; with hope, expecting the right outcome even when it looks bad; with a listening heart, ready to listen and never to react unless you clearly understand; with positive expectation, for what you anticipate you create.
• Commit to fill every difficult moment with patience. If there is any sense of disappointment or anger, then resist the temptation to fulfill the anger and kill the moment; rather defer the conversation to kill the anger then resume the conversation. Anger is a demonic imposter sent to sabotage conversations in marriage.
COMMUNICATION PLEDGE
I, (name), and I, (name), hereby commit to strong, positive and vibrant communication in this marriage, to speak to you with love and warmth at all times and to answer you legibly, honestly and respectfully in every conversation. I commit to allocate time for meaningful conversation daily; to listening until I hear and to respond to what you are communicating and not what I am thinking. Where the conversation is difficult I commit to season my words with salt, fill it with grace, understanding and forgiveness and to temper it with love so that peace can be maintained, and where tension sets in, can be quickly restored.
PRAYER TOGETHER
Loving Father, give us the grace for good positive communication in this marriage. Help us to keep this commitment beyond busy schedules. Give us the wisdom to build positive and consistent communication into our schedules and into our day. Where personality conflicts with our commitment to communicate, Holy Spirit, we invite You to intervene and to bring immediate resolve and eventual change; where arrows are fired by the enemy against our communication, Heavenly Father, send Your angels to turn them back; where there is misunderstanding, then Lord, come personally and let love intervene, in the name of Jesus. Amen.
AFFIRMATION
Now that we are one I have a duty to make you shine darling, to make everyone jealous of you.
And I you, my champion.
You have no reason to compete with me ever. I want you to look good, for you looking good makes me look good.
"You