I was talking with a good friend the other night about the power of being single. This friend had spent the majority of her adult life going from one relationship to the other without ever really spending any time being single. She honestly didn't know HOW to be alone. She always had felt like she 'needed' a man in her life. No matter how many times I had begged her to PLEASE stay single for awhile at the end of every one of her relationships she always jumped right back into another one. Until recently. After her last relationship ended very badly she decided to stay single for a while.
She told me that she was so much happier now and felt so much better about herself than she ever had. She no longer felt that she needed to have someone in her life in order to be happy. She was feeling stronger and more self confident because she wasn't basing how she felt about herself on how a guy was treating her. She was no longer ignoring red flags from guys that she was talking to and she is being more selective about who she is letting into her life.
Now I am not preaching that everyone should always be single. I think everyone should find their person who makes them happy. But your happiness shouldn't be based on that person. They should ADD to your happiness, not be the only source of your happiness. You should be able to be OK being single. But so many of us aren't - why is that?
In this podcast episode I talk about the myth and story that we were all sold and how it often contributes to our unhappiness and why I feel there is so much power in being single.
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