Voice , but No Choice

By Dr. Veloo Doraisamy

YOUR VOICE MATTERS
There will be a day, childrens expect to appreciate their
parent's persistence that they study their parents chosen
career choice. Children's
may constantly wish that they had
gone into the career of their choice rather than the field
their parents desired them to do. But the real question is
whether the children will one day appreciate their parents'
pressure to go into a selected career or whether they
will resent them, the real question is whether or not the
parents were right or wrong to pressure them into it
in the first place.

"Dont let the noise of other's opinion,
drown out your own inner voice"
-Steve Jobs-

• Language: English
• Publisher: Partridge Publishing Singapore
• Release date: Sep 15, 2021
• ISBN: 9781543766660

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VOICE,

BUT NO CHOICE

Dr. Veloo Doraisamy

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Copyright © 2021 by Dr. Veloo Doraisamy.

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgment

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1   Children Have A Voice But No Choice

Chapter 2   External Environment Influences Stakeholders

Chapter 3   Self-Knowledge: The Key To Great Career Success

Chapter 4   Beyond The Self: External Influences In Career Choice

Chapter 5   How To Help Your Children Navigate A Route To Career Success

Reference

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

First and foremost, praises and thanks to God, the Almighty, for his showers of blessings throughout the process of writing and successfully completing this book.

This book is also possible because of the constant love and support from the following people:

My wife, Mrs. Indrani, and my children, Dr. Karthiga, Diwyah, and Shanggavee, whose love is manifested in so many ways, especially their unstinting patience and understanding.

My friends and coaching buddies, Madam Nupur Bartwal, Madam Smita Kadam, Madam Asha Singh Bharti, Madam Rosy Barreto, and Madam Nadiya, for their support, participating in the interview, providing additional inputs, commenting on every chapter, and motivating me through the journey.

And finally, a special thanks to Coach Mr. Irfan, for his valuable guidance and drive for change and for making this possible within a short period. I know that will be as inspired by their stories as I was, that holding this book in your hands will be like meeting each one of these amazing people in person.

This book is specially dedicated to my late daughter.

You rest in the arms of angels

In a place of peace and love

Watching over me always

From heaven up above

I hope sharing of my experience will make a difference in someone’s life.

PREFACE

Times were really tough back (1969) when my mother single-handedly brought me up alongside my five other siblings. My father had passed away at the tender age of forty years because of an ailment when I was six years old. We lived on a relatively small island called Langkawi in Malaysia, tapping rubber for a living. I was enrolled in a vernacular Tamil school, considering the short distance from our modest residence in a rubber estate. Back then, those who have completed primary studies will have to move to Mainland Butterworth to pursue secondary studies as there wasn’t a secondary school on the island, which is now a world-renowned tourist destination.

Circumstances made me leave home for Mainland Butterworth to pursue my secondary studies, which were entirely in English. Completing my primary studies in a vernacular Tamil school did not help in excelling in secondary studies. The language barrier was a challenge, yet I swam through the rough times and completed my secondary education. Post that, I was clueless about my career pathway as I was not under a responsible-adult supervision to guide me through the journey of identifying my passion and making a wise career choice.

As young as seventeen, I had to work several jobs a day to make ends meet. Some of it was as a janitor, trainee carpenter, an assistant to an electrician, general worker in a scrap metal factory, and other odd jobs. As I was looking for opportunities to advance in a potential field, an advice from my uncle came at the right time. After much discussion, I agreed to pursue a part-time course in welding at a technical school. Having passed in flying colors, I proceeded to apply for an internship and completed my internship role as a toolmaker. I was quite determined to be a machinist and rejected various offers from organizations that offered me a role other than a machinist. In no time, I landed a job in a multinational company, and that very company is the organization