The Heroin Game
By Bevelyn Hart
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Of every one hundred players who start the game, three will survive, permanently recovered.
Those who have been swept into the maelstrom of their loved one’s addiction need to know that the bewilderment and torture they experience is shared by many. My story is every parent’s story, and there are thousands (maybe millions?) who need to know that what is in their own hearts and heads is shared by others. Watching your child die, whether from drug addiction or disease, causes the same feeling of pain for a parent.
Many “experts” may not agree with my take on addiction, but their methods have not changed the grim statistics. Personal experience goes beyond technical and intellectual understanding. Being the parent of an addict is like that.
A plea to doctors, addicts, therapists, drug treatment centers, drug companies, politicians, and concerned society: work together to change the grim recovery statistics.
Bevelyn Hart
Bevelyn Hart is a retired business owner residing in California.
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The Heroin Game - Bevelyn Hart
Copyright © 2021 by Bevelyn Hart.
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Rev. date: 03/15/2021
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CONTENTS
Introduction
History
Year One
Year Two
Years Three, Four, And Five
Years Six, Seven, And Eight
Years Nine And Ten
Years Eleven And Twelve
Years Thirteen And Fourteen
Epilogue
Notes And Emails
Thirty-three people will compete in the game but only one will survive
INTRODUCTION
Why was this book written? Sometimes in life, there are just things you’re compelled to do. Who did I write it for? For addicts and parents of addicts (PoAs) and those who love an addict. I realized that my story is the story of all loving parents who have been swept into the maelstrom of their children’s addiction and that the bewilderment and torture that comes with it is shared by many. My story is every parent’s story. And it needs to be told. I believe there are thousands (maybe millions?) of other parents out there who need to see that what is in their own heads and hearts is shared by others.
There is an important caveat to this tale; that this is my story, my experience at having a child who is a drug addict, my take on how an addict behaves, how they should be treated, what will and won’t work, and most importantly, the impact it has on the friends and family members who love the victim. So there is no right
or wrong
to my beliefs, only my opinion as I see it and feel it. Maybe it’s a take
on the problem whose time has come. I’m not a doctor or a therapist, just a concerned mother watching my son’s misery as he tries to deal with the situation and the system that helped to create it.
Many may scoff at my perceived ignorance, my lack of insight, my intelligence. But I stand by what I say. No layperson, no matter their level of intellect, can spend fourteen years witnessing the depths of addiction without having some worthwhile insight to its causes and characteristics.
These are mine. And if they’re mine, then they may also be the experience of thousands of others who may not have been able to put their feelings into written words.
I’m sure there will be many a physician, therapist, and authority
who will shake their head in disgust or frustration at this take on addiction. That’s okay. I can only speak for what I have personally experienced. This doesn’t mean that I know more than the experts
; it’s just that some things go beyond technical and intellectual understanding. Being the parent of a drug addict is like that.
Facts speak for themselves. I’ve been brutally honest about my experience, what I did wrong,
what I did right,
and where things stand today.
I will attempt to convey the pain a parent feels. We’ve all seen movies and documentaries showing torture victims. We all know about the Holocaust, medieval prisons, and the like. When you are a loving parent, you see the darling innocent baby you held in your arms, not an addict. Now imagine that baby being snatched from your arms, tied down, and being tortured. You watch while someone pulls out your child’s fingernails, burns it with a torch, and your child is screaming in agony. You have two choices in this matter: One, you can stay there and watch. Two, you can vacate the room and pretend to go on with your own life. Those are the only two choices. But you can’t stop it. Let me say it again. You can’t stop it. I made both choices off and on in the last fourteen years. Talk about having no good options. It is the most exquisite kind of pain that I would never wish on anyone. In fact, I believe it changes who you are, much as some survivors of war experience.
Watching your child die from drug abuse is no different a feeling than a parent experiences with any sick child. Terminal cancer or the ravages of substance abuse, the parental pain is the same. In each situation, the source of the terminal illness is not relevant to the pain a parent feels.
I have never blogged or journaled or read studies or joined discussion groups on addiction treatment. Not that I don’t advocate it, just emphasizing that this is what I’ve personally experienced, both directly with my addicted son and in society in general. This is not a synopsis of various opinions of others. For better or worse, it’s completely my story.
Here’s my experience with the education
process.
I started as a virgin—that’s how unknowledgeable and naive I was about the drug world. Not that I’m an angel; I just lived a very sheltered life in a very strict, old-school household and in a time when drugs were not as mainstream as they are today. I only used drugs twice, trying a passed joint in college. I’d heard of cocaine and LSD and mushrooms and other substances, but I’d never seen nor would I ever think of trying them. Today I am still a drug virgin. Am I polishing my halo? No, just trying to illustrate how blind I was to drugs. Should I have read up on the subject when my kids were teenagers? Yes. But I thought, never my little darlings!
I am sad to say now that I have a master’s degree in the use and resulting behavior in the abuse of drugs. It’s an education that I would have been happy to have avoided. Wish I could say it’s a story with a happy ending. Maybe one day it will be.
It’s important before we begin to define and clarify the terms often used throughout.
The statistic of the 3 percent cure rate
is used for expediency only and may be thought by many to be incorrect. Different studies show a permanent recovery rate from addiction anywhere between 2 and 4 percent.