Inner-Reflections: An Inside-Out Journey of Self-Realization
By Kamran Tork
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Inner-Reflections shares many of the insights discussed in Kamran Tork's EQ & Self-Reflective group coaching sessions and makes them available to anyone who is actively trying to break themselves out of the control of overactive mind habits... Through its series of contemplations, the reader will come to a greater understanding of their thought processes and respond more effectively to the challenges of daily life.
Kamran Tork
Kamran Tork is an experienced Executive Coach, with over 20 years of international work experience in diverse functions including operations, consulting and coaching in Canada, Malaysia and UAE. His core expertise lies in the development of human capital to enhance organizational performance. He has a deep interest in the areas of executive career coaching, emotional intelligence and mindfulness practices for leadership and professionals. Kamran Tork received his degree in Economics from the University of Toronto, Canada. He has been certified in a number of leadership development assessment tools including Leadership Circle Profile 360, MBTI, WPB5, CCL 360 Benchmarks, Baron EQ-i, FIRO-B, Corporate Mindfulness, Career Anchor, and Career Leader. He is a Professional Certified Coach PCC from the International Coach Federation ICF. He moved to Dubai in 2008 where he pioneered the introduction of Mindfulness Practices to leadership development programs. Over the years since, Kamran Tork has been working on number of leadership development initiatives with the government of Dubai, as well as renowned business schools and large international organizations providing executive coaching support to mid-senior level clients. From his base in Dubai, Kamran Tork has coached and supported clients globally including Insead Business School, Roche, Merck Serono, Weatherford, Nokia, LinkedIn, London Business School, HSBC, Nissan, Richemont, Lee Hecht Harrison, Votorantim Cimentos, J&J, Pepsi, Microsoft, Nestle, ADIA, Serco, Center for Creative Leadership, MBRPLD, and Ashridge Business School.
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Inner-Reflections - Kamran Tork
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Balboa Press rev. date: 10/26/2020
CONTENTS
I. REFLECTIONS
The Trees
Inner-Reflections
Oneness & Joy
The Inner House
Traffic
Litter
Burden
Loss And I
II. THE ENERGY DRAINERS
Preference, Attachment & Unhappiness
Indecisiveness & Procrastination
Stressed 7 Out Of 10
Fantastic Confusion
Mind Trap
Freeing The Mind
Being Present
Dead-End
Wanting
When Stressed Say I Want To Hear Your Point Of View
III. MIND HABITS TO WATCH FOR
Past Thinking Mind-Habit
Future Thinking Mind-Habit
If Only Mind-Habit
Controlling Mind-Habit
Self-Sabotaging Mind-Habit
Distracted Mind-Habit
Sticky Mind-Habit
Sparring Mind-Habit
Good/Bad Thinking Mind-Habit
When And How To Say No
IV. VISION
Vision
Going To The Dogs
Breaking Through Mundane
Soar
Career Progress An Inside-Out Journey
From Problem To Purpose
V. CAREER REFLECTIONS
Follow The Gold, Money Will Come
Career Transiton A Heroic Journey
How To Find My Career Path?
Purpose Driven Work
Good Luck, Bad Luck, Who Knows?
VI. ENHANCING PERCEPTION
Mindfulness Chaeges Your Mindset
Perception: How We Create Our Own Circumstances
Gold In The Negative
Are New Year Resolutions Meant To Be Broken!
Paradox Zone
Meeting Habits With Self-Awareness
Surfing Difficulties Mindfully
Solitude
Words
Past And Future
Birth Of Unhappiness, Ending Of Unhappiness
Spacious-Mind
PREFACE
Knowing Yourself Is The Beginning of Wisdom
- Aristotle
Stop and contemplate for a moment the ways our minds’ reactions impact every part of our lives - our work, our relationships, our health, our dreams. All are influenced by the quality of our thoughts and emotions.
There is not a single area that is left untouched by our minds, yet, for most of us, we know more about our mobile phones and cars than our minds.
This book is meant to serve as a map for the workings of the mind and its default habits. As we develop a better awareness of our default settings, we open ourselves to the realization of new capacities that previously were left hidden.
Each section of the book is designed to familiarize you with the hidden limiting habits of your mind and make them visible. As you shine the light of awareness on these habits, you can loosen their control and find new ways to experience the challenges you encounter. A liberated mind experiences the calm and wholeness which is what we all desperately strive for in these trying times.
After you read each section, ponder on it for a day or two, turning it over in your mind to see how the situation relates to your own personal life experiences. Use the My Notes blank pages to write your learnings and insights. At the end of each week, review your notes to see if they are beginning to reveal an even deeper awareness of the perils of handing the management of your life to the autopilot control of the mind.
Week by week, you will start to develop a true understanding of your emotional intelligence and have a new relationship with the world around you, as you replace the old default mind habits with a new sense of understanding, vision, and empowerment.
Come with me on a journey of self-discovery to find the more empowered you and the path to wisdom.
Kamran Tork
Author, Experienced Professional Certified Coach
SECTION I
41760.pngREFLECTIONS
THE TREES
After a few days of rain, the sun was out, beaming through high-rise buildings and offices. And inside, from behind the window one felt its warmth on the skin. There seemed to be more people on the street that day. However, that warmth could not disguise the arrival of the fall. Already there were fewer flowers in the gardens, and more leaves were decorating the sidewalks in their yellow, orange, and brilliant reds transforming the bare gray cement into a colorful tapestry.
Every now and then a breeze brushed through the treetops. A few leaves would separate, spin, and tumble down unhurriedly with poise - whirling, floating, descending, landing and some lingering there silently. The stronger winds were more unsettling, forcefully shaking the small branches, throwing them into a frenzy. In protest they made much noise, stroking and clattering their leaves and branches loudly, their whining continued to be heard from some distance away.
We, humans, are not unlike trees. Outer events and happenings can disturb us too, both physically and mentally. A comment, a smell, a noise or our judgment of an event out there, can agitate and disturb our mind, throwing us into a frenzy of associative and obsessive thinking. Mesmerized by their speed and repetition, and deceived by their authenticity
, we become vulnerable to their strong charge. The peace of mind is lost. Depending on their hold on us, we may prove incapable of finding the off switch. Have you noticed how some thoughts intrude and fixate your attention for hours, or spin on endlessly in spite of your best intention to entertain them no more? One may retreat to bed for distraction, some sleep or rest but to no avail.
Besides our thoughts, events can adversely affect our emotions too. It is not uncommon that our sense of well-being be at the mercy of an event with its peculiar feelings and felts. Some positive
, some negative
. For instance, as we leave home, a sunny day makes us excited, but no sooner have we pulled out of the parking space, the driving and the traffic can make us agitated and angry. A friend or colleague’s praise or positive comment makes us feel good, but their criticism leaves us hurt and irritated for days. No wonder by the end of the day we feel depleted and exhausted. As long as outside events and stimuli determine and influence our thoughts and emotions, like a seesaw up and down we go.
By now the wind had picked up. Looking closely, while leaves and branches were shaken and stirred in the wind, the tree-trunk remained unmovable and grounded. We can similarly learn to be more grounded and undisturbed in the face of what happens around us if we care to not inhabit our heads or be identified with its thoughts. By directing and maintaining part of our attentiveness with our breath or physical posture, we see that our mind and bodywork and influence each other. We discover that when we inhabit our bodies, the flow of thoughts, fantasies, imaginations, and worries do not affect us as much. Even more, we learn to work with our minds and not be influenced by each passing event. We can then participate in our daily tasks and work from this calmer, more centered but yet more awake, alert, and energized state.
Just when the surface of the lake can be disturbed by the blowing wind or throw of a pebble, below the surface the lake remains calm and undisturbed.
What thoughts push you off center?
Name 3 activities that reconnect you to the calm within?
My Notes
INNER-REFLECTIONS
Early in the evening as the sun retreats in the distant west, from behind the buildings a red moon stealthy and gently rises. Blushing and shy, no sooner had it appeared that it hid behind a thin veil of clouds, visible now and again from between the patches. Across from the parking lot, on a rooftop, the previous day’s rain had formed a pool. And in that pool hidden from the passer-by eyes, the moon floated, reflected, appeared, and disappeared. Very near, twenty or so pigeons sat closely in a row watching in silence and stillness.
If we could see our reflections in a mirror, what would we see? Of course, I am not talking about our outer appearances or reflections, but inner ones. I don’t know if you have done this or not, but if you sat as quietly as those pigeons and watched the inner scenery of passing images, judgments, problems, solutions, desires, dislikes, regrets, hopes, positive thoughts, negative thoughts, neutral thoughts that rush through one’s mind from dawn to dusk and during