Surviving a Hot Mess Life: And Overcoming the Neon Signs
By Faith Harris
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Have you ever messed up? Ever felt like a loser, a hot mess, or a failure? Does shame hold you back or put you down? Faith Harris has been there, too. Raised by an abusive alcoholic father and then married to an abuser, an adulterer, an addict, and a con man, she allowed shame to control her mind and her life. Through building a relationship with Jesus, she went from being a victim to a survivor and finally to an overcomer. In this book Faith shares her life story and the steps she took to achieve victory over negative, self-destructive thinking.
Faith Harris
Today Faith Harris is a very happy, well-adjusted Christian woman. After working in the professional world for 45 years, she now spends most of her retirement traveling with her husband, playing with her grandchildren, leading women’s ministries, and mentoring young women in her community.
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Surviving a Hot Mess Life - Faith Harris
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DEDICATION
Who doesn’t cry or at least choke up after watching It’s A Wonderful Life? I never let a Christmas season go by without watching that movie; however, unlike most people who cry at the end, I cry at the beginning. I know you are probably trying to think back to the beginning to figure out what would bring tears. It’s the prayers, remember? The movie begins by hearing all the people in town praying for George. I have always felt that he was the luckiest man in the world. Can you imagine so many people loving you enough to bring your name before God’s throne like that?
I have been blessed to have a group of people who have faithfully prayed for me on a regular basis for many years. When I have been at the end of my rope, not knowing how I would make ends meet, feeling rejected, believing myself to be a hot mess loser, these people have loyally come to my rescue. There have been times when I lay in my bed at night and imagined God hearing all those prayers being said simultaneously for me, just like the ones for George. I am overwhelmed and know I’m one of the luckiest people in the world!
I dedicate this writing to my husband, Neil. His love and support are heaven-sent. He looked past the hot mess years of my life, the mistakes I’ve made, and the scars that were left and has chosen to love me for the woman I am today. I also dedicate this book to some of my most devoted prayer warriors: Ann, Jackie, Carol, and Nancy, my zany friends whom I have met with and prayed with every week since October 1996; my children Hope and Jasper, whose mere existence reminds me that I couldn’t possibly be a loser because I have been blessed with two wonderful kids; my church family; my Emmaus family; my lifelong friend Amy, who was instrumental in my salvation and my connection to my husband, Neil; and all the other people who have come to my rescue when I felt the presence of a neon sign hanging over my head that read Loser.
They simply held a mirror up before me…one where the reflection was not that of a loser …but one where the reflection is a child of the King! My love and sincere thanks to all of you who allowed me to feel as lucky as George Bailey.
CONTENTS
CHAPTER 1 Obedience Training
CHAPTER 2 Can You Hear Me Now?
CHAPTER 3 Where It All Began
CHAPTER 4 High Mountains And Deep Valleys
CHAPTER 5 Making Bad Decisions
CHAPTER 6 Spiraling Downward
CHAPTER 7 Putting It To The Test
CHAPTER 8 Oh, To Be Adored
CHAPTER 9 You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Feel
CHAPTER 10 The Big D
CHAPTER 11 Father Knows Best
CHAPTER 12 Take The Plunge
CHAPTER 13 Develop An Attitude Of Gratitude
CHAPTER 14 That Was A Goofy Thing To Say
CHAPTER 15 Pass The Salt, Please!
CHAPTER 16 Is That Your Final Answer?
CHAPTER 17 My Happily Ever After
CHAPTER 18 Lessons Learned From A Hot Mess Life
CHAPTER ONE
OBEDIENCE TRAINING
But even more blessed are all who hear the word of God and put it into practice.
Luke 11:23 (NLT)
G od prodded me to write this book for many, many years. During that time I came up with various reasons not to. First, I’m not a professional writer. I kept telling God that He was talking to the wrong person! After all, I’ve never had any formal training in writing other than my college composition class, which was a long time ago; therefore, I ignored God’s request.
Besides, I didn’t have time to write. I was working a full-time job and two part-time jobs, what you do when you are a single mom with two kids in college. I was also actively serving in my church and doing volunteer work. Just when was I supposed to find time to write a book? I kept telling God that He was going to have to show me how to squeeze this task into my already overloaded schedule. Be careful what you ask God to do because in response to my protest, I suddenly was downsized out of a job I had had for over seventeen years! Because I was blessed with a generous severance package, I didn’t have to find a job right away and found myself with some spare time on my hands.
My next excuse was who would want to read something I wrote? Surely there were many more fascinating or well-known people God could use for this task, but He ended this argument by leading me to several stories in scripture. In Exodus 3 and 4 He chose Moses to lead the people out of Egypt, but when He told Moses what He wanted him to do, Moses argued that he wasn’t a good speaker and was certainly not worthy. He said, Please, Lord, send someone else
(Exodus 4:13 NIV). When Moses finally decided to be obedient to God, He was able to do great things through this man. I was also reminded that God used Mary and Joseph, two common people, to give birth to His one and only Son. Scripture teaches that God uses ordinary people, so the focus will be on Him and what He can do instead of being on the person He is using. All God was asking me to do was write my story…not save a nation, not birth a baby…just write.
Well, I had time to write, and I didn’t have to be well known or eloquent, but I was very distracted at home. When I merely started thinking about writing, the phone rang, someone stopped by, or I would have a strong urge to stand in front of the open refrigerator looking for something to eat. After examining the fridge and the pantry, I would usually resort to calling a friend to see if she wanted to meet at a restaurant for lunch. It just seemed impossible to get any writing done. Of course, God wasn’t going to let me get away with that excuse, either. When it was time for me to reserve the cabin that my children and I rented every summer in the north Georgia Mountains, as I was making reservations, the owner of the cabin asked what I was doing, and I proceeded to tell her that I had lost my job and for some unknown reason, included how God was