Psychic Standards: a Guide to Finding or Being an Ethical Reader

By Patti Lehman-McClellan

What is a psychic? Can I be a medium? I had a psychic tell me I have a dark cloud around me. How can I get rid of it? I don’t have six hundred dollars. These are just a few of the questions answered and workshopped in Psychic Standards: A Guide to Finding or Being an Ethical Reader.

Psychic medium Patti Lehman-McClellan’s advice to her readers and students comes from over twenty years working in the metaphysical industry. Her teachings include psychic development and intuitive reading. Psychic Standards will answer your questions as you navigate through finding an ethical reader or being one. The book doubles as a workbook with meditations and statements designed to lead the novice client or the seasoned student through the sometimes confusing world of psychics, mediums, and empaths.


Patti Lehman-McClellan is a small business owner in Northern New Jersey. At Angels Owls and Anchors LLC, she practices hypnotherapy as a CHT, with a certification in advanced hypnosis. She helps people with all types of difficulties, including heartbreak, chakra cleansing, phobias and fears, pain management, smoking cessation, past life regressions, and more.


“I have known Patti for over 20 years. I have found her to be of high integrity, and highly authentic. Patti’s work speaks for itself, and each client of hers trusts her completely. Patti is a beautiful and gifted soul” (Janet Nohavec, author, medium, and minister).

“If I had this book five years ago, my life would be profoundly different. I met a gypsy, and she took monetary advantage of someone in a vulnerable state. Psychic Standards: A Guide to Finding or Being an Ethical Reader lives up to the name. I know that Patti, and using this book, will help me right the course of my life” (Kate, client and student).

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jul 22, 2019
• ISBN: 9781728318837

Patti Lehman-McClellan

Patti Lehman is a Certified Hypnotherapist working with both adults and children and is a practicing medium and spiritual healer. She is currently on the board of trustees at a Spiritualist Church in New Jersey conducting Sunday services on occasion, using poems and inspirational writings from her book to enlighten people about spirituality. Finding balance in her life was very important, she is a former karate student and meditates regularly. In this book you will find poetry filled with inspiration and guidance as well as a few guided meditations to use for your own growth spiritually, physically, or psychologically. Please feel free to take this book along on your own Soul’s Journey Home.

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Table of Contents

About the Author

Foreword

Introduction

Questions and Worksheets

Q: Do you get readings? Who reads you?

Q: Do you read yourself?

Q: Do you ever need a reading?

Q: How and when did you know you had this gift?

Q Does anyone else in your family have this gift?

Q: Do you know everything?

Q: Is it hard for your kids that you know everything?

Q: Do you know when someone’s going to die?

Q: Do you know what people are thinking when you are out at a mall or a bar?

Q: How does being psychic affect your love life and relationships?

Q: Do your own family’s spirits come to you? Do you go to a medium?

Q: Do you see spirits walking around or near you all the time?

Q: Can you always get a spirit if someone wants to talk to them?

Q: Do our pets ever visit us from the spirit world?

Q: Can you connect with pets during a reading?

Q: What is my aura? Do I have one?

Q Is everyone psychic?

Q: What is a medium? Is it different from a psychic?

Q: What is an empath?

Q: What is a spirit animal?

Q: I’ve never had a reading before. What can I expect, and is there anything I should do to prepare for my reading?

Q: I had a reading once and the woman who read me couldn’t get any information as a psychic or a medium yet she advertised as both. What does that mean?

Q: I’ve had readings where the reader gives me a time frame and the event doesn’t happen. Does that mean it never will? If they are really psychic, wouldn’t they have known when this would take place?

Q: I had a psychic tell me I have a dark cloud around me. How can I get rid of it? I don’t have six hundred dollars.

Q: How do I know if a reader is authentic and not trying to rip me off?

Q: Can I get a reading if I am a Christian or will I go to hell?

Q: Do people really read crystal balls or is that just in movies?

Q: Does it matter what hand I use if I am cutting a deck of tarot cards before the psychic gives me a reading?

Q: Can houses really be haunted?

Q: How do I get rid of a ghost in my house?

Q If my parents are watching over me, do they see me? Do they know what I’m doing? Do they see what’s going on in my life?

Q: Why can’t I feel my loved one who passed when other family members do? Why don’t they visit me?

Q: How can I develop my psychic abilities?

Q: I have dreams that sometimes come true. Is that psychic?

Q: Can I be a medium?

Q: Can I do readings for a living if I practice?

Q: How do I know if I’m getting information from a good spirit or a bad spirit?

Q: How do I protect myself from bad or evil spirits I don’t want to communicate with when I am doing readings?

Q: I don’t feel like I know how to use the tarot deck. Is that the only way to read someone?

Q: Is there anything you have to do to get into the zone to do a reading?

Q: I cannot meditate. How can I relax enough to get the right information?

Q: What if I see something when I’m giving a reading that I am afraid to say to the person across from me?

Q: I’m afraid of my intuition and psychic ability because I only see bad things. How do I get rid of it?

Q: I always have bad luck and good things don’t come to me. I was told that it was because I don’t have positive thoughts, and I only put negative vibes out to the universe. Is that true? Can I change my luck?

Q: When I dream something bad, it always happens. I will tell people my dreams, and when they come true, everyone says it’s my fault because I said it would happen. Is this true? I’m scared, and I can’t help what I dream.

Q: I only feel - I don’t see things - what does that mean? Can I learn to heighten my other psychic senses?

Q: I have a hard time reading people I know. How can I know the difference between what I am seeing or feeling, and what I already know?

Q: I sometimes get overwhelmed by my psychic feelings and visions. Is there any way to tune them out and then turn them on again when I want or need to?

Q: Do I need to sit and face a certain way while doing a reading for someone? Do I need to use candles or incense or any other items to make sure I’m getting the right information?

Q: Does the environment in which you are reading a person make a difference in how well you can read them?

Q: Are readings better in person or over the phone?

Q: What’s the difference between a reading in person and one done on the phone?

Q: Do I have to be a vegetarian/vegan to do psychic work?

Q: How do I know if my child is psychic?

Meditations

Focusing Meditation

Letting Go and Opening Meditation

Grounding Meditation

Afterword

Testimonials

In Closing

Blank Note Pages

COVER ART BY TYLER LEHMAN

Tyler is available for graphic illustrations for all types of projects. You can view some of his work at

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Bubbles of protection artwork inserted in blank pages done by Dylan Lehman.

A Note from the Author

There were times while writing this book that grief and loneliness would overtake my emotions, and my soul would cry out for something fulfilling. Starved for affection, I hungered for the love of my deceased parents that would never come. I changed, and was never to return to the girl who was not orphaned. My astrological chart is all fire, which means I should blossom in the sun, not fade, but some days I felt like a parched flower, wilted on a beautiful day. I couldn’t quench my thirst and begged for loved ones to feed me, but I still felt alone. Most people just didn’t understand.

I decided it was time to nourish myself on all levels - spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

To take care of myself, I spent days alone in my hammock, nights having dinner and drinks with my sons, laughed with friends, and enjoyed homemade dinners at Mike’s. I meditated, I took salt baths, I read books, and I got spiritual readings, yet I still needed something that went deeper. I needed something that flowed inside me like a constant stream.

I also needed something that was mine and mine alone. I found those moments in my cozy office space where beautiful butterflies hung overhead as I escaped into a dream. I looked for answers in my cards of one-word messages, and I pulled the birth-card. It told me what I already knew, I needed a new beginning.

I went on an adventure with passion. I took my power back. I searched for myself again and again, and I found me sitting in the driver’s seat of my new red Jeep as I gazed out at what could be a glance at my future, or part of my past. I put myself first after years of being last in line. I bit my lip and tasted sugar instead of the tangy taste of salt and blood. I opened myself to the deliciousness of this life. I had to, or I would have died. I let myself have what I craved even if it was forbidden. Chocolate cake instead of dinner - I ate dessert first. I reached for answers to my problems, and there was lusciousness that found me during a bitter time. Godiva for breakfast - because who makes these rules anyway? I reached out for something yummy when it was handed to me. I drank the long Island iced teas, and felt woozy, but it allowed me to touch the hem of another dimension, and I relaxed into allowing myself to receive. And it fed me.

Some days I was drenched in delight. I was returning to life, to myself, to the me that I was before all the tragedy and chaos. I stopped running from the things I subconsciously feared the most. I welcomed the warmth of a hand to help me through dark cold days. Chaos persisted around me and I drove to and from in a haze, with delayed payments in pretty envelopes on my passenger seat all summer, which were finally delivered in autumn, with a smile.

Finding my way through the past four years was a difficult struggle, I was depleted of joy, yet still threw amazing themed parties with no detail left unattended. I hosted holidays to keep my family together. I gave compassion and empathy, and applied fervor to all I engaged in, but my soul got tired.

I feel blessed for all of the comfort I received in response to my angst. Thank you to the universe for bringing me the messages I received, and for opening doors so that all I needed to do was step through. I was asked to walk fearlessly and with self-care, so I greeted attentive gifts with gratitude - and without the guilt of receiving. For some reason, I’ve never been good at being on the receiving end of love and caring - I’m more comfortable giving. But this is my one life in this human shell, and I am ready to experience all the passion and deliciousness this life has to offer. I’m tired of depriving myself of the things I enjoy the most. I am passion, I am love, and I am caring. I am nurture, amusement, and succulence, and without these things I am barren. I had no choice but to open myself to something for my very survival. I had to reassess my life and be grateful for all the things that were presented to me in that moment. So I asked, I reached out for help, and when I received it, even when it was given with hesitation, I inhaled deeply and relaxed into it. I tasted and felt and smelled again. I absorbed the scent of every fresh cut blade of grass. I embraced the leaves blowing in circles around me. I cuddled up on cool winter days and longed for whatever new beginnings awaited in spring.

Fear returned as it often does, but I chose joy instead. Life is to be lived scrumptiously - there is no forbidden apple. Grab it, bite it, chew it, and swallow it, for it is soul food. Eat the cake. Wade in the water naked. Dance in the rain. Love who you are, and thrive. Don’t be ashamed of liberation or pleasure. Knowledge and deep conversations, moments of silence, and kindness are not contraband.

I listened to myself, my intuition, and my arrhythmia, and that was my answer. I needed me. My sons needed me. My friends, family, and clients needed me. So I embraced discomfort and it became a fertilizer for my growth. I am grateful to everyone who has lent a hand, who brought a smile when I was down, or who visited when I was stuck inside and injured. You fed me food and shared good conversation, hugs - whatever you had to offer. I am grateful to every single one of you even if your name is not mentioned in this book. You all know who you are, and I want you to know that even the smallest gesture sometimes saved my life that day. If I seem selfish, introverted, or unavailable at times, it’s because I need me. But you also need me. And if it’s really important, I will be there. I won’t let you wither and die. I love all of you in different capacities.

I am grateful for all of my experiences, and I am forever grateful for the last push that brought me to where I am.

So I say Thank you to the Universe. Thank you for giving me the courage to walk through said doors, to accept the gifts I needed at just the right moments - some moments alone, others shared. Thank you for hot summer days and the smell of fresh cut grass, for rivers and oceans, and for the leaves that fell in autumn that blew around in circles in the air.

Also, thank you for that moment in the snow, when I sat in my own head, and something inside me said, Hmmmmm. What were you thinking? It’s time to take the bull by the horns girl! This is your one life in this human body - live it up. No more crying. No more dying. It’s not time. So now I’m no longer just alive. I intend to Thrive!

Thank You from the Author

I am so grateful for everyone who has come into my life and inspired me to write this book. I want to leave a legacy, a piece of myself, and my commitment to the spiritual work I love so much. Somewhere, in one hundred years from now, someone may find something I have to say in this book useful in his or her own life. I want to live on in others after my spirit flies off into the ethereal world. I want to thank everyone who has allowed me to help you in any way possible in this life, whether I lent you a hand, my ear, or money, whether I gave you a reading or answered a question, or taught you in some way. In letting me help you, you have given me joy and have helped me on my spiritual journey here on earth. My purpose is to help and teach, and you’ve given me the opportunity and ability to do this if this book is in your hands.

Acknowledgments

I will be forever grateful to my parents for being the best parents for me. They were my best friends in life, and they walk beside me still today, in spirit, and have guided me through these past few years. They gave me life, and my children transformed it.

I want to thank my twin sons for making me laugh and cry. For being the very reason I was able to get out of bed some mornings while I was grieving or suffering from depression or anxiety. Dylan and Tyler have taught me so much about love, patience, and life from the time they entered my life, and still do as adults. Most of my strength came from being a parent. They are my motivation and the reason for who I am today.

To my sister Pam, for walking and talking me through my meltdowns and crazy emotional episodes. God made us sisters, but life made us friends.

Jim, without whom I would die! He is always my go to when I need a reality check. We have been through more ups and downs together than anyone could ever imagine. We have a book of our own to write, and it will be a best seller because you can’t make this shit up!

Thank you to Walt for being so good to me, even though we are divorced, and for Tyler and Dylan, and for being their father.

Thank you to Mike for allowing his home to be my sanctuary to write, since my home is a welcoming revolving door with a barking dog each time someone enters it. For the glasses of wine in the evening, and the coffee delivered to me in the morning, as I would write.

I am forever grateful to Janet Nohavec, who believed in me when I didn’t. She is my mentor and friend. If it were not for her, and all she is, and the love and openness of her heart, I would never have had the courage to be where I am today.

Thank you to Kathy for answering the office phone and booking my appointments all these years. I couldn’t have made it without you. I treasure the past 15 years with you as my friend and part of my family. Forever Ghoulfriends.

If it weren’t for tequila with Lori on our I hate men(musical reference from Kiss me Kate) nights, I’m not sure if I’d be alive or dead, and some mornings after I wondered this same question.

I want to send love to all of my siblings, nieces and nephews, as well as great nieces and nephews - you already know this, but I adore each one of you!

Thank you to my dear friend and soulmate Annette, who has seen me through good times and bad. Thank you for always being there for me in my crazy thoughts, and my happy times, and for always having my back.

Thank you to my friend Donna, who always makes me laugh and sends me angel numbers constantly. You have given me so many little messages from my parents without even knowing it! Ewwwwww! (inside joke)

I would like to thank my editor, Kathleen Leary, for all of her hard work and for being patient as I panicked toward the final stages of this book. You cleaned me up nicely.

Hugs to my best of friends for any help you gave during this time of writing and publishing.

To all of my clients who allow me to read for you, by trusting me to guide you. That is how I pay my mortgage and feed my family,

Thank you to all who are a part of making this book possible from the art, to the editing, to publishing.

Preface

Everything written in this book is based on my own experience and opinion. I have learned by trial and error as well as taking classes on these subjects. This book is not meant to harm anyone, including other psychic readers or mediums, but to help the people who feel drawn to me, my energies, and my readings. I also hope to teach others how to avoid finding their way into the chair of someone whose ethics and morals might not be similar to my own. I appreciate the different ways in which all intuitive people work, yet I cannot respect scammers and liars in this field. Not only do they allow for the authentic healers of this world to appear invalid, but they harm vulnerable and innocent souls who are merely in search of guidance. My goal is simple in that respect. I hope to shed light on the vast and growing profession of mediums/readers.

About the Author

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High school dropout turned successful business woman, Psychic Medium Patti Lehman-McClellan, CHT lives in New Jersey with her adult twin sons, her sister Pam, her friend Kathy, her dog, and her cats. Through the years, Patti’s house has been a refuge to many strays – cats, dogs, mice, and humans.

As a student of life, Patti has always loved learning, though she despised school. She would rather have gotten her information from reading encyclopedias and visiting historical places – especially if they are haunted. When a life altering tragedy occurred, Patti found the expectations of formal high school too constraining, and left before graduating. She took her GED test after quitting school, passed, and went on to become a licensed cosmetologist in New Jersey in the 1980s. Around this time, she began her fascination with crystals. When her very close friend Stephen was diagnosed with lymphoma, Patti felt in her gut she needed to buy him an amethyst. She didn’t know why, but she just knew.

She searched and searched and happened upon a small metaphysical bookstore a few towns away from where she lived. This store sold all types of spiritual tools, books, jewelry, and also offered classes in crystals, tarot cards, chakra balancing, and meditation groups. Here she learned why she was drawn to the amethyst crystal. It is a healing crystal. She realized at that time, that she should no longer do hair and nails professionally because she felt there was a way to touch people on a deeper level, and she needed to allow herself to explore this path uninhibited. As a hairstylist and nail technician, she learned a great deal about listening to people’s problems and nurturing them, so she knew she needed to continue to help people with their problems, and her soul was telling her that there was a different way. She is also a better talker than listener. As a hairstylist she listened and used empathy. As a reader, she has the freedom to talk more - and give guidance to help people change their lives, not to mention the ability to play and speak with spirits again.

Patti has also always had a passion for and fascination with the natural world. She loves all animals and creatures big and small, and is known to save everything from fruit flies in her Mai Tai to turkey vultures choking on the side of the road. She plays with frogs, kisses fish, and can’t stop adopting pets whom she sings to when she is not feeling extroverted enough to go to karaoke. She is a child at heart who loves all things fun and whimsical, from twirling a baton to spinning cotton candy, to all things Disney. She loves to have themed parties for her friends and to see people smile. She loves all things macabre and has always had a pull towards the metaphysical realms. Having had psychic and mediumship abilities since she was a small child, she didn’t realize her potential until she was in her late 20s; in her 50s, her full potential is still unknown since she is forever learning and growing. She is the mother of twin boys: Dylan, who shares her passion and fascination with cutting hair, and Tyler, her artist child whose work graces the cover of her book. She owns her own business called Angels Owls and Anchors, LLC, where she practices Hypnotherapy as a CHT, with a certification in advanced hypnosis. She helps people with all types of difficulties, including heartbreak, chakra cleansing, phobias and fears, pain management, smoking cessation, past life regressions, and more. She has been doing psychic mediumship readings full-time for over 20 years, all by word of mouth. She teaches psychic development, intuitive reading, and other classes, as well as leading guided meditation groups.

You can find Patti on Facebook: Psychic Medium Patti Lehman and like her page, or subscribe to her page on YouTube: Patti Lehman Psychic Medium. Patti uses both of these platforms to interact with the public through live chats and guided meditations. Reading appointments (face to face or via phone) can be scheduled by calling her office in New Jersey: 973-616-0429.

You can also find Patti listed as Patti Lehman on Jefferson Harman’s website www.everydaysymbology.com

Foreword

When I was 15 years old, my brother Michael killed himself with a gunshot to the chest, in his bedroom of our childhood home, the one I now own, while our family was downstairs. Later that week, he came to me, but I was too inexperienced with my mediumship to realize I had the ability to connect with the spirit world. I have since learned to hone my gift, but Michael is the one spirit that remains elusive - only sending me signs when times are tough.

A few years ago, I was