The Road Taken: Journeys of the Heart

By Rema Lim

As a child and adolescent, author Rema Lin grew up in a tight-knit family with a sheltered, conservative Hindu background. Born in India, she moved to Malaysia with her family before she was a year old.

In The Road Taken, she discusses her Malaysian childhood and the complexities of intermarriagean Indian woman marrying a Chinese man. Lin tells what it was like being the wife of an internationally known academic, raising her daughters, losing her husband to cancer, and falling into severe grief and depression.

In the end, she discusses how slow the recovery has been since her husbands death. In The Road Taken, she reaches out to all those who have suffered, are suffering, and will face the death of loved ones sooner or later. Lin narrates how Gods word was like a thread she clung to when her thoughts were dark, negative, and suicidal.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Partridge Publishing Singapore
• Release date: Nov 3, 2017
• ISBN: 9781543743906

Rema Lim

Rema Lin was born in India and moved to Malaysia as a child. She attended Universiti Malaya and worked as a teacher. Lin has grown daughters. Rema currently lives in Subang Jaya, Selangor, Malaysia.

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Copyright © 2017 by Rema Lim.

Library of Congress Control Number:      2018934037

ISBN:                  Hardcover                      978-1-5437-4391-3

                            Softcover                        978-1-5437-4389-0

                            eBook                             978-1-5437-4390-6

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For my parents who gave me so much love and acceptance, even when I took the roads that were unconventional and broke tradition.

For my children, that they may know.

For all those out there who may be suffering or know people who are.

"So often people look back at photos of their grandparents and even parents and regret they have so little real knowledge of them or the reality of the lives they lived. People often feel this as they age and ponder more closely the lives of their now missed earlier loved ones. This poignant memoir is a valuable reversal of this trend.

Rema Menon Lim passes on to readers her adept descriptions and reflections on her life as she felt it and the times she lived in. Firstly, her young life as a daughter of Indian migrants to Malaysia in the fifties and sixties. She reflects on the Malaysian society, schools and university life of the period she experienced and later on her cross-racial marriage. The third period of the writer’s life draws very honestly on her experiencing the illness of her partner and becoming a widow. Then her own reality of coming to terms with grief.

The book is a gift of a personal truth of a life lived and one which will inspire others to write for their family and generation."

- Helen Page (Former teacher in Malaysia

and long family friend.)

"From the beginning