Unequally Yoked: (How to Get Your Husband Saved)

By Frances McCrory Meservy

We have been married for 50 years. The first 13 years were some good and a lot turbulent. (Unequally Yoked). The last 37 years have been wonderful (one in Jesus). God changed me into the wife Al needed and then He changed Al into the husband I needed. God is so good.

In 2000 our pastor (Rev. Ray Emery) from Wichita KS stopped by our home in Dallas TX to visit. He said he had given out 50 copies of this book and had baptized 48 men as a direct result of their wives doing what this book says for them to do. The odds are in your favor. Trust God to do what He says he will do.


Lord Jesus,

Please help all who read this book to draw close to you and have a more intimate walk with you. Become their best friend.Please reward each wife who earnestly tries to do as you say by saving her husband. Please reward each husband who earnestly tries to do as you say by saving his wife. Thank you for being so kind and merciful. Amen

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Feb 5, 2016
• ISBN: 9781504976138

Frances McCrory Meservy

I fell in love with Jesus when I was 3 years old and started reading the Bible when I was 5 on my grandmother's lap. I have never stopped. I am 72 years old now and have no idea how many times I've read God's word all the way through. My Dad died when I was 11 years old and God became my father in a more complete way. My Mom taught us to watch for Jesus' hand in all things. IE: He brought the rain so our crops would grow, etc. I have been a Christian for 69 years. I am not ordained nor have I been to Bible College or Seminary. The Holy Spirit teaching me God's word and pastors using God's word have taught me what I know. I am a lay Missionary who has the gifts of Exhortation, Word of Wisdom, Word of Knowledge and Working Miracles. God has used me as a lay missionary for many years. Our church in KS had me on their ministry list as a lay missionary. I could feel their prayers.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Preface

Chapter 1 Who Am I

Chapter 2 Heart To Head

Chapter 3 Head To Heart

Chapter 4 Hopeless Prayers

Chapter 5 Hope In Prayer

Chapter 6 Obey Who

Chapter 7 How Quiet

Chapter 8 Why Is He Jealous

Chapter 9 Life After Salvation

Chapter 10 For Battered Wives Only

Chapter 11 For Men Only

Chapter 12 The Godly Woman

Chapter 13 Our Story

Understand Grace Poem about how our family helps us understand God's feelings

Glossary Which publication I used for scripture and poetry, etc.

Index Scripture printed out according to chapter (please read the scripture - don't just take my word for anything)

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I am eternally grateful to my Lord and Savior, Jesus, for sending his Holy Spirit to help me put this book together. He removed me from it and turned it from my book to His book.

I am grateful to Rev. E. V. May, retired Southern Baptist pastor/foreign missionary, for his input and help.

Thanks to my husband, Al, for helping me, encouraging me and praying for me every step of the way.

I wish to thank my pastors wherever we lived for coping and handing my manuscript out to women who needed it and my Lord Jesus for saving their husbands.

INTRODUCTION

We rise in glory,

As we sink in pride:

Where boasting ends,

There dignity begins.

By: Young

For several years after becoming a Christian, Pastors and teachers taught that believers should not be Unequally Yoked. Even so, worldly men seemed more exciting to me than my fellow Christians. I married a non-Christian.

Over the next fourteen years it became obvious why a Christian should not marry a non-Christian. God knew they would be miserable and end up feeling helpless while in hopeless circumstances.

After finding my methods hopeless, I began diligently searching the Scriptures for an answer to the question, How do I get my husband saved? To my amazement there was an answer, even though it did not appear logical. (If the Bible said it, it must be true.) With help from the Scriptures, I stumbled along trying to do what the Bible told me to do. God honored my trying and Al became a Christian six months later.

I had to reap what I had sown, but God gave me a conditional promise that left an escape. He gave me hope and made that hope a reality.

I am writing this book so you can have hope and won't have to stumble as much as I did.

If you have tried your way and found it has not worked and are now willing to try God's way, this book is for you.

Word of advice: If your husband finds this book and gets angry, tell him to read it and if there is anything in it that he objects to, let you know and you won't do whatever he objects to.

PREFACE

Man's love is of man's life a thing apart,

''Tis woman's whole existence.

By: Byron

Who is Unequally Yoked?

If you were a Christian when you married and you married a non-Christian, you are unequally yoked. This whole book is for you. You will need to do every step.

If you and your husband were non-Christians when you married and you became a Christian since you married, you are unequally yoked. The whole book can be beneficial to you; but any area where it says you have sinned because you are unequally yoked is not true. You did not deliberately become unequally yoked.

Scripture says you should not be unequally yoked. Scripture also gives you a plan whereby your husband can be saved. God has not gone against His word by saving you first. God just saved you before He saved your husband. He would not save you unless He plans to save your husband or unless He knows that your husband is going to leave you.

Scripture says you are not to leave your husband but if he leaves you, let him go. You are not bound by the marriage. God does not go against His own word. What He plans to do is an accomplished fact.

Many people believe Inter-denominational marriages (Methodist, Pentecostal, Catholic, Baptist, etc.) are unequally yoked. Even though there are problems in inter-denominational marriages. This is not what the Bible calls unequally yoked. In an inter-denominational marriage, you still have the basics in common. You both put your faith and trust in Jesus; have the same Holy Spirit to guide you and use the Holy Scriptures (Bible) as your guide. You are not unequally yoked - you simply worship the same God in a slightly different manner.

Some people think inter-racial marriages are unequally yoked. There are problems in inter-racial marriages. But, if you are both Christians, you have a common foundation (Jesus, Holy Spirit and Bible) to work from - you are not unequally yoked. Otherwise, Ruth could not have been in Jesus' family tree. She was a pagan who converted to the Jewish religion. Ruth was not a Jew racially.

To singles: there are many people who profess to be Christians and are not. Jesus said you could identify them by their fruit. The fruit of the Spirit is:

1. LOVE - (Binds together all the other fruit) is sincere, hospitable, blesses (removes worry), is harmonious, does no harm to its neighbor, rejoices with the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres, helps, rebukes and disciplines, willingly gives up own desires for good of others, forgives instead of getting even. It is the opposite of hate. Love comes via the Holy Spirit and grows as we use it. Love results in overcoming evil.

2. JOY -- a celebration that constantly bubbles up from deep inside that does not depend on circumstances. It is the opposite of grumbling and complaining. It comes from knowing you are saved. Comes via the Holy Spirit as we love and trust Jesus, love righteousness, hate wickedness, by hearing and understanding God's Word, by miracles, by our being able to overcome demons, by God blessing the work of our hands. Joy gives us hope and strength. Joy makes us feel thankful, helps us tell others about Jesus and causes us to be generous givers.

3. PEACE -- calm confidence, quietness, rest, safety, feeling blameless, upright, strength, security, sharing life and hope. It is the opposite of turmoil and discontentment. Peace comes by allowing our hearts and minds to be controlled by the Holy Spirit, by the knowledge of God and Jesus. Peace comes by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, Jesus' blood shed on the cross, listening to God's promises, loving God's law, if our ways are pleasing to the Lord, if we pay attention to God's commands, if we are righteous, if we are not wicked, by God's compassion, by keeping our minds steadfast on trusting Jesus, by Jesus' overcoming the world, by doing good. As we learn to walk in the Spirit, we feel peace more often. Peace guards our hearts and minds, brings unity and reaps a harvest of righteousness.

4. PATIENCE -- To excitedly wait; calmness, composure, courage, endurance, forbearance, inner strength, self-possession, overlooking an offence. It is the opposite of action without thought and waiting for nothing or no one. Patience comes from tribulations, wisdom and by being strengthened by the power of the Holy Spirit. Patience persuades people and inherits what is promised.

5. GENTLENESS - power under control (like a mother caring for her little children or a wild animal that has been tamed). Gentleness comes via the Holy Spirit and by allowing God to refine us. Gentleness causes people to trust you.

6. GOODNESS -- Usefulness, decency, honesty, integrity, morality, righteousness, does not deliberately go against God's will and sin through an immoral act, doing something without expecting anything in return, to feed and give drink (even to your enemies), to minister, comfort and deliver. It is the opposite of selfishness, evil and uselessness. Goodness comes by fearing and trusting God. Goodness results in knowledge.

7. FAITHFULNESS -allegiance, duty, fidelity, loyalty, diligently strives to honor his own words, throwing away idols and worshiping God only, protects, provides a refuge and relief, prays for others, fulfills commitments, seeks and brings forth justice and walks in the truth. It is the opposite of lies, sneaking, betraying and cheating. Faithfulness comes by planing what is good. Faithfulness results in protection, refuge, relief, answered prayers and atonement of sin.

8. KINDNESS - courtesy, favor, good turn, service, enjoys doing things that make others feel good, sparing someone's life, dealing honestly, releasing from prison, saving life, showing favor to, restoring property to, expressing sympathy for, inviting to dinner, watching over spirit, removing yoke of oppression, having compassion on, allowing to go to friends so they can provide for needs, keeping warm and welcoming. It is the opposite of getting even with or being cruel to. Kindness comes by God's mercy via the Holy Spirit; we continue to receive kindness if we continue to be kind. Kindness leads to repentance.

9. SELF-CONTROL - balance, composure, equilibrium, poise, self-possession, the ability to control one's emotions and reactions, integrity, seriousness, soundness of speech (does not curse or use God's name in vain). It is the opposite of having a temper tantrum or being violent in word or deed. We receive self-control by setting our hope fully on the grace Jesus gives us. Self-control protects you from Satan and helps you pray.

Christians receive all these characteristics when they are born again (born of the Spirit). The more they use the fruit, the stronger it will become in the person. Baby Christians, New Converts, evidence them in a mild form - mature Christians portray them more prominently.

Now you know how to recognize a Christian - (1 Cor. 6:14-18; Ja. 4:1-10)

I

WHO AM I

I'm not denyin' the women are foolish:

God Almighty made 'em to match the men.

By: George Eliot

Once upon a time, there was a three-year-old girl who fell in love with Jesus.

Her parents were Christians who lived what they taught and she grew up with miracles. They went to Church regularly and enjoyed related activities.

Her mother taught her to watch for God's hand in every-thing and expect good to come from all things. Most of the conversation in her home was about God and it became a habit for her to pepper her conversation with Jesus.

She lived in a small farm town that was mostly Christian. Christians did not associate with non-Christians. She befriended several non-Christians and brought them home with her. Her mother worried that she would become like the non-Christians. By the time she graduated from High School, her mother realized the non-Christians were becoming more like her daughter. Her daughter had not become like the non-Christians.

About the time she graduated from High School and started College, she became very proud of her Christianity and proud that she was not like other people.

After she started college, she slowly stopped going to church and spent more and more time with non-Christians doing worldly things. She stopped dating Christians and started dating non-Christians. She felt she was a strong enough Christian to handle the world (forgetting it was God's strength and not hers that handled things).

She met and fell in love with a non-Christian. He was very moral. He wanted his children brought up in Church. He said, even though there is no God, it will give them good morals and keep them out of trouble. She married him.

Do not be unequally yoked.

At first their marriage was good. They loved each other very much? As the years past, she realized that she loved him; but love to him was possession. This revelation came about as she realized that the motivation behind his temper outbursts came from her having friends. He expected her to be home when he called (no busy signal accepted).

He expected her never to have company when he was home. If she went somewhere, he timed her. Long lines at the laundry mat or grocery store were unacceptable excuses for being late. She felt smothered - not loved.

When they tried to talk, they did not understand each other. They were trying to communicate on two different basis of logic (her's spiritual - his secular).

What do light and darkness have in common?

As the years passed, she became a bundle of nerves and very depressed. She felt like she was walking on eggs.

Eventually, she