The Diagnosis Is Terminal: What Do We Do Now?
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Jim M. Coston Jr.
Jim M. Coston Jr. is a retired engineer and systems designer. His background makes him qualified to dig into and present the details that both the patient and caregiver will need to deal with during the final terminal journey. Jim has managed and owned two software companies and a tax and consulting firm. This is where his ability to comprehend, access, and present detail becomes invaluable to the reader. He presents the information in a easily understandable black-and-white manner.
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The Diagnosis Is Terminal - Jim M. Coston Jr.
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ISBN: 978-1-5127-1279-7 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-5127-1280-3 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2015915162
WestBow Press rev. date: 09/30/2015
Contents
SECTION #1
(1) Subject
(2) Background
(3) First things to do
(3:a) Legal instructions and requirements
(3:b) Bucket list Completed
(3:b) Bucket list Not completed
(3:c) Final overview
(4) Medical reports
(4:a) Oncologist/doctor’s reports
(4:b) CBC Spread Sheet
Autologous Stem Cell Transplant
(5) Change of subject. Notes for old folks.
Something for the kids
Notes for Christians
(6) Songs
Sample obituaries
SECTION #2
(1) Nancy getting weaker
(2) Into the hospital
(3) Hospice location
(4) Hospice care - No more Doctor’s Notes from this point forward.
(5) Lymphodema
(6) Morphine
(7) Early life style changes
(8) Oximeter
110+ TO-DO ITEMS
(1) Prior to death: To-Do’s
(2) After death to-do’s
(3) Small Stuff distribution (Memorandum to Will)
Bitty300dpicopy.jpgIn Loving
Memory
of
Nancy Coston
June 2, 1941 - June 11, 2013
Photo taken at 50th Anniversary - 2010
Introduction
This is what my wife Nancy and I learned over the period of 8 years while Nancy fought terminal disease.
The information is set up to be reviewed in multiple sessions. If you try to cover it all at once it can be overwhelming. Start with an initial review of about an hour. That step is to introduce the materials. Take your time. Perhaps use a highlighter. Trying to do too much at once would be very difficult and not a good idea. Do what you can manage and then revisit. Celebrate each accomplishment … no matter how small.
Approximately 50% of the US population will die of cancer or heart related disease. This write-up, although using cancer as the start point, can be used by many terminal patients, care givers, and families for the final journey that is ahead. The odds are that you do not have a very good idea of what you will have to go through. Nancy, and I had very little information about what we could have done to have made the journey easier. I have said uncountable times dear Lord, how did this happen?
Now I know some of the answers. These notes will share them with you.
Terminal illnesses will put you through the following processes in this order: denial, confusion, frustration, anger, awareness, sadness, acceptance and then moving forward. The goal of these Nancy Notes is to help patients and family members manage the terminal illness journey to reach a position of comfort and peace.
Allow me to describe the final journey in terms of you and your loved one driving from Vladivostok, Russia (North East coast) down to Beijing, China and then across to Moscow, Russia. You have some maps you can’t read. 90%+ of the people you attempt to talk to do not speak English. You start with a handful of rubles and American credit cards. How do you pay for fuel? Where do you spend the night? Wait until you attempt to order food. This is not a detailed instruction manual. It is set up to show you where some of the pot holes are and to let you learn from actual experiences. Use this information to get you and your loved ones to thinking and planning ahead. Now; relate that to your journey. Here we go.
As you review these materials, usually two types of personalities will appear. You will probably automatically default to concentrating on one of the following areas.
A) Problem solving personality
Finance
Legal
Activity lists: 65 before and 40 after death
Reports: CBC (complete blood count), intensive care
B) Comforting personality
Hospital and hospice activities
How to comfort the loved one
Insure final preparation of the body is done with dignity.
Final let me go
comments
C) Both personalities
Morphine and drug impacts
PRIMARY PROBLEM AREA: Total confusion.
Let’s start with the money. The money coming in for you to pay bills with is primarily controlled by bureaucrats. I call this the money pipe
. For simplicities sake we will assume the money flow starts primarily at the federal level and flows downward through all the rest of the money in: $$ SOURCES listed below. These people are charged to manage the funds to get the biggest bang for the buck. This means control
. Lots of