Unnatural Desires: It’S Natural I Was Told

By Dr. Debra Martin

Its unnatural, so I was told as a little girl, to desire your brother, dad, first, second, third, or fourth cousins, uncles, aunts, or any male or female relative. It was forbidden, off limits, against the rules to desire to be with them intimately. As a matter of fact, it was drilled in me as far back as I can remember that if any of my cousins, uncles, brother, or even dad told me its okay to touch private parts, it was my responsibility to let them know that this behavior was wrong and unacceptable. We are family, and I was to tell Mama if they tried anything. Mama always said I could get pregnant if this were to happen, and the child could come out deformed.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Jun 15, 2015
• ISBN: 9781490882314

Dr. Debra Martin

Dr. Debra D. Martin was born in Houston, Texas, and grew up in Los Angeles. She is a born-again ordained preacher of the gospel, wife and copastor with spouse doctor and pastor Frank Martin of Abideth Faith Hope and Love Ministries in Los Angeles.

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ISBN: 978-1-4908-8230-7 (sc)

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2015908651

WestBow Press rev. date: 06/12/2015

Contents

1.   Dedication

2.   References

3.   Foreword

4.   The Dark Closet

5.   Primary Years

6.   It’s Unnatural

7.   Unnatural Desires

8.   Natural Desires

9.   Violation and Rebellion

10. Open Doors

11. The Familiar Man

12. Conclusion

13. Companion Workbook

Unnatural Desires

Emotions are stirred through a lot of thoughts feelings, and physical desires. Knowing how to categorize your feelings while growing up in environments that go against nature is extremely difficult. Sometimes our emotions get mixed up and we come out with the wrong ideas about who we are and who we want to be.

This book is a candid look at what can take place in someone’s life. The writer is honest and forth coming about these emotions. Sorting out the feelings of love is something we all have to do in life, Letting God lead the way is the right way of doing it.

Dr. & Pastor Frank Martin

Dedication

Amber, my love bug in the rug. Amber you are my daughter that I always long to have. From the moment that I laid eyes on you, I loved you. You have made a difference in my life, when life was empty without a daughter to call my own, you came and filled all of the vacant empty rooms with laughter and joy, I would have never had the fulfilment if you were not there. I’m thankful for having your love. The times when I thought I was not going to make it. When I thought about You, Amber was my inspiration to continue to hope. Those little eyes watching me. My hope was in Christ.

You’ve always had a sweet gentle way about you, knowing the right time to speak words of encouragement. I’ve watched you grow having spunk (courage, brave). You have always been a high achiever, from gold metals to honors and (A) student. You have so much to be admired for. I’m thankful to be a part of your journey. You’re smart intelligent and witty. Amber you are a terrific mother. I admire you for all I’ve witness you do. You worked hard and diligently to get your degree and caring for your baby.

One of your highest achievements is when I saw you receive Christ and the baptism of his Holy Spirit of truth when you were 11 years old. Just like everything else you went after God with