Victim to Victorious: Life After Abuse

By Anna

Anna has written this book to assist other victims of abuse to realize that the predators do not control your life. You can make choices about who you are and how you live. Some of the effects of abuse are permanent. These can be turned to good attributes in your life. For instance, a startle reflex is a good safety warning. There is an increased awareness of the nature of people that can be trusted to keep you safe without you being afraid. There is help for us to make good choices and live a victorious life in spite of the evil of others. Getting the help you need to heal is imperative to living a full and useful and peaceful life. Not being heard can encourage you to listen to others and be instrumental in their healing. God has a purpose for each of us. Anna wants you to find yours and live!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Dec 7, 2016
• ISBN: 9781524645410

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Published by AuthorHouse 10/24/2016

ISBN: 978-1-5246-4542-7 (sc)

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Statistics tell us that every year more than 6.6million children are reported to a child protection agency for abuse. The United States has one of the worst records of abuse of children and elderly among industrialized nations. Close to 5 children die every day as a result of child abuse in the United States. This is a horrible indictment on the moral climate of our country.

The saddest part of this is that the communities and churches have abdicated their responsibility for protecting the widows and orphans to government programs. The programs are not bad, just desperately overcrowded and understaffed. It is time for us, the people, to step up to the plate and begin to protect and care for our young and our old. There are private programs already in place whose goal is to help these children. Find one and become involved in solving this widespread problem in our country.

But, it is not a new problem here. Child abuse has a history as long as people have existed. So many times we hear, She’s doing as well as she can for a survivor. They aren’t referencing cancer survivors, survivors of war or survivors of accidents. This is a reference to those who were molested as children, either physically, emotionally, sexually, or all three.

The term survivors in their case is not a word of hope or healing, but existing with damage. I seldom hear anyone cheer for these women and men, as they do for survivors of other diagnosis. Cancer survival is a joyous word. But, most often ‘survivor’ refers to one who lives with loss. Sometimes, those who live through a war are living with loss of limb, friends, and peace in their life. The Wounded Warrior Program brings hope and acceptance to these. Those who live through an accident are loved and appreciated for their living at all.

I suppose those who outlive a spouse or a child are the closest to those who live with the loss imposed on persons who are molested. Their grief is beyond the understanding of all except those who share their loss. The difference is death is a normal end to life, albeit sometimes too soon. There is nothing normal about molestation.

In addition to the living with this abnormal loss, the ‘survivor’ of molestation, also lives with the shame imposed by family, society, and often themselves. The reference to ‘damaged goods’ or the statement ‘your life is ruined’, reinforce the feeling of being less than others. The ‘unspoken’ comments are always present in the looks of pity, or condemnation, or guilt. Secrets breed shame and many of the victims of molestation, sexual, mental, or physical, will keep their secrets to avoid judgment of others or because of the threats by their attackers.

There are many books about surviving the trauma of molestation. Programs for PTSD abound. However, surviving is just not enough.

I would like to propose healing and not surviving, but excelling, to those who share with me the diagnosis of molestation. For me, surviving is not enough. I want to live life to the fullest that God intended for me to live. I want to soar above the sordid reality of another person, who sought to drag me down with them. I want to love without fear of judgement.

I invite you