Hidden Emotions: A Tribute to the Unexpressed Emotions of the Male Soul

By M. Ian Blanchard

The issue of men and how we express ourselves on what is really going on within us, is a conversation that is not widespread enough. We have not been taught how to express ourselves. By contrast, everything we observe and experience teach us to keep a lid on our feelings, just keep it inside. The need for us to express how we feel to those who matter most to us, is critical to the constructive development of the next generation. This book is a contribution to that discussion. The contents are just a small part of what is necessary to make a meaningful difference, but it is my contribution to the process.
The book recounts part of my journey, and includes the expression of my emotions to my friend, lover and confidant. As you join me on this journey, please realize that while keeping emotions to yourself, may keep you safe and minimize harm, youll never truly experience love by following this path. True Love does not exist without vulnerability.
There is no single philosophy of the pertinent issues, always leaving much more to be said. There are so many more discussions to be started. It is important for readers to get engaged and add their voices to the discussion. Too many elect to remain silent, choosing to withhold and not give vent to experiences. This may keep us in our comfort zone, but it negatively impacts our love ones and the ones coming after us in the society. When we fail to share the benefit of our experience, young people inevitably repeat the mistakes of the past.
Thank you for taking the journey with me. I hope and pray, that I will help you begin, or renew your commitment to expressing your feelings to those who matter most in your life. Brothers, let us begin the discussion with those in our family circle - parents, siblings, spouse, off spring. Start spending 1-on-1 time with them, do things together, play sports, go fishing, hiking, watch a movie or just read together. Find common interests, and not merely start the conversation, keep it going. Do not allow the silence to continue.
I invite you to visit our site, share your learnings and views and engage in discussion. Visit us at www.maleXpression.com.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Nov 4, 2015
• ISBN: 9781503522237

M. Ian Blanchard

M. Ian Blanchard is a certified business and executive coach, Managing Director of the Caribbean Institute of Leadership & Coaching (CILC) ActionCOACH and a former Chief Executive at Cable & Wireless. He has spent most of his life on a global journey of self-discovery and over the past 26 years, has worked in many different countries, gaining wide experience and insight into various cultures. He is passionate about men living out their God given potential and ensuring they leave more in their children than for their children. IanB as he is affectionately called is blessed with a wonderful partner, Anne-Marie, and they have been married for over 24 years. They have two wonderful gifts, in Ianna and Michael, who provide them with immense joy and ensure they stay grounded. His passion to leave a legacy and leave the world a better place drives him to live by the philosophy that his interaction with any individual or group should leave them and himself richer for the experience. This principle is lived out with his wife Anne-Marie and their relationship. We pray that this book helps him to continue to living his purpose and help give you another perspective of your role and encourage you to start the conversations with the people who matter most in your life.

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CONTENTS

Dedication

Preface

Acknowledgements

Introduction

SECTION 1

What is Love?

      •   Assurance

      •   Love and Fear

      •   Why

      •   We’re Different

      •   Love and Pain

      •   True Love

      •   Can I

      •   My Wait

Lessons Learnt

SECTION 2

What Now?

      •   Admittance

      •   My Valentine

      •   Perseverance

      •   Expressions of Love

      •   Someday Somewhere

      •   Just Love

      •   Share and Share Again

      •   Thank You

Lessons Learnt

Summary

On the Author

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DEDICATION

I  THANK GOD for His love and grace, which have enabled me to accept who He has created me to be.

I thank my parents, brothers and sisters for their influence on me in my formative years and their patience with me along my journey.

I dedicate this work to my wife Anne-Marie, daughter Ianna, and son Michael. They have provided encouragement, support and have kept me real.

Anne-Marie, this is a tribute to you and your continued patience, love and support on the journey towards becoming the man that God wired and intended me to be. This is really my heart and our memoirs in print and they have now become part of our archives. These are simply the