Just an Average Joe: A Young Person's Guidebook About Respect, Individual Effort and Responsibility, Character Building, and Christian Behavior
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This book is dedicated to young people everywhere and written for their benefit. I realize that many young people today would rather buy a CD or DVD rather than a guidebook or an owners manual- a book about how to improve their lives from just an average Joe. Some young people will only get this book if a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle or probation officer gives it to them as a gift. I hope it is a gift worth keeping and sharing.
Today, young people struggle with finding good examples of role models. My first role model was David Cortez while attending Rhodes Junior High School in San Antonio, Texas. David was a ninth grader and our Student Council President. He helped me with my successful political campaign to be the next Student Council Secretary. I thought David walked on water. David came from a strong family. He was smart, athletic, and good-looking. He had a beautiful girlfriend. Davids story has a sad ending. He went on to Jefferson High, where he also excelled. He married his girlfriend- the girl of his dreams. A few years later, she tragically died in a car accident. Not much later in life, David, still a widower, died of a mysterious illness, leaving behind two young daughters. Parents should be their own kids role models, but sometimes we, too, fall short of setting the good example for our kids. Parents lose credibility and respect because, from their kids perspective, it seems like we were never young and rebellious. HELLO!!! We were. It is hard to believe, but we were and it was tough back then, too. It may actually be harder now in many ways- more distractions, more toys, more peer pressure, more drugs, more gang violence, more graffiti, more sexual promiscuity, more TV, more video games and cyberspace but less family interaction and influence.
Teachers, who genuinely care about their students future success, are also rare. Teachers can be excellent role models and I applaud anyone who goes into this most honorable profession. In the business world, prudence is ignored and now takes a backseat to personal gain at any cost, recklessness, corruption and greed in some of our largest banks and corporations. In politics, the candidates tell the electorate whats popular rhetoric: who can be against better healthcare for all, better education for our children, and a strong defense. Once elected or defeated they find it difficult to work with the opposition for the benefit of our communities and nation. Todays politicians are no longer statesmen but socialists bent on ridiculous spending programs and bailouts of mismanaged banks, companies and corrupt governments around the world at an exorbitant cost to American taxpayers. Having said all this, I am still optimistic about our country and about many of our youth and their positive impact on our society and our world. I wish I could say that I am optimistic about all of them, but unfortunately, it will be just a few of them that will make a difference. But these few will be the leaders of tomorrow, the peacemakers, the inventors, the farmers, the space explorers, the scientists, the teachers and the caregivers that will make all the difference in our world. Their answers to our worlds problems and challenges will come from within- from a strong sense of leadership, character and responsibility, self-discipline; and respect for self, the unborn, the elderly, religious freedoms, strong families, authority and the environment. This book attempts to inspire & motivate more of to
Joe E. Gonzalez
Joe’s story as a West Pointer and Hispanic American role model is worth telling, especially to minority students growing up in tough circumstances. Over the span of a successful 30 plus year career in the military and business world, he never lost sight of writing this guidebook for the benefit of all young Americans. Like Joe, this book is lighthearted at times but also very practical and serious at other times. The success of just an average Joe came from early exposure and understanding of basic behavioral concepts.. They’re yours for the taking in this book.
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Contents
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
PREFACE
THE GREATEST GIFTS
PRIORITIES
HABIT
TWELVE GOLDEN RULES FOR LIVING
ATTITUDE
120 PERCENT
ABOUT ONE HUNDRED YEARS AGO
FROM MR CHARLES SCHULTZ
HATE
RESPECT
IF WE KNEW EACH OTHER BETTER
SHOE MAN
DO NOT DISCRIMINATE
WOMEN AND DISCRIMINATION
POVERTY
BAD COMPANY
GOOD COMPANY
KIDS DEMAND DISCIPLINE
CUSSING
A PIG AND A BOY
THE DAY THE WORLD
WOKE ME UP
YOU ARE SO BLESSED
PASTOR JOE WRIGHT’S PRAYER
PARADOX OF OUR TIMES
THE NEW TERRORISM
WE REAP WHAT WE SOW
MARY HAD A LITTLE LAMB
MARRIAGE
ON BEING A WOMAN
MEN
THE IMAGES OF MOTHER FROM A DAUGHTER
A MOTHER’S LOVE
MOTHERS ARE ANGELS IN TRAINING
THINGS PARENTS DO WRONG WITH THEIR KIDS
WHAT PARENTS SHOULD DO WITH THEIR KIDS
DIVORCE IS NOT THE ANSWER
HOW DOES A CHILD SPELL LOVE?
INFLUENCE
THE LITTLE BOY WHO LOST HIS TEMPER
IF I HAD A BOY
TEACHERS
A TRUE FRIEND
HAPPINESS
RULES FOR BEING HUMAN
NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN RELATIONSHIPS
PLANET EARTH
WORLD OVERPOPULATION?
SEIZE THE MOMENT
INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE
BILL GATES’S ELEVEN RULES
NOAH’S ARK
THE BIG ROCKS
MAKING A DIFFERENCE
DO WHAT YOU REALLY
WANT TO DO
THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX
THE CHICKEN AND THE PIG
ROW, ROW ROW YOUR BOAT
THE SPIRIT OF YOUTH
AGING
HOW TO STAY YOUNG
WHO’S IN CONTROL?
STRAIGHT F’S
CHARACTER AND DISCIPLINE
RESPONSIBILITY
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATIONS
ONE SOLDIER’S CHRISTMAS
THE AMERICAN
COMBAT SOLDIER
IT IS THE SOLDIER
HONOR AND LEADERSHIP
SAY IT NOW
LISTENING
ITS A POOR JOKE. . .
WISDOM
STRENGTH AND COURAGE
ACHIEVEMENT
READING
PATIENCE AND PERSISTENCE
ABRAHAM LINCOLN
ABILITY
THE MAN IN THE GLASS
ME
THE COCONUT
WHO DID YOU SAY HELPED YOU WITH THIS?
YOUR LAST NAME
WHAT WAS YOUR NAME AGAIN?
PLUG IT IN
ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME
YOU MAY COUNT THAT DAY
TIME LINES
STRANGER IN THE HOUSE
RESPECT SPEED
THE MOTORISTS PRAYER
THOUGHTS FROM A BLOOD DONORS TABLE
IM GLAD YOU ARE IN MY DASH
LETTER FROM A SMOKER
AN EFFECTIVE SOLVENT
HANDCUFFS
WORRY
SELF-ESTEEM
LESSONS FROM THE GRAND CANYON
ANOTHER CANYON
GO BAREFOOTED
HOPE
WHICH IS?
THE ANTICHRIST
LUNCH WITH GOD
THE SERENITY PRAYER
A DIFFERENT TYPE OF PRAYER
DESTINY
YOU CAN GO TO HEAVEN
SHARING AND CHARITY
DOES GOD CARE?
I ASKED GOD
JUST CHECKING IN
ON THE RELIGIOUS LIFE
A FUNERAL
TAKE TIME
A BANK CALLED TIME
THE MAGIC OF THREE DAYS
TWO ENDS
THE ESSENCE OF SURVIVAL
THREE THINGS THEY DON’T TEACH IN SCHOOL
THE MAGIC OF TIME AND COMPOUND INTEREST
INVESTING ON A MONTHLY BASIS
ITS NOT A WHOLE LOT OF MONEY
WHY COLLEGE?
WHAT COLLEGE DID FOR TWO PEOPLE
THE SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS
TOYS
SUCCESS
WORK
PHILOSOPHY OF A WINNER
THE ATTRIBUTION TENDENCY
EFFORT VERSUS RETURN ON INVESTMENT
FULL POWER TO GET OFF THE GROUND
LUCK
GOALS
FROM THE WORLD OF SPORTS
QUITTING
IT CAN’T BE DONE
PERFECTION
PLEASE DONT WHINE
A CARROT, AN EGG AND A CUP OF COFFEE
JUST DO IT
PEOPLE ARE LIKE PENCILS
ON BEING AVERAGE
BLOOM WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED
THE CRACKPOT
FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS
KEEP YOUR DREAMS
ROSE’S DREAM
AFTER SEVEN
CAPITALIZE ON YOUR STRENGTHS
NOTHING HAPPENS UNTIL A SALE IS MADE
PLANNING AND PREPARATION
ORGANIZATION AND TIME MANAGEMENT
PERSONALITY TYPES
OBSTACLES AND OBJECTIONS
ABOUT NEGOTIATING
THE SELLING FORMULA
THE BEST JOB
THE JOB INTERVIEW
PLANNING FOR A CAREER
SURVIVING CHANGES IN THE WORKPLACE
OTHER BUSINESS SURVIVAL TACTICS FROM THE MILITARY
IF I WERE BOSS
PRINCIPLES OF SALES MANAGEMENT
A BUTTERFLY’S LESSON
YOU’RE A KEEPER
DRINKING FROM MY SAUCER
SMILE
THIS TOO WILL PASS
EARN THIS
BIBLIOGRAPHY
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
DEDICATION
Dedicated to young people everywhere; my four children Joseph Paul, Judith Nicole, Jacqueline Marie, and Michael Anthony; my seven siblings Sylvia, Gilbert, Javier, Sandra, Angelica, Celia,, and Emma; the memory of our father José R. González (1919-1995); and the memory of our dearest mother Judith S. González (1926-1997). May they both rest in peace.
Finally, I want to thank three dear Canadian friends Loree Dittrich, her husband Bob and my newest friend Jonathan Snook as contributors all to this book. They openly and magnificently shared much of their lives’ heartfelt emotions and experiences with me.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
It would be impertinent of me to claim absolute originality compiling this book; no work of this kind can be totally original. There is not intent, on my part, to be original except for those experiences cited as my own.
I have toyed and struggled with the thought of writing this book for a long time. I have visited over forty countries during my military and business career. Everywhere I’ve been I have looked for articles or stories that I could include in this book. Many short stories came from friends and sources marked Unknown.
A writer who steals the work of another is called a plagiarist. One who takes from the works of many is called a researcher. That is a roundabout way of saying I am deeply indebted to the efforts of so many that it is impossible to acknowledge them all. I have attempted to document the source and credit for each quote, saying, proverb, or parable; and I am sure there have been some omissions; therefore, these have to be inadvertent omissions and certainly when they are discovered, their source and credit will be acknowledged.
The author makes grateful acknowledgement to the thousands of gifted people throughout the centuries including those identified as Unknown,
whose spirit, mind, and heart left us their wisdom, beautifully stating the principles of daily living, one day at a time, for our inspiration and guidance in our pursuit of happiness and success.
PREFACE
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny compared to what lies within us.
—Emerson
In today’s complex and fast-moving world, what we need even more than foresight or hindsight is insight.
In every community, there is work to be done. In every nation, there are wounds to heal. In every heart, there is the power to do it.
—Marianne Williamson
Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.
The main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing.
—Arthur L. Williams
This is the beginning of a new day. God has given me this day to use as I will. I can waste it or use it for good. What I do today is very important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving something in its place. I have traded for it. I want it to be a gain not a loss: good not evil, success not failure, in order that I shall not regret the price I paid for it.
—Unknown
When I look into the future, it’s so bright it burns my eyes.
—Oprah Winfrey
This book is dedicated to young people everywhere and written for their benefit. I realize that many young people today would rather buy a CD or DVD rather than an owner’s manual—a book about how to improve their lives from just an average Joe. Some young people will only get this book if a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or probation officer gives it to them as a gift. I hope it is a gift worth keeping and sharing.
Today, young people struggle with finding good examples of role models. My first role model was David Cortez while attending Rhodes Junior High School in San Antonio, Texas. David was a ninth grader and our student council president. He helped me with my successful political
campaign to be the next student council secretary. I thought David walked on water.
David came from a strong family. He was smart, athletic, and good looking. He had a beautiful girlfriend. David’s story has a sad ending. He went on to Jefferson High School where he also excelled. After high school he married his girlfriend. A few years later, she tragically died in a car accident. Not much later in life, David, still a widower, died of a mysterious illness, leaving behind two young daughters.
Parents should be their own kids’ role models, but sometimes we too fall short of setting the good example for our kids. Parents lose credibility and respect because, from their kids’ perspective, it seems like we were never young and rebellious. HELLO!! We were. It is hard to believe, but we were; and it was tough back then too. It may actually be harder now in many ways—more distractions, more toys,
more peer pressure, more drugs, more gang violence, more graffiti, more sexual promiscuity, more TV, more video games and cyberspace, but less family interaction and influence.
Teachers, who genuinely care about their students’ future success, are also rare. Teachers can be excellent role models, and I applaud anyone who goes into this most honorable profession. In the business world, prudence is ignored and now takes a backseat to personal gain at any cost, recklessness, corruption, and greed in some of our largest banks and corporations. In politics, the candidates tell the electorate what’s popular rhetoric: who can be against better healthcare for all, better education for our children, and a strong defense. Once elected or
defeated they find it difficult to work with the opposition for the benefit of our communities and nation. Today’s politicians are no longer statesmen but socialists
bent on ridiculous-spending programs and bailouts of mismanaged banks, companies, and corrupt governments around the world at an exorbitant cost to American taxpayers.
Having said all this, I am still optimistic about our country and about many of our youth and their positive impact on our society and our world. I wish I could say that I am optimistic about all of them, but unfortunately, it will be just a few of them that will make a difference. But these few will be the leaders of tomorrow, the peacemakers, the inventors, the farmers, the space explorers, the scientists, the teachers, and the caregivers who will make all the difference in our world. Their answers to our world’s problems and challenges will come from within—from a strong sense of leadership, character, and responsibility; self-discipline; and respect for self the unborn, the elderly, religious freedoms, strong families, authority, and the environment. This book is published in an attempt to inspire and motivate more of today’s youth to join those few that will be at the helm of our future world.
I’ve learned from all types of people—good examples and bad ones too. I have made numerous mistakes, and I did not always listen to everyone who tried to help me. And not everyone who wanted to help me, wanted to help
me. Some only wanted to help themselves at my expense. I have been compiling this idea of a book
over the course of many years because I care deeply about young people, who will hopefully read this book and keep it handy or pass it on to a friend or a younger sibling. Teachers may consider passages in this book as a way to end or start the school day or the school week. I recall one hour of the high school day known as homeroom
as being a genuine waste of time. Perhaps the homeroom teacher
may find this book useful in sharing some genuine thought-provoking discussion during this idle time.
I recall several times in school where we had ten to fifteen minutes left in the class period before the bell rang to move on down the hall to the next class. Typically, some students would start working on their homework assignment, cram for a test later that day, or just review for the next class. Others would just daydream or wait in their seats patiently. I do not recall a single time discussing current events of our time—the
Vietnam War, the assassinations of Senator Robert F Kennedy and the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., or the first manned landing on the moon. I stayed up late on July 20, 1969, watching our small black-and-white television set to see the live
transmission from the moon and hear the words of astronaut U.S. Navy Commander Neil Armstrong: One small step for man; one giant leap for mankind.
When I was a young man in my late twenties and early thirties I did some motivational speaking in junior (middle school) high and high schools, especially those with high minority student enrollments. But as I got older I realized that I no longer sounded like a role model
or big brother, but more like a father or uncle. But sounding like a father isn’t exactly bad either because so many parents don’t really communicate effectively with their kids. I almost titled this book, I YELL BECAUSE I CARE,
the capital letters indicative of shouting to get your attention. In the military, that’s how many things get done—barking out orders. Nobody willingly charges up a hill toward an enemy-fortified position. But brave men do. And brave men sometimes die.
In any event, I stopped making these talks at school as my hairline receded and finally decided to share my thoughts in this book. So often we don’t listen to the advice of those closest to us. Sometimes home is where we go when we’re tired of being nice to people. Sadly, we underestimate our parents and our siblings. And many times we find forgiving our loved ones for wrongdoings more difficult than forgiving complete strangers for indiscretions. Sometimes it takes a total stranger or the police and some jail time to finally get through to us.
Young people are often in a hurry to grow up fast and spread their wings
—become famous fast and make lots of money and buy all kinds of material goodies. Unfortunately, there are few good
role models out there to guide us outside of the superstar athletes or the rock star with a seven-inch tongue or the one who plays with boa constrictors to embellish their act.
So this idea of a book,
a collection of one-liners, poems, short stories, essays, quotes, newspaper and magazine articles and advertisements, and my own input and life experiences (in italicized paragraphs) is not necessarily designed to entertain you but to be a good companion that’s easy to read; easy to carry but also a book (maybe a poem, a paragraph, or just a thought) that will weigh you down spiritually, choke you up a bit, and hopefully encourage a positive change in your attitude that will alter your behavior for the good of all, but especially you.
I hope you’ll keep this book handy in good times and bad and during times of loneliness because being different and not always following the crowd is lonely; and despair, indecisiveness, depression and sadness, and hurt can take hold—times when peer pressure seems overwhelming; when you take a tough, unpopular stand but deep in your heart you know you’re right. Leadership is a lonely business. Remember that it may be lonely at the top, but the lunches are better.
Life is hard. Let me say it again, life is hard, but you have to keep reminding yourself that you are special and you are responsible for your actions. Like yourself. Don’t let up, and don’t let down. You deserve the better things in life. Living and making the world a lovelier place is what it’s all about. Decide and commit to a better you. It’s really up to you—your opportunities are unlimited.
This book is about making the world a better place by showing you ways to be a better, more productive, more caring person and citizen. It’s about many of life’s experiences and encompasses recurring themes; and the more recurring in this book, the more important I view them in the development of a young person. To some the sequence may seem chaotic, but life is also at times confusing and disorganized. And not everything will go your way. Life’s not fair. I had fun compiling this book, but I also cried and laughed. I hope that everyone reading this book will find at least one single passage or story that will cause them to reflect on it by saying, I needed to read this today!
Please enjoy.
THE GREATEST GIFTS
May you have the greatest two gifts of all:
• Someone to love and
• Someone who loves you
Love is our soul purpose.
I think that we spent an entire lifetime in this endeavor. Those who deny it are not being truthful to themselves. We yearn for attention; and in turn, we yearn for opportunities to cater to the needs of others like a loved one or a special someone. I want someone to care for and someone to care for me. Success and happiness can be the result of simply having these two gifts.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back! Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn’t, be content that it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone. It takes a lifetime to forget someone.
PRIORITIES
A hundred years from now, it will not matter what my bank checking or savings account balances were, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove . . . but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a young person.
It’s easy to sit in the sunshine
And talk to the man in the shade,
It’s easy to sit in a well-made boat
And tell others just where to wade.
It’s easy to tell the toiler
How best to carry his pack.
But you’ll never know the weight of the load
Until the pack is on your back.
—Unknown
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace!
Where there is hatred, let me sow love
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is doubt, faith
Where there is despair, hope
Where there is darkness, light
Where there is sadness, joy
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console
To be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love for
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and
It is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
—Saint Francis of Assisi
HABIT
I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do, you might just as well turn over to me,
And I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed; you must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done,
And after a few lessons I will do it automatically.
I am a servant of all great men
And alas, of all failures, as well.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine
Plus the intelligence of a man.
You may run me for a profit, or run me for ruin.
It makes no difference to me.
Take me, train me, be firm with me,
And I will put the world at your feet.
Be easy with me, and I will destroy you.
Who am I?
I am Habit!
—Unknown
If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.
—Napoleon Hill
Bad habits indulged in become crimes. Habits are cobwebs at first; cables at last.
(Chinese proverb)
Habits if not resisted soon become necessity. Habits either