There Is Happiness After Incest and Child Sexual Abuse
By CeCe Norwood
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This book will assist survivors, partners, family members and professionals understand a new approach to obtaining happiness following incest and child sexual abuse. By utilizing “The Acceptances”, The “Promises And Permissions”, and invoking “Trigger Busters” survivors will journey to happiness with greater ease and understanding.
CeCe Norwood
Cherylanne “CeCe” Norwood, MA, is a survivor of incest and child sexual abuse and the founder of Nirvana Now!, an organization which has conducted research into the African American woman and child’s experiences with incest and child sexual abuse, facilitates survivor support groups, provides life coaching services, publishes articles and maintains a speaker’s bureau. Ms. Norwood has been a featured presenter at numerous state and national conferences. CeCe is a Certified Ohio Child Welfare Trainer, Life Coach, CASA/GAL and Education Surrogate Parent.
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There Is Happiness After Incest and Child Sexual Abuse - CeCe Norwood
Copyright © 2008 by CeCe Norwood.
Library of Congress Control Number: 2008905503
ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-4363-5002-0
Softcover 978-1-4363-5001-3
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Rev. date: 06/12/2019
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter 1: The Acceptances
The Building Blocks To Happiness
Chapter 2: So What’s A Trigger?
How To Identify Triggers and Develop Trigger Busters
Chapter 3: The Promises And Permissions
Maintaining Your Happiness
Bibliography
Resources
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to my mother, K. LaVerne Redden, who taught me everything I needed to know to be a successful African American Women. I love you Mom.
And To
My precious daughter, Shai Ayn, who has been the greatest person God has brought into my life. Shai, you taught me to not take life so seriously and you continue to shower me with unconditional love. I love you.
And To
All of the beautiful women and men who took the risk to share with me your stories, your pains, and your joys. Your truths have been shared with other survivors as all of our experiences are healing. Your stories and experiences helped crystallized the content of this book, which will spread healing around the world. All of you have contributed to my personal journey to happiness. Thank You.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
A project of this magnitude cannot be done alone. I sincerely acknowledge and thank Love Ali, Dr. Sharon Barnes, Carolyn Wilson and James F. Loomis who took their precious time to read my manuscript and offer guiding suggestions and wonderful contributions to the finished product. I could not have gotten this project finished without your help.
I was looking long and hard for the book cover that expressed my belief that happiness, following being sexually abused as a child, is possible for all women, when I received a proposal from Kate Hillson. Kate, you got it exactly right. Thank you.
INTRODUCTION
"There IS Happiness After Incest and Child Sexual Abuse. This statement is my message to all survivors I meet. For most people who read this statement, however, I know there is immediate doubt. There is immediately doubt, because too often virtually every book you pick up regarding surviving incest and child sexual abuse does not directly address this particular issue. And when you consider the survivors I have spoken to who have been in individual therapy for years, the number of nonbelievers is even greater, I’m sure. But yet this is the question that every incest and child sexual abuse survivor asks in one way or another. Usually the direct question is,
Will this
pain ever go away? The unspoken question is:
Will I every be happy?"
This book is about YOU having an opportunity to find the happiness you deserve in your life because it IS possible to be happy following being a victim of incest and child sexual abuse! I know what I am saying firsthand because I am writing this book as a black woman who was sexually abused by my stepfather, a teenage female cousin, and a friend of the family. In addition, sexual abuse even occurred in my intimate relationships as an adult. Moreover, I obtained a master’s degree in counseling, so I was able to learn objectively that so many of my self defeating thoughts and actions were directly related to my sexual abuse experiences. As a result, I too struggled with the question, Will I ever be happy?
A Yes
response eluded me for years, even after multiple therapists, support groups, books, magazines, journals, conversations and tears shed with other survivors.
I now know happiness eluded me for so many years because I did not know how to find it. For over thirty years I was caught up in the pain associated with having been sexually abused as a child. I was caught up in my confused thinking and in my resulting actions for too many years. I really thought the happiness would somehow present itself to me as soon as I finished reading a particular book, or, as soon as I finished a therapy session, or as soon as I finished my college degree, or got married, or had children, or as soon as I got my big break. Well, all of those things happened in my life, and I was still unhappy. Survivors like to think that if we just work hard enough, strive hard enough, accomplish enough on the outside, then happiness will come. Other survivors don’t have the energy to do all of the above, so they choose self-destructive means, still hoping that one-day happiness will arrive.
Eventually all of us realize happiness will not just arrive on its own. Once a survivor realizes all of her efforts were for naught, that’s when the question, Will I ever be happy?
returns. That’s also the time when survivors realize we don’t know how to get the happiness we deserve and desperately desire.
The purpose of this book is to share with you what I truly believe is the essence of what survivors need to understand and do in order to expedite obtainment of happiness in their lives. The contents of this book are the result of countless interviews with incest and child sexual abuse survivors, personal research, having developed and facilitated incest and child sexual abuse survivor support groups, work as a life coach for survivors, and my personal experiences as a survivor. I believe if survivors understand exactly what I have outlined, they will find the happiness they truly deserve.
This book is for male and female survivors alike. You will notice, however, that most of my references are related to women. This is because for most of my career I have worked directly with women and not as often with men. I have learned, however, that male survivors share many of the same issues as women. Additionally, men have another challenge to their recovery that women do not. Specifically, men have to combat the whole notion of a challenged masculinity