The Man Book: The 100 Things Every Man Should Know, or Live By

By Spencer D. Williams

I am a man of GOD who knows his self worth! There have been times when Ive had family, and friends tell me; You think you know everything! this couldnt be further from the truth; I dont believe I know everything. I just know what I know and what little I do know I will not let anyone tell me otherwise. Now if you want to show me something or teach me something, Im willing to look, listen and/or even learn but if at the end of the day I still come to a different conclusion then dont say I think I know everything. I just dont agree with you or see it as you want me to.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 25, 2011
• ISBN: 9781456899356

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Copyright © 2011 by Spencer D. Williams.

Library of Congress Control Number: 2011905296

ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-4568-9934-9

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Acknowledgements

Prologue

100.    Mostly every man dislikes at least one of his woman’s friends

99.    Always have a backup plan

98.    If you hate your job don’t be scared to quit and start over

97.    Never live beyond your means

96.    Call your woman at least once a day

95.    Learn your woman clothes size

94.    Don’t turn your sex friend into your main woman

93.    Try not to judge People

92.    Never argue in public

91.    Don’t take all your woman’s phone calls

90.    If you get a Tattoo make sure it means something to you

89.    Do something Manly weekly

88.    Have or get a hobby

87.    Real men don’t brag

86.    Never disrespect your woman’s parents

85.    Never have sex with a friend sister(s)

84.    Keep your Body lotion

83.    Have more than one way for people to reach you

82.    Learn to be Multicultural

81.    Don’t stare at other women when you’re with your woman

80.    Don’t call a woman out of her name

79.    Don’t try to pick up a woman on-line if you have a woman

78.    Work with what GOD gave you

77.    Never sleep with a family member’s lover

76.    Don’t believe everything you see and hear

75.    Learn when to and when not to lie

74.    Have something to pass on to your children

73.    Teach your children how to eat in public

72.    Own at least one suit

71.    Keep your house clean

70.    Read at least one book in your life from cover to cover

69.    Learn what your woman likes in the bedroom

68.    Real Men DON’T shave

67.    Learn if you’re a {B.A.N} B*^#@ A$$N*%%@

66.    Give something of yourself

65.    Don’t blame anyone for things you do or chose to do

64.    Never talk negatively about your family

63.    Learn when your CYCLE is on

62.    DO NOT date a woman with bad feet!

61.    Think before you act/ Make wise decisions

60.    Always be kind, but never weak

59.    Never pull a gun on someone unless you’re going to use it

58.    Always make sure your woman has an Orgasm

57.    Never take your children around your girlfriends

56.    Never tell your new woman any of your old women names

55.    Never take a woman’s number

54.    Always have at least one female friend

53.    Don’t cheat on your woman with any of her family/friends

52.    Learn what your children are into

51.    Fast at least once in your life

50.    Never leave a woman standing at the Altar

49.    Don’t stick up for your child when their wrong

48.    Never let anyone tell you your worth

47.    If you want a faithful relationship pay her attention

46.    Teach your children how to act in public

45.    Don’t smoke around your family

44.    Why does so many men disrespect women, or see them disrespectfully

43.    Be a friend to your children not a Warden

42.    Be a parent to your children first, and then you can be their friend

41.    If you Suck, Touch, or have sex with the same sex . . . You’re GAY

40.    Learn to wash your own cloths

39.    Learn to take care of yourself

38.    Be true to yourself

37.    Save something for a rainy day

36.    Never let your Mistress disrespect your Family or Wife

35.    If you own a car; your children shouldn’t be at the bus stop

34.    Never lie on your Penis

33.    Open a Checking and Saving Account

32.    Never Orally please you’re Mistress

31.    Learn how to understand/speak Menes language

30.    Never leave your family for your mistress

29.    Live by your Word

28.    Never hit a woman

27.    Have a sit down dinner with your family at least once a week

26.    Learn to be Thankful

25.    Learn to cook for yourself

24.    Take care of your Mother and Father

23.    Make sure your Alibi knows he or she is your Alibi

22.    Learn what your woman loves, likes and is into

21.    Learn what you like in the bedroom

20.    Do not let your children just listen to or watch anything

19.    Participate in your child’s activities

18.    Keep your friends close and your enemies closer

17.    Meet your Children, Teacher or Day Care worker

16.    Don’t force or try to get your woman to watch/do what you see in porn if that’s not her thing

15.    Women are going to change their mind . . . Deal with it

14.    Never talk badly about your child/children’s mother in front of them

13.    Take your woman out at Least once a month

12.    If you’re a man of the Church . . . Be that!

11.    Never let a woman talk for you

10.    Tell your family you love them

9.    Play with your children

8.    Read to your children

7.    Don’t let anyone disrespect you

6.    Stay out of jail/prison

5.    Keep a JOB

4.    Never hurt a child

3.    Take care of your Children

2.    Give GOD thanks for everyday you have

1.    1. Rule number 1!

About the Author

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

First I give thanks to Jehovah GOD! Thank you for using me to get your word out to the mass!

My mother Lurena A. Frazier: Although you couldn’t make me a man you raised me to know the difference.

My father the late Maxie C. Williams: Your unwillingness to be there & show me the right ways taught me what NOT to do! Thank you for that, I love you! R. I. P.

My Brother Erricks S. Williams: You are like a second father to me! Thank you for Putting out the fire! (Lol), continue to be a good Father to your children!

My Sisters, Sharon & Sheila: Thank you for showing me the game & letting me be a big part of my nieces’ lives. It made me face my fear of having little girls.

My father’s Side: My Brothers, Sister & cousins. I love you guys.

My mother’s side: Having fun getting to know you.

My Rock Lake family: Thank you for helping keep me in line. I see you Cuz!

My Job Corps Family: C-Hall for Life!

Last but not least my Editor . . . Tamika S. Bell: Thank you for believing in me & this Project! When others said I couldn’t; you told me I would!

PROLOGUE

Life is like a Bank . . . You’ll never get anymore out of it then what you put into it. That was a metaphor. A Metaphor is defined as a figure of speech in which a term that ordinarily designates an object or idea is used to designate a dissimilar object or idea in order to suggest comparison or analogy. Okay guys I need you to keep up with me, we are going to go pretty fast. Another example is If you do good then good will come back to you but if you do bad, then bad will come back to you. That was something my grandfather told my uncles, and my uncles told their kids. Being that my dad was never really around it was my uncles that taught the old cliché to me. I wanted to start this book off with that metaphor because it’s something rooted deep within me, and if I ever have children I will pass it on to them. This book; yes, this Man Book is only my interpretation. It’s not based on facts although it is not all false either. I have talked to many men of different age groups and races and they think the content of this book is something that they can all agree upon. Some of the men that were asked may not agree in the order in which I have chosen to put it in, but they all have thought that everything I will attempt to touch on in this book should be known. Sadly to say I believe that with the lack of fathers in the household life value is not being preached to our children as it once was when I was growing up and the impact has caused our young men today to be lost.

There are going to be some people who get their hands on this book and disagree with me. There will also be some who get their hands on this book and see me as a sale out. Nevertheless, I really don’t care how they feel. If this book changes just one young man way of thinking then it will was all worth it. Now as I said before my father was not around much however, I knew him, I even spent time with him. Once my mother called herself kicking my brother and me out the house and we had to live with our father. My father was not a sociable man; he had hatred in his heart. When he died I went to his home with my younger sister who was very, VERY close to him and I found his journal. Although it was hard to read because it was mostly Chicken Scratch I was able to make out things like The Church is against me. They are all dumb; all of them all hate me. So needless to say my mother did not really want us around him much, but she never taught us to hate him. In fact with my mother did the total opposite. She relentlessly told us how we only have one father and we should try to get to know him. As a child that was hard, because I grow up around family and friends who had their fathers, so I felt that I should have mine too. Now that I look back on my life I am kind of glad my father was not around much, because like a quote from my favorite movie {A Bronx Tale} I got two educations.

They say It takes a Village to raise a child . . . . I found that to be true. I was blessed with having more than one father. First there was my older brother Aaron. He and I pretty much raised each other. From the time I can remember if Aaron got into a fight, we both got in to a fight. Whatever Aaron was a part of I was a part of, or at least I wanted to be. There was this time when Aaron and his friends called themselves going to start a Gang and I wanted in. He told me I was too young and I could not keep up. When I explained to him I was just as brave as him or any of his friends he told me that If you really want to be in their gang I will have to jump from the second floor of the apartments. I guess he thought I would be too scared to do it, but little did he know if it meant that I was going to get to hang with my big brother, I was willing to do so. Aaron thought I died when I was knocked out from the jump. I was not hurt much; I just had all the wind knocked out of me. I was sort of pissed off when I came to and found out that none of them had jumped, but I was officially a part of the gang.

One of the true turning points in my life was the day I was about ten years old and Aaron saw me with my friends. I was not paying any attention and I was walking, looking towards the ground. Aaron called me Spencer comes over here now so I ran as fast as I could. Why are you walking behind your friends with your head down? Are you a leader or a follower? I’m a leader! He said Then lead!! Don’t ever let me see you walking behind anybody ever again, you understand me? I did, since that day I never followed another person in my life. That was all thanks to my big brother, who was also like a son to me also. I have had to get his butt out of some jams too.

Then there is my God Brother Timothy. Now he taught me about my selfish ways. When I was younger I never would share anything not even my food or drink. One day Timothy asked if I can give him some of my potato chips but as always I said no. Timothy was the type that rarely gets mad and if he did he never really showed it. That is when Timothy came up with a plan, he worked at a restaurant that I liked and when he would get off he would come by my house with a bag full of food and wait for me to ask for some, then he would give me the same answer I gave him so many times before No . . . I would beg and plead for some, but he would never budge. So after about six months I thought I had an idea, I would offer Timothy some of my food and then he would Have to say yes next time he had some food I wanted. I figured he would have to give it to me. So, I went up to Timothy and offered him some of my food, but to my surprise he turned it down. With all my brothers it was almost a healthy compaction to see who could get who worst. After that Timothy was the champion! I stopped asking him for food, but whenever I had something I would share it with him, and after about a year or so I was not sharing because I wanted anything of his; it was because I wanted to share from my heart. Afterwards, that is when it happened Timothy could tell that I was not giving because I wanted some of his food, but because he really is like a brother to me. Roughly about a year later Timothy asked "Spencer you want some of my food? I can’t eat it all; I thought he was just testing me, or maybe it was another trick so I turned it down. This time, I could tell he really wanted to share with me; so I took some and Timothy and I have been sharing everything ever since!

Furthermore, I have an Uncle named Charles, although he wasn’t around much because he lived in New York, and I was raised in Orlando, Florida he taught me a lot. Everything he did he did it hard! He worked hard, played hard, and drank hard. He was the Gun in one hand, and the Bible in the other hand kind of man. He didn’t take $&%@ from anyone, and from what I hear he was just like my grandfather. That is where I get my I don’t take $&%@ from anyone mentality. Then there is my Uncle William, he was the smart successful one of my two uncles’ that came around from time to time. I can clearly remember he was the first person I knew who had a sports car where you had to put the code in on the side to open the door. Before he left our house I had cracked the code, and had both of his doors opened. I recall thinking to myself, I want to be rich like my Uncle Will. Even though he wasn’t rich but you would have never known. Next there was my Brother-in-Law Devon {R.I.P.}. He took it upon himself to teach me all there was to know about sex and drugs! My brother Aaron and I would spend every summer at my sister house, one of the first things Devon made us do was smoke weed. He said if he ever caught us smoking he was going kill both of us. Then he had us watch porn in his mind porn was how real women like having sex, and he wanted both of us to know what we are doing. You don’t want to run up in there with just your D*#K in your hand and not know how to use it. That was his Philosophy! Take care of your family, eat, sleep, $&%@, F&$% and everything else will work itself out. Sadly it didn’t work itself out because he wasn’t there emotional for my sister, and she left him. {That’s when I started thinking you can’t do enough to please a woman. Not knowing that love is more than just sex, and a roof over her head}.

Then came . . . My Godfather! No not Don Corleone but Mr. Jackson. He was that Spiritual father I needed. In other words he was a sanctified, GOD fearing Deacon of the church. He and my Godmother had me up in church before I even really knew what church was, or was about! I grew up Jehovah Witness so I hadn’t seen anything like that way the members of the church were behaving. I’ll never forget I was at my God family’s home, and I had a head ache. I asked my Godfather if he had any Aspirin, and he told me no. Now growing up I wasn’t really all that shy, as a matter of fact you can say when I was around people I knew I was the LIFE OF THE PARTY! So when he noticed that I was just sitting on the couch just holding my head he knew I was in real pain! He asked me if my head was really hurting that bad and I told him yes, so he told me to follow him because he had something for me to take. Because I grow up Jehovah Witness, I didn’t know anything about Laying of the Hands, but he stopped me in the hallway, and told me to close my eyes. I saw that TV Special so I gave him that What you talking about Willis look, and he told me. Does your head still hurt? Well do you want it to stop? Then close your eyes. So I did, and when he touched my forehead I thought, D&#* I got to call the cops on Mr. Jackson, but I didn’t. He started praying over my head ache, and telling it to go away . . . Believe it or not my head ache left right then and there I was amazed. I never seen anyone call on GOD like that before, and he showed up and told my headache to leave right then and there!

There was also my Uncle Danny. Now my Uncle Danny was that Cosby father. He had the good job, always had family, friends, and church members coming by his house, and he had that two boys, two girls thing going on. I remember the first SIT down dinner I ever had as a family was with my cousin Thomas Jr. family. I felt like Cockroach Bill Cosby’s son’s best friend on the show, because I never saw the butt whippings’ my cousin’s got, I only seen the good times like on TV. I thought to myself, WOW they are the ‘Perfect’ family. Not knowing like every family there were problems. I just knew when I was growing up I used to wish I was adopted so I could have sit down dinners with my family, and so my mom would take me to my Chorus rehearsal, and my dad would take me to the basketball games, but I never got that.

There was also Mr. Wilson. He was the playful dad that we all wanted in the neighborhood. It wasn’t anything for Mr. Wilson to get home, put on his Outside clothes and race one of us kids in the hood. The truth is he won most of them, that is until we started getting older, and Mr. Wilson started getting OLD-er. He would also come and play basketball, and joke around with us. I considered him a Cosby dad also. Very much into the church, I can remember my friend, and his son Jerome had every Super Book cartoon on {V.H.S.} and he had like three or four Bible video games, games you never even heard of. What I remember the most was Mr. and Mrs. Wilson would always joke with me, because I would always drink more water than everyone else. They would always say, If the human body is 89% water, we own 70% of you as much of our water you drink up.