Overcoming Masturbation and Impure Thoughts: A Letter to a Friend
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This book will not help you. Not unless you’re serious. How serious do you have to be? Jesus says, “If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off, and throw it from you; for it is better for you that one of the parts of your body perish, than for your whole body to go into hell” (Matt. 5:30 NASB).
This book will help you — if you're serious, but can’t figure out why you haven’t gotten victory.
There’s more to overcoming sexual sin than willpower. You will need the Holy Spirit. You will need the tools He has provided in His toolchest, the Bible. You will need prayer, fasting, and other disciplines. You will need to identify and know how to fight on three fronts at once: the world, the flesh, and the devil. The Bible gives us everything that we need for life and godliness (2 Pet. 1:3), but like most wars, it will take training (Luke 6:40; Heb. 12:11) in how to use God’s tools and methods. Too many people give up because all they have tried are weak weapons rather than the weapons that are “mighty in God for pulling down strongholds” (2 Cor. 10:4). For those committed to laying down their lives for Christ, this book gives you guidance that has already helped hundreds, young and old, to gain complete victory in this area of purity of thought and body.
Jesus says, “Without Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5). You can’t even catch a fish without God’s help. Just ask Simon Peter. He said, “Master, we have toiled all night and caught nothing; nevertheless at Your word I will let down the net” (Luke 5:5). It is only by faith that you can see Jesus do the impossible. May this book usher you into impossible victory after victory.
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Overcoming Masturbation and Impure Thoughts - Phillip Kayser
Overcoming Masturbation and Impure Thoughts
A Letter to a Friend
Phillip Kayser
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Table of Contents
1. The Letter
What Masturbation Is and Is Not
Why Is Masturbation Wrong?
How May We Overcome Masturbation and Impure Thoughts?
Don’t be Double Minded
Confess and Commit
Ask for God’s Strengthening Power — Lay Claim to His Grace
Make Affirmations of Faith — Put Off Negative Affirmations
Engage in Spiritual Warfare Prayer — Abide in Christ
Memorize Scripture
Meditate on the Word of God — Guard the Mind
Personal Testimony on How I Used This to Resist Satan
Be Serious! Be a Soldier!
Make Sure You Are Fighting the Right Enemy
Exercise the Same Discipline as Needed in Sports
Engage in Occasional Times of Fasting
Find Two Accountability Partners
Look for God’s Ways of Escape
2. Affirmations of Faith to Help You in the Battle
When you think, It’s impossible
When you think, I’m too tired
When you think, Nobody really loves me
When you think, I can’t go on
When you think, I can’t figure things out
When you think, I can’t do it
When you think, It’s not worth it
When you think, I can’t manage
When you think, I’m afraid
When you think, I’m always worried and frustrated
When you think, I don’t have enough faith
When you think, I’m not smart enough
When you think, I feel all alone
3. Scriptures to Claim for Resisting the Demonic
4. Scriptures to Counsel Self and Others
5. Appendix: Prayers for Spiritual Warfare
6. More Resources for Overcoming
23 Costs of Sexual Sin
Developing Sales Resistance to Porn
Yielding Rights Homework
Roots of Lying in 8 Areas of Life
Mastering Your Curiosity
Hope After Porn Testimonies
Sin Facilitators and Impediments Worksheet
Dr. Kayser’s Favorite Counseling Verses
King David and Missing Sexual Hedges
Bathsheba and Missing Sexual Hedges
Covering Sin
Pagan Thinking in a Christian Family
Notes
1. The Letter
Dear Friend,
I know exactly what you are struggling with. This was an affliction for me during my teenage years until a pastor showed me the ropes
of victory over sin. Using these Biblical principles, God not only gave me complete victory over masturbation long before I was married, but He also gave me victory over an impure thought life. I was so transformed by God’s Spirit in the renewing of my mind (Rom. 12:1-3) that even my dream life was transformed. Instead of engaging in sin during my dreams, I found myself resisting the world, the flesh and the devil using the same Biblical principles that I used during the day. I praise God for the much more
passages of Scripture!
For where sin abounded, grace abounded much more. (Rom. 5:20)
The ministry of righteousness exceeds much more in glory. (1 Cor. 3:9)
How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without spot to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God? (Heb. 9:14)
What Masturbation Is and Is Not
Genesis 38:9 is not a reference to masturbation. It is an ungodly attempt to avoid children altogether and a violation of a covenant promise. Masturbation is actually not mentioned in the Bible, but principles of Scripture do apply. In this letter, masturbation will be defined strictly as any kind of self-satisfaction of the sexual impulse that does not depend upon one’s married partner. Manual satisfaction of a married partner is not wrong, nor is receiving such from your spouse (see Song of Solomon).¹ Such ministry to each other draws couples together in mutual dependence whereas self-satisfaction shows no dependence upon the spouse and drives partners apart in terms of psychological need. Paul’s instructions about sexuality in 1 Corinthians 7 indicate that one must depend upon one’s spouse for sexual enjoyment or release. But Song of Solomon shows that there are more ways than penetration in which this can be done. So to repeat, masturbation is self-satisfaction sexually without recourse to and dependence upon one’s spouse.²
Why Is Masturbation Wrong?
Though there is debate on this question, let me give you six very summary reasons why masturbation is wrong.
It is wrong if it controls you or you are enslaved by it
All things are lawful to me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful to me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. (1 Cor. 6:12)
The first principle is that masturbation can be very enslaving. Counselors regularly see young people so tangled up in masturbation that they can hardly think about anything but sex all day long. And the more they engage in masturbation, the more they depend upon it. And the more they feed it, the more they are trapped by it. They are caught up in a vicious circle that becomes worse and worse.
It is wrong if it is accompanied with heart adultery
You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not commit adultery,
but I say to you