Pathways to Nonviolent Communication: A Tool for Navigating Your Journey

By Jim Manske

In 2010, four certified trainers of Nonviolent Communication produced a new tool to help people successfully learn, strengthen, and integrate the skills and consciousness of NVC. They called this tool the Pathways to Liberation Self-Assessment Matrix. Since then, thousands of NVC practitioners have been using the Matrix to identify skills, clarify strengths, discover edges, and navigate their own personal journeys toward emotional liberation and a more just, peaceful, and loving world.Now you too can use the Matrix to set a course toward self-knowledge, skill, and success. This guidebook shows you how.Written by Jim Manske, CNVC trainer and one of the four originators of the Matrix, Pathways to Nonviolent Communication: A Tool for Navigating Your Journey offers clear and specific suggestions for using the Matrix to assess your progress and assist others in deepening the skills and consciousness of NVC. Whether you are a longtime practitioner of NVC or have only recently begun your journey, the tool and techniques presented in this book will make every path more dynamic, accessible, and fun.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Independent Publishers Group
• Release date: Sep 1, 2021
• ISBN: 9781934336410

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Pathways to Nonviolent Communication

A Tool for Navigating Your Journey

© 2021 PuddleDancer Press

A PuddleDancer Press Book

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PuddleDancer Press will be donating the profits of the sale of this book to the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Jim Manske will be donating his royalties for the sale of this book to the Center for Nonviolent Communication.

Author: Jim Manske

Copyeditor: Kyra Freestar, Tandem Editing LLC

Cover and interior design: Shannon Bodie, www.BookWiseDesign.com

Cover source photo: www.istock.com, Thomas Vogel

Manufactured in the United States of America,

1st Printing, September 2021

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ISBNs: 978-1-934336-40-3 (print), 978-1-934336-41-0 (ebook)

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Manske, Jim, author.

Title: Pathways to nonviolent communication : a tool for navigating your journey / by Jim Manske.

Description: Encinitas, CA : PuddleDancer Press, [2021] | Includes index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2021015008 (print) | LCCN 2021015007 (ebook) | ISBN 9781934336403 (paperback) | ISBN 9781934336410 (ebook) | ISBN 9781934336410(ebook) | ISBN 9781934336403(paperback)

Subjects: LCSH: Nonviolence. | Interpersonal communication. | Interpersonal conflict.

Classification: LCC HM1281 .M364 2021 (ebook) | LCC HM1281 (print) | DDC 303.6/1--dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021015008

With our most sincere gratitude to Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, the creator of Nonviolent Communication

Endorsements of Pathways to Nonviolent Communication

For any approach including Nonviolent Communication there are certain pitfalls to look out for. This book helps us stay clear of those and remember the purpose of communication: connection. Furthermore, this book acknowledges the growth and development that we as human beings take becoming gradually more aware of more perspectives to include in our interconnectedness with others.

—LIV LARSSON, NVC trainer, mediator and author of A Helping hand: Mediation With Nonviolent Communication and Anger, Guilt & Shame: Reclaiming Power and Choice

"Pathways to Nonviolent Communication has contributed to filling up a big missing part in NVC by developing a systematic, versatile yet highly adjustable tool for learners and practitioners to do blame-free self-assessment alone and with others."

—JOSEPH MAN-KIT CHO, PHD, Lecturer of Gender Studies Programme, The Chinese University of Hong Kong

"Pathways to Nonviolent Communication offers ways to journey into a self-exploration to mindfully cultivate a consciousness of interdependence and shared power."

—DR. STEPHANIE BACHMANN MATTEI, CNVC Certified Trainer and Assessor

"Pathway to Nonviolent Communication: A Tool for Navigating Your Journey provides a practical comprehensive tool that sheds light on the journey from unskilled/unaware through to integrated consciousness. It unpacks the granular details of twenty-eight core competencies of compassionate communication via four distinct levels of development. It is clear, concise, and accessible. I highly recommend this as a valuable resource to all who are inspired to truly connect to self and others."

—SUSAN CARLTON, MED, Instructional Designer, Facilitator, NVC Practitioner, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

A gem for beginners and advanced practitioners alike! … There are practical examples of the usage of the Matrix in various scenarios, information around the different types of borders between levels of development … A comprehensive guide for anyone wanting to integrate NVC into their lives!

—JULI GOROG, Certified Trainer, Hungary

Whether you are new to Nonviolent Communication or a seasoned practitioner, this book is full of gems and insights to be harvested through your own lived experience.

—AGA RZEWUSKA-PACA, CNVC Certified Trainer, Poland

"I’m delighted to recommend this book! I love the clarity of the examples, descriptions, and suggestions for using the Matrix with one’s self or others. The charts provide structure and order, while options and invitations give choice and flexibility.

"Reminders to be gentle with ourselves convey warmth, compassion, and care.

"Pathways to Nonviolent Communication offers support not just for integrating the skills of Nonviolent Communication, but also for experiencing greater self-awareness, self-responsibility, growth, and freedom."

—JEAN MCELHANEY, MA, MS; CNVC-certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer; Licensed (USA) professional counselor and clinical social worker; ordained interfaith/interspiritual minister; certified Dances of Universal Peace leader, Torbay Auckland New Zealand

Clarity, insight, and wisdom for enhancing your journey!

—MARY MACKENZIE, CNVC Certified Trainer, author of Peaceful Living and cofounder of NVC Academy

Contents

Introduction

1Learning How the Matrix Works

2Exploring the Matrix of Self-Assessment

3Strategies for Using the Matrix Effectively

4Making Your Life More Wonderful With the Matrix

5Working as a Guide With Friends and Groups

6Optimizing Conditions for Working With the Matrix

Acknowledgments

Appendix

The Four-Part Nonviolent Communication Process

Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have

Nonviolent Communication Research and About Nonviolent Communication

About PuddleDancer Press

About the Center for Nonviolent Communication

Trade Books From PuddleDancer Press

About the Author

Introduction

Welcome! The book you are holding in your hands introduces a tool called the Pathways to Liberation Self-Assessment Matrix. The Matrix was developed to support self-assessment of the skills and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Ultimately, the purpose of this tool and this book is