Do You Want Cake Or Crumbs In Your Marriage?: Do You Want Cake Or Crumbs In Your Marriage?
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Let’s begin this book by asking ourselves this very critical question: “Who gets married to say they want a divorce?” Let me answer that for you: NO ONE DOES. When someone loves you, they see something that's worth something in you. Even couples who go into a marriage with prenuptial agreements signed have only signed these
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Do You Want Cake Or Crumbs In Your Marriage? - Dr. Myeshi Briley
INTRODUCTION
Let’s begin this book by asking ourselves this very critical question: Who gets married to say they want a divorce?
Let me answer that for you: NO ONE DOES. When someone loves you, they see something that's worth something in you. Even couples who go into a marriage with prenuptial agreements signed have only signed these prenups to protect themselves in the case of eventualities. They still hope for the very best in their marriages.
So Why Do Marriages Pack Up?
Why do marriages die? The answer to these questions is very easy. Marriage dies when you stop trying and that's on both parts; men and women.
I have seen many marriages fail because one or both partners failed to follow the Biblical injunction in John 15:12 which says, My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
We are no longer loving each other wholeheartedly and putting the needs of our partners ahead of ours. Today, there are three sides in a marriage, which are the truth
, the husband’s side
and the wife’s side
. It need not be.
If you want to work on your marriage, this book is for you. You may have cheated on your partner emotionally or you may have been the one who was cheated on; as long as you are both willing to move past the past and build a new future together, this book is for you.
Or perhaps, none of you has cheated on the other (yet) but you feel a disconnect between you and want to salvage your marriage. If you are in this kind of situation, this book will also help you.
But before we go forward, ask yourself this question; Do you want cakes or crumbs in your marriage?
If you want the cake, you have to work on it because nothing good comes easy, and if you want something better than good, you have to put in extra effort. But it is doable, and the beauty of a marriage that has been worked on is brilliant.
In this book, I will charge you to understand that marriage is not the place to stand up for your rights. According to 1 Corinthians 7:34, The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to please the husband.
Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or in everyday life. If you get this single fact and get it right, you have won half the battle.
I hope to see you on the other end of this book with a stronger marriage. For those whose trust has already been broken, I pray you find the healing and the courage to work things through.
I am praying that you choose the cake, rather than the crumbs.
And I hope and pray that you enjoy your very own version of happily ever after, starting today.
CHAPTER 1
DEFINING EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS: ARE THEY REAL?
An emotional affair occurs when someone who is already in a committed relationship invests emotional energy and time with and into another person outside of the primary (mostly marital) relationship. The person not only devotes more of their emotional energy outside of their marriage but also receives emotional companionship and support from the new relationship. When conducting an emotional affair, an individual feel closer to the other person and may experience swelling sexual chemistry or tension towards this person.
Most emotional affairs start innocently enough as friendships, but the platonic friendship begin to form a strong emotional bond as time goes on, and this strong emotional bond hurts the intimacy of the spousal relationship. A human being’s emotional energy is limited, and when a spouse is sharing intimate thoughts and feelings with someone else, an emotional affair has developed.
When emotional affairs first start, most people view it as harmless. There is usually no intent for these friendship bonds to become anything more. Despite the original intent, the line between close friendships and emotional affairs is thin, and it is important to understand that emotional affairs can also quickly lead to flirtation and sexual encounters. In fact, emotional affairs are often gateway affairs leading to full-blown sexual infidelity. Statistically, about half of emotional involvements do eventually turn into full-blown affairs, sex and all.
Emotional affairs can wreak havoc on the marriage as well as the family. We only have a certain amount of emotional energy and when we are not focusing this energy on our spouse, there is a need to find out where this might be directed at.
Although cheaters are often technically guilt free in an emotional affair because no sex is involved, their partners often view the emotional affair as harmful as a sexual affair.
For some individuals, the most painful and hurtful consequence of an emotional affair is the sense of deceit, betrayal and lies. Any