Relationship Technology: The Master Key to Understanding the Opposite Sex

By II Charles Martin

Much has been seen and said about relationships in the last decade or so, but is it the picture of marital love God wants us to see? Hidden in plain sight are subtle clues about women and men that He has­ given ­to ­help us clearly understand one another.

The Holy Spirit has artistically designed and mapped out in His word, a b

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trilogy Christian Publishing
• Release date: May 1, 2018
• ISBN: 9781640880726

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Copyright © 2018 Charles Martin II

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DEDICATION

To every man or woman who wants more from their relationships.

To every single woman and man that is tired of the game playing that takes place in the dating scene.

To every woman that tried to know a man’s heart and he never really opened up to her.

To every man who tried to understand a woman’s thinking but it never made sense to him.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I am so grateful to my parents, Charles and Susie Martin; for 21 years I was able to witness their marriage at close range. I learned marital lessons from them on how to enjoy marriage and to be patient. I must say that I have learned so much from my staff of leaders at what is now All Nations Champions Church. I am forever indebted to their love and graciousness towards my family and I. Their willingness to sacrifice time and talents to advance God’s vision for the ministry He has called us all to is a divine accomplishment. Thank you so much!

PROLOGUE

Like a child forcing puzzle pieces together that don’t fit and the pieces become worn and lose their crisp edge. God uses our incompatibilities to smooth out personality traits and eliminate baggage from past relationships. He slowly begins to prepare us today for what we will become tomorrow.

We tend to forget that we all are a work in progress. Signs like please forgive the mess we are remodeling and wet paint warn us that a building isn’t finished yet. Neither are we when we meet our future spouse. We also tend to be disappointed when our loved ones don’t measure up to our very high occupancy standards we hold others to.

A word from God on Relationships

His lord said unto him well done, my good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over man things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.

Matthew 25:23 (KJV)

One

A New Understanding

I have conducted quite a number of counseling sessions with different single and married people. Over time I began to notice certain trends and common problems in relationships that I had little help for. I began looking for real reasons people were frustrated with each other. I also noticed that some single people had given up on making an effort to understand why the opposite sex thinks, communicates and behaves the way they do.

Early on a sunny summer morning even before I was fully awake the Holy Spirit began to talk to my heart. I could hear his voice clearly articulating to me revelation I had never heard before.

He explained to me why many women and men had trouble relating properly to one another consistently. The Lord expressed to me his providence and wisdom in the way he designed us to relate to one another. And how important it is for us to understand and appreciate our distinct differences.

As the Spirit of God opened my understanding and made clear in my heart the revelatory knowledge I am about to share with you, I realized that the purpose of His visit that day was to

show me how to help believers learn to enjoy one another and to bring healing to those relationships that should mean so much to us.

Two

God Is A Generous God

Often when we evaluate our relationships and marriages we look at the personal benefits they bring. We look at the love we feel from the various people we have in our lives. We also should evaluate what we have to offer every relationship we are in. The word of God describes love as charity. (1corinthians 13;8) One way I like to define Marital love is the often unequal exchange of kindness and the willingness to be vulnerable to another imperfect person for a lifetime. Real love is eternal and unconditional because God is eternal and His love is unconditional. Only God can give us this love to give away. And when we are giving it God often will require us to give it like it will never run out. God is a generous God. And he will call us to be generous like he is with His Love. This amazing love is Him. We are giving Him away. God is love.

The enemy brings doubt and deception

The enemy comes to bring doubt in our minds about the generosity of our Creator. The enemy wants you to think God left you with a partner that is incapable of enhancing your life. You can be sure that God is too good to allow you to give love and forgiveness in a relationship and never get it back.

Many people look at past relationships to determine what happens in present relationships. That’s not the way God intended it to be. When the past begins to lie to you about your future, remind yourself of God’s generosity. God wants your relationships to be better than ever before.

He is willing to do what ever is necessary to bring us healing and restoration. You cannot bankrupt Gods goodness because it never runs out. His grace is sufficient. Your covenant relationships are very important to your heavenly Father. If you ask Him He will see to it that you have all of the tools you need to