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On Marriage and Family Life - Saint John Chrysostom
On Marriage and Family Life
by Saint John Chrysostom
First published in 1889
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ON MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE
by Saint John Chrysostom
CONTENTS:
Homily XIX. 1 Cor. 7:1, 2
Homily XX. Ephesians 5:22–24
Homily XXI. Ephesians 6:1–3
On Marriage And Family Life
1 Cor. 7:1, 2
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote to me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of fornications, let each man have his own wife; and let each woman have her own husband. (1 Cor7:1-2)
Having corrected the three heaviest things laid to their charge, one, the distraction of the Church, another, about the fornicator, a third, about the covetous person, he thenceforth uses a milder sort of speech. And he interposes some exhortation and advice about marriage and virginity, giving the hearers some respite from more unpleasant subjects. But in the second Epistle he does the contrary; he begins from the milder topics, and ends with the more distressing. And here also, after he has finished his discourse about virginity, he again launches forth into matter more akin to reproof; not setting all down in regular order, but varying his discourse in either kind, as the occasion required and the exigency of the matters in hand.
Wherefore he says, Now concerning the things whereof you wrote unto me.
For they had written to him, Whether it was right to abstain from one’s wife, or not:
and writing back in answer to this and giving rules about marriage, he introduces also the discourse concerning virginity: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
For if,
says he, you enquire what is the excellent and greatly superior course, it is better not to have any connection whatever with a woman: but if you ask what is safe and helpful to your own infirmity, be connected by marriage.
But since it was likely, as also happens now, that the husband might be willing but the wife not, or perhaps the reverse, mark how he discusses each case. Some indeed say that this discourse was addressed by him to priests. But I, judging from what follows, could not affirm that it was so: since he would not have given his advice in general terms. For if he were writing these things only for the priests, he would have said, It is good for the teacher not to touch a woman.
But now he has made it of universal application, saying, It is good for a man;
not for priest only. And again, Art you loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife.
He said not, You who are a priest and teacher,
but indefinitely. And the whole of his speech goes on entirely in the same tones and in saying, Because of fornications, let every man have his own wife
by the very cause alleged for the concession he guides men to continence.
Ver. 3. Let the husband pay the wife the honor due to her: in like manner the wife the husband.
Now what is the meaning of the due honor? The wife has not power over her own body;
but is both the slave and the mistress of the husband. And if you decline the service which is due, you have offended God. But if thou wish to withdraw thyself, it must be with the husband’s permission, though it be but a for short time. For this is why he calls the matter a debt, to show that no one is master of himself but that they are servants to each other.
When therefore you see a harlot tempting you, say, My body is not mine, but my wife’s.
The same also let the woman say to those who would undermine her chastity, My body is not mine, but my husband’s.
Now if neither husband nor wife has power even over their own body, much less have they over their property. Hear ye, all that have husbands and all that have wives: that if you must not count your body your own, much less your money
Elsewhere I grant he gives to the husband abundant precedence, both in the New Testament, and the Old saying, Thy turning shall be towards thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
(Gen. 3:16.) Paul does so too by making a distinction thus, and writing, Husbands, love your wives; and let the wife see that she reverence her husband.
(Ephes. v. 25, 33.) But in this place we hear no more of greater and less, but it is one and the same right. Now why is this? Because his speech was about chastity. In all other things,
says he, let the husband have the prerogative; but not so where the question is about chastity.
The husband has no power over his own body, neither the wife.
There is great equality of honor, and no prerogative.
Ver. 5. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent.
What then can this mean? Let not the wife,
says he, exercise continence, if the husband be unwilling; nor yet the husband without the wife’s consent.
Why so? Because great evils spring from this sort of continence. For adulteries and fornications and the ruin of families have often arisen from hence. For if when men have their own wives they commit fornication, much more if yon defraud them of this consolation. And