The Human Mind

By Marion Julius

The Human Mind is a book which can help people with their daily lives giving them ideas as to how to deal with their own problems. It gives the reader some information about the mind and to help them understand why they might make the choices they do it gives them hope, inspiration and helps to motivate them to sort out their personal problems so they can have peace of mind, more success and happiness. Understanding that our thoughts which are negative can lead us to having thoughts which confuse us and we tend to make the wrong choices for the reader to get over that and think better thoughts which can help them get better outcomes and results in their lives.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tablo Publishing
• Release date: Jan 16, 2021
• ISBN: 9781649695109

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Chapter 2: How To Behave

HOW TO BEHAVE

Why Am I Behaving This Way?

People are always saying things like why is this happening to me? its because of your behavior you have behaved in a way that has made this occur in your life. You have said or did something that has cause this situation to take place this is why you find yourself in this circumstance. Whether it was instigated by yourself or by others and you took part and/or you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Our behavior begins by what we think and what we do so if we are thinking of revenge then if your personality type is a vindictive and threatening type you will behave by going to do something such as maybe hurt someone physically. And then later on you may either regret it or you'll feel guilty and live with the burden you behave that way because you are lacking something you're not able to deal with certain things. You hide, run, lie, deny and worry getting stressed but how to make things better is to change your behavior going about things in a different way.

Slow down...be patient...step by step...day by day...changing your behavior is a learning curve we all learn by our mistakes some people tend to repeat the same mistakes over and over. You need to break out of that repetitive pattern which leads you back to that same crap situation. If you don't change and recognize that you have a problem its only going to get worse. Your behavior is the reason why you might not be as successful as you want to be, maybe this is why your relationships fail or it be for some other reason. If its a person that is causing you to behave that way stay away from them, leave them, ignore them, get on with it and move on with your life. Ifs its a place then stay away from it, walk the other way and stop all communication with them.

Example One: The Criminal

Let's say you're a criminal right and you have committed a serious crime you've been living with this for so long.

When this took place instead of acting on impulse and doing it you should have stepped back and stopped to think about it more not behaving that way saying to yourself how is this going to affect the rest of my life?

So your bad thought which made you react in a negative way causing your behavior to go out and do the wrong thing.

Example Two: The Detective

Let's say you're a Detective and you are having difficulty gathering intelligence and evidence to catch a killer right someones planted in your mind a thought right and they hand you over something so your thought which was the wrong thought leads you to react in a way making you behave in a way which leads you to a dead end you because of your behavior and thoughts in your mind and the way you reacted has now let the victim rot away like a skeleton and the killer has gotten away with murder. Because you behaved in a way which was caused by a thought the way you were thinking. So what you need to do is to firstly evaluate the whole scenario before jumping to conclusions to allow you to behave in a manner which will get you the intelligence, the correct information and evidence to make an arrest.

The both of you are running around in circles the detective is flashing badges at people reading emails getting confused and the bad guy is in hiding trying to fish for information you

So my point is this is happening to you because of the way you behaved in the first place this is why this crap is happening in your life.

Example Three: The Man/The Woman

Let's say you cheated on someone or someone cheated on you let's say you love your wife but your not totally happy right so you go and have an affair you sneak around and later on she finds out or something happens and she is angry and upset and it causes problems. So something in your mind a thought which made you react in a way which caused you to behave that way maybe you weren't totally satisfied in the marriage something missing or other so instead of making you do those things behaving that way sit down with your wife/partner/girlfriend and TALK TALK TALK TALK COMPROMISE and then kiss and make-up.

So my point being why do I go sleeping around all the time what's wrong with me? Your behavior made you this way so change your thinking and behave in a way that won't bring crap into your lives.

The way we behave might lead us down a path of chaos and destruction possibly causing harm to us and/or making us lose things we worked so hard for. It could change us and turn us into someone we don't really want to be we behave in ways because of the following:

We might be bored and go out and do something.

We could be getting forced to do something and aren't in control of the situation.

We are frustrated because we are not getting what we want so we could go out and do something stupid.

THINK BETTER.

REACT BETTER.

BEHAVE IN A BETTER WAY.

CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.

BE YOU. BE SMARTER. BE KIND.

Chapter 3: Your Emotions

How To Handle Emotions

Dealing With Feelings

How do you feel today? Are you feeling stressed? worried? angry? frustrated? happy? sad? excited? good? bad? Today I'm talking about emotions and how our thoughts can make our emotions change. Our thinking/thoughts can make our emotions react in a situation makes us have a feeling these emotions can make us doing things. And when this happens we could go and do something we might later regret these actions could then make us cause problems for ourselves and others.

Everyone wants to be happy and have great lives more good times than bad but the reality is that things do happen. Its up to you to deal with your own feelings people aren't always going to feel the same and that is a fact you can try to influence them and argue, debate and negotiate but there might still be conflict and this might never stop. Where ever we go and what we do our feelings/emotions are in control of our actions because what we think/thought/react causes emotions/feelings which might be hard to deal with for the weak you might go and get depressed for the strong you might go out and fight.

If you're feeling good and people around you might be feeling sad or miserable and you try to block it out because you don't want to go down that path and feel sad or depressed. Whether you're at work or out anywhere peoples feelings/emotions can get in the way of your own happiness so its important to look after yourself first before you go out and look after someone else. Caring about other peoples feelings is also necessary if people feel differently about something respect that and live with it you feel how you want to feel and they feel what they want to. You cannot force someone to feel like you feel so this is what we live with in our lives the human mind controls thoughts and thinking our body then reacts we then have a feeling/emotion.

When you love someone you feel happy, your life is filled with joy, you feel warm, you want to show them affection and hold them, you want to kiss them and your feelings are strong that your heart beats so fast. Your thoughts in your head are thinking wonderful things. Your feelings/emotions are going up and up everything is going great and you have nothing to worry about you're satisfied and feel good.

When you feel sad you might feel sad, feeling down, wanting to cry, hide and run away thinking thoughts of bad things worrying, stressing, contemplating making some stupid decisions and choices. Your mind is not thinking straight because of t his event that has taken in your life that you feel like giving up. Life feels as though its getting worse and feel as though there's no way out. You want to be happy but this sad thing won't go away.

Mixed feelings

Sometimes you feel happy but something bad happens or sad and its put you in a state where you just want everything to be good but you have to you need to you're forced to deal with the bad/sad thing. There's no way out because everywhere you go its going to follow you its glued to you its stuck its there permanently its there forever. You want it to go away but it won't the reality is sooner or later eventually you will have to face it this is what you need to do to then move forward. Because it will always be around you when people talk about it, write about it, speak about it and/or if the people around you are in a sad mood their negative/sad feeling will make you feel sad to block out the sad/negative energy which surrounds you.

PEOPLE AND FEELINGS:

Sometimes our feelings can and cannot be controlled depending on sort of person you are and/or depending on the situation that you're in. Each person might have different feelings and so they might be thinking very different to you,they may be having thoughts totally opposite you just when you think you're in control of a situation its possible you're not sometimes we're not in control of things so the human mind that give us thoughts what we think makes us react so when then go out and our behavior leads us to what we say and what are actions are.

The Criminal:

I feel like crap they are going to get evidence I'm screwed I feel so worried and upset I'm in trouble. I feel so stressed about this whole thing I can't sleep properly I feel down and I feel miserable.

The Detective:

I feel good.......I'm so happy I can't stop smiling and laughing I'm going to catch this bad man I'm smarter than him he's a idiot such a fool I'm going to track him down and solve the crime. I'm going to win Detective of the year the Commissioner is going to give me a promotion I feel excited life is wonderful.

Our feelings...our emotions...

They play a big part in our daily lives things can suddenly happen and can change so quickly from up to down then back up again, so as human beings we need to understand that each feeling we have can change us from being happy to sad to good to bad over and over non stop. You might get a phone call that changes your life, you business might all of a sudden fail and your screwed, you might find out your wife wants to leave you things just happen and that's life.

To be careful so that you don't let your emotions/feelings allow you to do something that is wrong or stupid one single thought or if someone plants an idea in your head at the time it seems like a good idea but its not it could change you and put you and others in danger.

Emotions/feelings

If you're feeling sad? You might cry.

If you're feeling happy? You might go out and have a good night with your friends.

If you're bored? You might feel frustrated there's nothing to do.

If you're feeling angry? You might go out and turn violent causing harm to yourself and others?

If you're feeling tired? You might go to sleep.

So my point being when you have a feeling about something have a think about it before you go out and do something stupid. Look at all options that are available and look at what is best for you. Choose the option that can give you the better outcome which won't cause trouble/problems for you.

FEEL GOOD LOOK GOOD.

YOUR THOUGHTS/THINKING CAUSE YOU TO REACT.

YOU THEN HAVE A FEELING.

MAKE A WISE DECISION.

Chapter 4: Investing In You

Gold Investment You

Life sure can be hard at times can't it? I bet you you all have been going through some crazy times in your life right? Ups and downs, break ups, make ups, divorce, separation, yelling, fighting, business change, changing jobs, meeting new people date after date but still no success. Making money, losing money, gambling money, counting every penny trying to save money, spending money, stress, feeling tired, lonely, bored, sad, depressed, angry, annoyed and frustrated. Things getting worse? or better? struggling? no pleasure? feeling upset? that's life the world we live in us human beings sure do have some interesting, sometimes hard, some days good, other times bad and sad times. But we try deal with it we try cope with it we try pray that things change faith or no faith? knocking on doors? making calls? sending texts, email after email, sending letters and trying to get that piece of information, that message that makes us feel good that reply that gives us the answer that appointment that give us the best satisfying pleasure which makes us feel so good. Still trying to find that serial killer? waiting to get that business loan? I know the cash flow not going well? staff are lazy or not intelligent yeah we get a lot of things in life don't we. Win some lose some try some and give some away getting sick or getting better or maybe getting worse life is hard some days seems easy but people have problems everywhere I've worked or socialized or events I went to etc. people have problems and they like to turn to me what can I do but listen right? I listen you know using my compassionate heart that I have still no happy with the way you look? sick and tired of your hairstyle or trying to fit into your jeans? or waiting for payday to go buy something its funny how the human mind does think the thoughts that go into our head and mind will she like me? will she go out with me? will she sleep with me? over and over these thoughts go through our head. The universe has plenty for everyone but sometimes people do the wrong things and turn into the wrong direction which makes them fail and things don't go as they planned they have to deal with failure and rejection and then disappointment they put into so much time, energy and money into trying to be that successful and happy and healthy person. So what is the best thing to invest in?

YOU...you are GOLD and your life is precious your life is very important and you need to take care of that your mind, body, spirit and well-being make yourself feel good. You just need someone out there to care, give you support, encourage you and inspire you that person to just give you that push to move forward in a POSITIVE way taking along with you courage, inner strength, determination and your mind and heart. Your situations don't have to be so bad things can change you can change your issues and problems can be sorted out. Look after yourself invest in something that will and can actually help don't keep trying your luck on gambling because their will be days you will lose don't keep denying that you have a problem re addiction deal with it before it gets worse. Don't be hard on yourselves but also don't give up if you're feeling down put on some inspiring music and dance or go sit by the beach and enjoy the people and serenity of listening to the ocean breeze try yoga or go for a walk in nature a park or somewhere that you like a place where you feel good. Look in the mirror and be happy with you don't beat yourselves up when things go wrong be grateful, appreciative and thankful for what you have a home, food, clothing, business, job and the ability to see, hear, walk, talk etc. as human beings we're always complaining or worrying but there's a time to stop and take a big breathe in and inhale and then exhale and try manage your problems, relationships and issues that seem to be worrying you. As a qualified therapist who studied counseling I find that people seem to let a past experience or trauma or failure/rejection or tragedy stress them out it drives them insane and makes them feel miserable. I feel sorry for these people they cry, sometimes I heard and saw such anger people want to throw things and talk about revenge how they are going to get back at those ex boyfriend/girlfriend etc. its so sad but forget the hurts and upsets look after you and go learn, grow, overcome obstacles and find a solution which can take you to a better mental, physical and spiritual state where you can move forward in your life. Sometimes we act in a way that’s not really who we are not our personality there are times people cannot deal with issues or too scared so they become and react in a different way. Some people are weak and cry others throw tantrums and others turn violent they lie or deny or hide or they make up stories.

If you're asking yourself questions such as:

For the wife:

Is he cheating on me? Should I hire a private investigator? Should I confront him?

For the husband:

Why is she always nagging and moody I pay for everything? Can't she wear sexy lingerie should I ask her?

For the criminal:

What if I get caught? what should I do? oh god what if the police know I did it and they got evidence? where can I go? Is the homicide squad going to knock on the door soon? oh god help me? someone help me? HELP THEY GONNA CATCH ME? for you people though if you people did bad things well its not for me to say what to do showing remorse might help maybe it won't saying sorry might help or maybe it won't your kind your actions/behavior has put you in this so people this is your own fault don't blame others. You chose to do those things or maybe you were forced? But its not for me to say this is your life sure people can forgive but what if others can't ? Are you ready to deal with that? maybe change for the better? Do right not wrong or good not bad.

What got me into that situation?

Why did I decide to do that?

Who made the decision to do that? YOU? ITS YOUR FAULT.

In life we all have FREE WILL your mind made that decision so don’t go around blaming others.

For the student:

What if I fail? What if I don't get a job after? Am I wasting my time?

For the sick:

This medication isn't working what can I try?

For the poor:

How can I get money?

For the rich:

What should I invest in a escort or mistress? or maybe invest into something that's going to make my business get more profit where can I go?

For the worker:

Oh god another bill when is this going to end help me someone...I'm working seven days a week feeding two kids and supporting a stay at home mom who just wants to have babies. No sex when I want it but she wants babies more and more babies I'm going to be broke. What can I do?

For the sad:

This is so depressing when is some handsome man going to ask me out what can I do to get that?

For the person who struggles financially:

More loss I just keep losing I shouldn't have spent my recent paycheck at the casino I'm doomed what can I do?

For the entertainer:

Am I too fat? Should I go on diet? Exercise more?

For the actor:

So many auditions but still no luck what's going on? How can I get this? Who can I turn to?

For the artist:

Why isn't people buying my paintings? I spend so many hours at the exhibitions and art gallery spent four years at university studying art how come I'm not successful. What can I do? How am I gonna support myself? Who can I turn to?

For the lawyer:

Damn it I lost another murder trial...I got to stop this pro Bono crap...my wife is going to leave me.

For the police officer/detective/investigator:

Here I am on duty late at night oh no its my wife’s birthday let me check my cell phone oh bumper she just sent a text message oops I missed her call. I got to get out of this UNSOLVED CRIMES department its ruining my life. My wife is going to be angry shes gonna yell at me. I should have caught that serial killer twenty years ago how stupid of me I let the victim rot away like a skeleton I'm a dickhead. I should have listened to that girl at the police station I'm stupid.

For the doctor:

Oh god the operation failed the patient got worse they are going to take me to court I'm gonna be sued damn it why is this happening to me? I take care of the sick how is this happening?

For the CEO:

Oh no I shouldn't of stolen from the company oh gosh I sent the money through to the