The Human Mind

By Marion Julius

Self-help book about the human mind it gives the reader useful information and ideas how to fix their own problems, helps them identify their weaknesses and find the talents they are good at, gives them encouragement to know that they can change through believing in themselves and that their lives can become better, Getting more happiness, love and success. The reader can become able to heal and let go all about the mind and how our thoughts can change us to become more positive if we think better. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Marion Julius
• Release date: Jan 10, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393892694

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Special thank you to:

L. Ron Hubbard

Synopsis

Sometimes our head gets filled with so much that we become overwhelmed with thoughts combined with mixed feelings. We try to too hard and think too much getting mentally drained and tired this makes become anxious and we begin to put into our minds not necessary thoughts which will turn into headaches. When we are thinking clearer our thoughts become better allowing us to focus better and organize our lives with making better decisions and choices. When thoughts are clouded and we don't see clear we may react to the situation in the wrong way and cause problems for ourselves not giving us a good outcome and positive results. Being the person we are we may not be able to handle the situation causing us to act as someone we are not our personality type might be someone who is really quiet and reserved. But because we cannot deal with the situation we may change and turn into someone who screams or cries not knowing what to do. Or if we are usually a strong and tough person in general it could turn us into someone who might panic and become scared. We begin to allow our thoughts to control the way we behave and at times we may react in the wrong way not giving us a better outcome we then see ourselves as a failure. The human mind, brain and behavior contains many forms of things from ideas, feelings, reactions and nerves which are what get used by us human beings on a daily basis. This book gives the reader an informative look at how we can adjust, reconsider, rethink, reevaluate and organize our way of thinking to give us a better solution to our problems. By understanding the human behavior, how we act and what our emotions are we can find ways to learn and so we can communicate better with each other. Through studying and putting into practice what we learned people are around people all the time at work and in the general public. Also with families and relatives and each person has their own unique personality and not everyone thinks the same so by understanding how people are we can determine how we should react and deal with them. The human mind once you think clearly and aren’t so confused people can handle situations better so by focusing on what your weaknesses are people can get stronger and become better at things. So our outcomes and results will be more positive so it can make our lives easier. By putting together information that involves various situations and problems people can get an insight how to deal with issues.

Fore ward

I started doing some research about the human mind I was interested in how it worked how it functioned with human beings. With feelings, emotions and problems during my life like many people we’ve all had to deal with problems in our lives. Having read articles, watched many television shows and movies I have been collecting information about the human mind. I wanted to collaborate useful ideas for people to help them and myself with how to understand the mind and how we use it when having to make decisions in our lives. There’s so much involved in a human beings brain and many things to learn and know about so I wanted to make a book noting down the basic necessary things for people to know about. The human mind has been a topic that mankind has been fascinated with for a long time I wanted to turn it into a self-help book for people to help others. By creating a resource material that people turn to to when they want to go over things and help themselves when they need help, support, advice and encouragement. I’ve always wanted to help others and help my community through writing, words, wisdom, knowledge and personal experience I had hoped to turn this into a book which can help people be motivated and inspired. Not many people take the time out to learn and get to know about the human mind its a very interesting thing to know about and the more we get to learn the more we grow then we can share and pass on useful information and ideas to help others. So I thought of this idea because without knowing about it how can we understand why we decide on things in life and getting to know about it can help your body, mind and spirit.

Contents

Chapter One:  The Human Mind

Chapter Two:   Gold Investment

Chapter Three:  How To Behave

Chapter Four:   How To Handle Emotions

Chapter Five:   The Power Of Influence

Chapter Six:    Attracting The Right People

Chapter Seven:  Don't Give Up Try Again

Chapter Eight:  Take The Risk Or Play Safe

Chapter Nine:  Learn By Your Mistakes

Chapter Ten:   Dealing With Addictions

Chapter Eleven:  Where You Went Wrong

Chapter Twelve:   Change For The Better

Chapter Thirteen:  Listen Carefully

Chapter Fourteen:   Ignore Negative People

Chapter Fifteen:   Pay Attention

Chapter Sixteen:   Heal Yourself

Chapter Seventeen:   Live and Learn

Chapter Eighteen:   Finding Inspiration

Chapter Nineteen:  Overcome Obstacles and fears

Chapter Twenty:   Memories

Chapter Twenty -One:  Beliefs

Chapter Twenty- Two:  Dreams

Chapter Twenty -Three:  The Six Dimensions of the Mind

Chapter Twenty- Four:  What's in the human mind

Chapter Twenty- Five:  Change for the better

Chapter Twenty- Six:  Training for sports

Chapter Twenty -Seven:  Mind Over Matter

Chapter Twenty -Eight:   Attention To Detail

Chapter Twenty- Nine:  Unleash your potential

Chapter Thirty:  Financial Matters

Chapter Thirty- One: Ask the questions don’t assume the answers

Chapter Thirty -Two:  Take A Break Have A Holiday

Chapter Thirty -Three:  What time of the day do we think best.

Chapter Thirty- Four:  The Levels To Success

Chapter Thirty- Five:  Join A Community

Chapter Thirty- Six:  What’s The Problem

Chapter Thirty -Seven:  Goals And Targets

Chapter Thirty- Eight: Where Am I going?

Further Reading:   More Reading Various Topics

Chapter One:

The Human Mind

For so long mankind has researched how the human mind works the way we think how thoughts go into our mind thinking good or bad thoughts and sometimes trying to stop thinking about things because our mind becomes confused should we think this? or think that? why can't I stop thinking about this? I got to get this out of my head all we know is that days and nights our minds are filled with thoughts that we process through our head during the day.

That is what we end up thinking about and even before we go to sleep we often think more about things. Which is why we find it hard to go to sleep at night we get influenced by people and places which often leads us to thinking about those things. Or when people say things to us whether good or bad it influences the way our mind thinks. The anger and stress we build up within us over a situation causes us to get a headache because we are either worried or scared about an event that happened whether its about a fight or death or something else.

This unpleasant experience which makes us think that way at times we sometimes think the worse but its not so bad and we thought of those negative things for nothing. Or thinking of answers to questions at school or work or studying strain builds up in our head/mind.

Some days we cannot control the thoughts in our mind we try to force it them to go away. They don't and it distracts us from carrying on with business/work etc. We tell ourselves to stop thinking it over and over but it stays in the back of our mind.

If people say things to us such as:

EXAMPLE:

You're stupid.

You would think am I stupid or why are they saying that or no I'm not stupid depending on your personality and the way you take things.

When you're doing something like watching television maybe a movie and your mind will be most likely be thinking about what the people said. Maybe you're thinking about what's about to happen next in the story However some other people might have something else on in their mind a problem so they don't really pay attention to the television.

The thoughts in our mind make us have emotions if we are thinking about something sad we might cry or if we are thinking about a future event which makes us happy we smile and laugh and feel good inside. Controlling what is in our mind takes time because some people are stronger than others therefore they can control what they are thinking. But others are very weak and might not take things so well they constantly think about a issue and it makes them have thoughts in their mind which drives them to feel so sad or angry. Some might be living with guilt or shame and so they may ten to think about the same thing again and again they carry on with their daily lives but it still sits in the back of their mind.

And so when we perform at a sport or school or business or work we cannot get the results we hoped for. They are then disappointed and feel discouraged but this all because their mind and thoughts floating around in their head. Lack of focus on what they are doing however it doesn't have to be that way.

THE HUMAN MIND - THOUGHTS - THINKING - IDEAS

The thoughts we have might influence what we do next we need to be careful so that we don't jump and act impulsively causing us to make the wrong choice. Our thinking makes us have an emotion and so we react in that way by stopping for a moment and evaluating the situation and sitting down going through it slowly may give you a better answer and/or idea so that your next step is the step in the direction which takes you to what your goal/plan/target etc.

You all might need to improve in areas with your personality you might be strong and good in one area eg. business but you are weak in your relationships eg. marriage so by helping to get your weaker side stronger you are then able to improve so you can have a much healthier relationship.

When we process information into our mind we might be able to let it sink in straight away and/or maybe for others it take awhile for them to totally understand it so that its clear. When things are clear its easier to move forward but it you're the sort of person who is confused about things your mind might make you react in a different way causing you to fail or maybe cause problems for yourself.

For some people they live in a fantasy world maybe they live double lives maybe their whole life is a lie and they hide behind a mask so they forget when to lie. And for others they have an imagination and are always dreaming not being able to then cope and deal with the reality that is in front of them.

The thoughts that we have make us do things if we think something sad we want to hide and not talk to anyone. But if we think of good things we will get up and do things not feel down and miserable. Your negative thoughts/thinking can go worse and it might lead to depression, sadness, possibly anxiety, phobias and panic attacks because you’re worried about something. Depending on your situation that you’re going through positive thinking helps because your mind is focusing on things which didn’t make you feel angry or stressed. By controlling your thoughts so that you can act in a way that won’t cause a problem for you.

In our minds we have the following:

1. We store information

2. Memories

3. Thinking of answers

4. Thinking of questions

5. Thinking about ideas

6. Thinking what to do

What you think is up to you you will need to learn how to control the thoughts inside your mind. If you're thinking of something you cannot put down because you fear if you make a the wrong move its going to cause trouble for you. Your life then gets turned upside down because of this event/experience that keeps going through your mind the ultimate choice is yours do you want to continue worrying and stressing? or do you want to find out what you're not good at and make things better for yourself. Don't allow confusion and negativity to run and take over your life.

Mankind needing to survive in this world having to deal with all the problems which life throws at him. Throughout our lives we face a huge amount of problems they are easy and can get complicated and tough but with having the right attitude and positive we try to cope and manage with our lives. People are too scared to face the truth so they create a story to cover up what they don't want to reveal and talk about people live with so much locked up in their minds.

CLEAR YOUR MIND.

PROCESS INFORMATION (THOUGHTS, IDEAS,THINKING)

MAKE YOUR MOVE.

BE FREE OF CONFUSION

FIND YOUR SOLUTION

Chapter Two:

HOW TO BEHAVE

Why Am I Behaving This Way

People are always saying things like why is this happening to me? its because of your behavior you have behaved in a way that has made this occur in your life. You have said or did something that has cause this situation to take place this is why you find yourself in this circumstance. Whether it was instigated by yourself or by others and you took part and/or you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Our behavior begins by what we think and what we do so if we are thinking of revenge then if your personality type is a vindictive and threatening type you will behave by going to do something such as maybe hurt someone physically. And then later on you may either regret it or you'll feel guilty and live with the burden you behave that way because you are lacking something you're not able to deal with certain things. You hide, run, lie, deny and worry getting stressed but how to make things better is to change your behavior going about things in a different way.

Slow down........be patient........step by step.......day by day........changing your behavior is a learning curve we all learn by our mistakes some people tend to repeat the same mistakes over and over. You need to break out of that repetitive pattern which leads you back to that same crap situation. If you don't change and recognize that you have a problem its only going to get worse. Your behavior is the reason why you might not be as successful as you want to be, maybe this is why your relationships fail or it be for some other reason. If its a person that is causing you to behave that way stay away from them, leave them, ignore them, get on with it and move on with your life. Ifs its a place then stay away from it, walk the other way and stop all communication with them.

Example One: The Criminal

Let's say you're a criminal right and you have committed a serious crime you've been living with this for so long.

When this took place instead of acting on impulse and doing it you should have stepped back and stopped to think about it more not behaving that way saying to yourself how is this going to affect the rest of my life?

So your bad thought which made you react in a negative way causing your behavior to go out and do the wrong thing.

Example Two: The Detective

Let's say you're a Detective and you are having difficulty gathering intelligence and evidence to catch a killer right someones planted in your mind a thought right and they hand you over something so your thought which was the wrong thought leads you to react in a way making you behave in a way which leads you to a dead end you because of your behavior and thoughts in your mind and the way you reacted has now let the victim rot away like a skeleton and the killer has gotten away with murder. Because you behaved in a way which was caused by a thought the way you were thinking. So what you need to do is to firstly evaluate the whole scenario before jumping to conclusions to allow you to behave in a manner which will get you the intelligence, the correct information and evidence to make an arrest.

The both of you are running around in circles the detective is flashing badges at people reading emails getting confused and the bad guy is in hiding trying to fish for information you

So my point is this is happening to you because of the way you behaved in the first place this is why this crap is happening in your life.

Example Three: The Man/The Woman

Let's say you cheated on someone or someone cheated on you let's say you love your wife but your not totally happy right so you go and have an affair you sneak around and later on she finds out or something happens and she is angry and upset and it causes problems. So something in your mind a thought which made you react in a way which caused you to behave that way maybe you weren't totally satisfied in the marriage something missing or other so instead of making you do those things behaving that way sit down with your wife/partner/girlfriend and TALK TALK TALK TALK COMPROMISE and then kiss and make-up.

So my point being why do I go sleeping around all the time what's wrong with me? your behavior made you this way so change your thinking and behave in a way that won't bring crap into your lives.

The way we behave might lead us down a path of chaos and destruction possibly causing harm to us and/or making us lose things we worked so hard for. It could change us and turn us into someone we don't really want to be we behave in ways because of the following:

1. We might be bored and go out and do something.

2. We could be getting forced to do something and aren't in control of the situation.

3. We are frustrated because we are not getting what we want so we could go out and do something stupid.

THINK BETTER

REACT BETTER

BEHAVE IN A BETTER WAY.

CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.

BE YOU . BE SMARTER . BE KIND.

Chapter Three:

How To Handle Emotions

Dealing With Feelings

How do you feel today? are you feeling stressed? worried? angry? frustrated? happy? sad? excited? good? bad? today I'm talking about emotions and how our thoughts can make our emotions change. Our thinking/thoughts can make our emotions react in a situation makes us have a feeling these emotions can make us doing things. And when this happens we could go and do something we might later regret these actions could then make us cause problems for ourselves and others.

Everyone wants to be happy and have great lives more good times than bad but the reality is that things do happen. Its up to you to deal with your own feelings people aren't always going to feel the same and that is a fact you can try to influence them and argue, debate and negotiate but there might still be conflict and this might never stop. Where ever we go and what we do our feelings/emotions are in control of our actions because what we think/thought/react causes emotions/feelings which might be hard to deal with for the weak you might go and get depressed for the strong you might go out and fight.

If you're feeling good and people around you might be feeling sad or miserable and you try to block it out because you don't want to go down that path and feel sad or depressed. Whether you're at work or out anywhere peoples feelings/emotions can get in the way of your own happiness so its important to look after yourself first before you go out and look after someone else. Caring about other peoples feelings is also necessary if people feel differently about something respect that and live with it you feel how you want to feel and they feel what they want to. You cannot force someone to feel like you feel so this is what we live with in our lives the human mind controls thoughts and thinking our body then reacts we then have a feeling/emotion.

When you love someone you feel happy, your life is filled with joy, you feel warm, you want to show them affection and hold them, you want to kiss them and your feelings are strong that your heart beats so fast. Your thoughts in your head are thinking wonderful things. Your feelings/emotions are going up and up everything is going great and you have nothing to worry about you're satisfied and feel good.

When you feel sad you might feel sad, feeling down, wanting to cry, hide and run away thinking thoughts of bad things worrying, stressing, contemplating making some stupid decisions and choices. Your mind is not thinking straight because of t his event that has taken in your life that you feel like giving up. Life feels as though its getting worse and feel as though there's no way out. You want to be happy but this sad thing won't go away.

Mixed feelings

Sometimes you feel happy but something bad happens or sad and its put you in a state where you just want everything to be good but you have to you need to you're forced to deal with the bad/sad thing. There's no way out because everywhere you go its going to follow you its glued to you its stuck its there permanently its there forever. You want it to go away but it won't the reality is sooner or later eventually you will have to face it this is what you need to do to then move forward. Because it will always be around you when people talk about it, write about it, speak about it and/or if the people around you are in a sad mood their negative/sad feeling will make you feel sad to block out the sad/negative energy which surrounds you.

PEOPLE AND FEELINGS:

Sometimes our feelings can and cannot be controlled depending on sort of person you are and/or depending on the situation that you're in. Each person might have different feelings and so they might be thinking very different to you,they may be having thoughts totally opposite you just when you think you're in control of a situation its possible you're not sometimes we're not in control of things so the human mind that give us thoughts what we think makes us react so when then go out and our behavior leads us to what we say and what are actions are.

The Criminal:

I feel like crap they are going to get evidence I'm screwed I feel so worried and upset I'm in trouble. I feel so stressed about this whole thing I can't sleep properly I feel down and I feel miserable.

The Detective:

I feel good.......I'm so happy I can't stop smiling and laughing I'm going to catch this bad man I'm smarter than him his a idiot such a fool I'm going to track him down and solve the crime. I'm going to win Detective of the year the Commissioner is going to give me a promotion I feel excited life is wonderful.

Our feelings.......our emotions.....

They play a big part in our daily lives things can suddenly happen and can change so quickly from up to down then back up again, so as human beings we need to understand that each feeling we have can change us from being happy to sad to good to bad over and over non stop. You might get a phone call that changes your life, you business might all of a sudden fail and your screwed, you might find out your wife wants to leave you things just happen and that's life.

To be careful so that you don't let your emotions/feelings allow you to do something that is wrong or stupid one single thought or if someone plants an idea in your head at the time it seems like a good idea but its not it could change you and put you and others in danger.

Emotions/feelings

1. If you're feeling sad? you might cry.

2. if you're feeling happy? you might go out and have a good night with your friends.

3. If you're bored? you might feel frustrated there's nothing to do.

4.If you're feeling angry? you might go out and turn violent causing harm to yourself and others?

5. If you're feeling tired? you might go to sleep.

So my point being when you have a feeling about something have a think about it before you go out and do something stupid. Look at all options that are available and look at what is best for you. Choose the option that can give you the better outcome which won't cause trouble/problems for you.

FEEL GOOD LOOK GOOD

YOUR THOUGHTS/THINKING CAUSE YOU TO REACT

YOU THEN HAVE A FEELING

MAKE A WISE DECISION

Chapter Four:

Gold Investment You

Life sure can be hard at times can't it? I bet you you all have been going through some crazy times in your life right? ups and downs, break ups, make ups, divorce, separation, yelling, fighting, business change, changing jobs, meeting new people date after date but still no success. Making money, losing money, gambling money, counting every penny trying to save money, spending money, stress, feeling tired, lonely, bored, sad, depressed, angry, annoyed and frustrated. Things getting worse? or better? struggling? no pleasure? feeling upset? that's life the world we live in us human beings sure do have some interesting, sometimes hard, some days good, other times bad and sad times. But we try deal with it we try cope with it we try pray that things change faith or no faith? knocking on doors? making calls? sending texts, email after email, sending letters and trying to get that piece of information, that message that makes us feel good that reply that gives us the answer that appointment that give us the best satisfying pleasure which makes us feel so good. Still trying to find that serial killer? waiting to get that business loan? I know the cash flow not going well? staff are lazy or not intelligent yeah we get a lot of things in life don't we. Win some lose some try some and give some away getting sick or getting better or maybe getting worse life is hard some days seems easy but people have problems everywhere I've worked or socialized or events I went to etc. people have problems and they like to turn to me what can I do but listen right? I listen you know using my compassionate heart that I have still no happy with the way you look? sick and tired of your hairstyle or trying to fit into your jeans? or waiting for payday to go buy something its funny how the human mind does think the thoughts that go into our head and mind will she like me? will she go out with me? will she sleep with me? over and over these thoughts go through our head. The universe has plenty for everyone but sometimes people do the wrong things and turn into the wrong direction which makes them fail and things don't go as they planned they have to deal with failure and rejection and then disappointment they put into so much time, energy and money into trying to be that successful and happy and healthy person. So what is the best thing to invest in?

YOU.........you are GOLD and your life is precious your life is very important and you need to take care of that your mind, body, spirit and well-being make yourself feel good. You just need someone out there to care, give you support, encourage you and inspire you that person to just give you that push to move forward in a POSITIVE way taking along with you courage, inner strength, determination and your mind and heart. Your situations don't have to be so bad things can change you can change your issues and problems can be sorted out. Look after yourself invest in something that will and can actually help don't keep trying your luck on gambling because their will be days you will lose don't keep denying that you have a problem re addiction deal with it before it gets worse. Don't be hard on yourselves but also don't give up if you're feeling down put on some inspiring music and dance or go sit by the beach and enjoy the people and serenity of listening to the ocean breeze try yoga or go for a walk in nature a park or somewhere that you like a place where you feel good. Look in the mirror and be happy with you don't beat yourselves up when things go wrong be grateful, appreciative and thankful for what you have a home, food, clothing, business, job and the ability to see, hear, walk, talk etc. as human beings we're always complaining or worrying but there's a time to stop and take a big breathe in and inhale and then exhale and try manage your problems, relationships and issues that seem to be worrying you. As a qualified therapist who studied counseling I find that people seem to let a past experience or trauma or failure/rejection or tragedy stress them out it drives them insane and makes them feel miserable. I feel sorry for these people they cry, sometimes I heard and saw such anger people want to throw things and talk about revenge how they are going to get back at those ex boyfriend/girlfriend etc. its so sad but forget the hurts and upsets look after you and go learn, grow, overcome obstacles and find a solution which can take you to a better mental, physical and spiritual state where you can move forward in your life. Sometimes we act in a way that’s not really who we are not our personality there are times people cannot deal with issues or too scared so they become and react in a different way. Some people are weak and cry others throw tantrums and others turn violent they lie or deny or hide or they make up stories.

If you're asking yourself questions such as:

For the wife:

Is he cheating on me? should I hire a private investigator? should I confront him?

For the husband:

Why is she always nagging and moody I pay for everything? Can't she wear sexy lingerie should I ask her?

For the criminal:

What if I get caught? what should I do? oh god what if the police know I did it and they got evidence? where can I go? Is the homicide squad going to knock on the door soon? oh god help me? someone help me? HELP THEY GONNA CATCH ME? for you people though if you people did bad things well its not for me to say what to do showing remorse might help maybe it won't saying sorry might help or maybe it won't your kind your actions/behavior has put you in this so people this is your own fault don't blame others. You chose to do those things or maybe you were forced? but its not for me to say this is your life sure people can forgive but what if others can't ? are you ready to deal with that? maybe change for the better? do right not wrong or good not bad.

What got me into that situation?

Why did I decide to do that?

Who made the decision to do that? YOU? ITS YOUR FAULT.

In life we all have FREE WILL your mind made that decision so don’t go around blaming others.

For the student:

What if I fail? what if I don't get a job after? am I wasting my time?

For the sick:

This medication isn't working what can I try?

For the poor:

How can I get money?

For the rich

What should I invest in a escort or mistress? or maybe invest into something that's going to make my business get more profit where can I go?

For the worker:

Oh god another bill when is this going to end help me someone.......I'm working seven days a week feeding two kids and supporting a stay at home mom who just wants to have babies. No sex when I want it but she wants babies more and more babies I'm going to be broke. What can I do?

For the sad:

This is so depressing when is some handsome man going to ask me out what can I do to get that?

For the person who struggles financially:

More loss I just keep losing I shouldn't have spent my recent paycheck at the casino I'm doomed what can I do?

For the entertainer:

Am I too fat ? should I go on diet? exercise more?

For the actor:

So many auditions but still no luck what's going on? how can I get this? who can I turn to?

For the artist:

Why isn't people buying my paintings? I spend so many hours at the exhibitions and art gallery spent four years at university studying art how come I'm not successful. What can I do? how am I gonna support myself? who can I turn to?

For the lawyer:

Damn it I lost another murder trial........I got to stop this pro Bono crap.....my wife is going to leave me.

For the police officer/detective/investigator:

Here I am on duty late at night oh no its my wife’s birthday let me check my cell phone oh bumper she just sent a text message oops I missed her call. I got to get out of this UNSOLVED CRIMES department its ruining my life. My wife is going to be angry shes gonna yell at me. I should have caught that serial killer twenty years ago how stupid of me I let the victim rot away like a skeleton I'm a dickhead. I should have listened to that girl at the police station I'm stupid.

For the doctor:

Oh god the operation failed the patient got worse they are going to take me to court I'm gonna be sued damn it why is this happening to me? I take care of the sick how is this happening?

For the CEO:

Oh no I shouldn't of stolen from the company oh gosh I sent the money through to the Cayman Islands bank account damn it they're gonna trace it back to me. Peter said all the executives know I'm in trouble maybe I can sneak in tonight and put the money back? but how the hell am I gonna get past security? whose gonna help me with situations like this?

For the international businessman:

Should I invest into the business in Dubai United Arab Emirates or should i go to Beijing China ? should I sell the stocks and put it into a big long term deposit or managed funds accounts? These financial planners weren't helpful where can I get help?

For the lonely:

Why won't anyone friend me online this is so unfair someone out there like me send me a message or emoji come on you stupid computer make someone like me. Why isn't people being my friend ? what can I do?

For the boyfriend:

Wow this strip club is awesome look at all these babes shaking their booty look at that one her photos are online she hot I like her shes into fashion look at that one she's in a pretty dress. Those sexy girls wearing those high shoes moving around bump in' and grinding up and down and all around how am I gonna break up with my girlfriend. This is the life I'm loving it woo hoo. But that babe over there by the boats near the water she's sucking and licking that lobster shes looking so fine. Check her out strutting her stuff around the marina I need to get her how am I gonna do that?

Begin with getting a pen and a piece of paper and start by writing make two columns on the left side write what's the problems and on the right write what I can do to fix and change that keep going use your own brain/intelligence. Instead of sitting there feeling sorry for yourself and lashing out at others find your solution to deal with things.

Chapter Five: The Power Of Influence

People in our lives will also try and influence us and sometimes we let others influence others. In life there will be people whose influencing will make a big impact in our life it might change us, we might get caught in believing everything they say. They might be liars trying to get something from us or maybe they really do care and are doing it to help us. Influencing people is very useful tool when you want to run a business, get people to sign deals, sell products making sales, getting new members to your club and being an influence setting the latest trends for company marketing campaigns. There’s advantages and disadvantages of listening to these sorts of people the human mind our brain everyone’s thinking some people really do take in absolutely everything they hear. And they also believe it all so these vulnerable people might be putting themselves in situations where people might possibly be influencing them for the wrong reasons. We need to be powerful and influence others in this world to get ahead and our minds often tell us to say this or that. But sometimes we also need to be cautious as to doing this some people may not fall for your games or tricks and it might cause trouble for you because some people abuse power and things can go horribly wrong. As mankind has become so greedy and selfish the majority of the population in the business world including all the political leaders of the world are using their power and authority to make decisions and convince people they are right. We as human beings being on planet earth also need to consider that this so called power can be used for the wrong reasons so this influencing may cause chaos and destruction. There are so many powerful people in the world and maybe you’ve asked yourself sometimes how did they become so powerful? Its because they just are able to get people to listen to them if you can get people to listen to you then you’ve been powerful because they’ve taken in what you’ve said. When there's people and places who have more power over us do you get intimidated? frightened? fear that they'll beat you no matter what you say or do? do you feel its pointless challenging them? are you keen to defeat them? wondering how you too can gain that power to control and destroy or just simply outsmart another? could your mind be so powerful that if you just listen to it properly and think what you need to you'll become even more powerful than a president or the strongest person in the world. We become so intrigued by power because everyone at some stage in their life wants power to get something a lover, money or a job or maybe something else and so people and places can and will continue to influence you for something so be aware of that.

Chapter Six:

Attracting The Right People

Who Do We Want? What don't we want?

There are times we tend to attract the wrong people into our lives people aren't good for us, nothing in common, different lifestyles, different beliefs, not suitable etc. As each person has their own personality however they might have similar traits and things in common so they could either get along or don't get along. That is why most people break up with their partners because they have jumped into something before really getting to know someone which is why it doesn't last. We see how people get divorced and separated and there's bitterness and problems with custody battles involving children. Adults fighting over things trying to hurt them by being nasty trying to take things away from them so this occasionally happens because they are both upset and hurting by what happened.

When you are learning about someone try and be respectful and understanding about someones feelings and beliefs because everyone is different and we all come from different backgrounds/cultures. When you want to attract the right people into your life whether its friends, companions, partners, employees etc. Picking out people who seem to be the right person/s for you depending on what you need and want. Sometimes people tend to go out with just anyone because they are lonely or bored and at the time it seems to be the right move but later on you find out your not really suited for that person.

Be clear about what you want so if you want to be just friends then say so and then there will be no disappointments and problems. And so no one will get hurt this way it is fair on all people involved it will make things easier and less complicated for all of them. When we choose people who are not right for us it will maybe cause trouble and/or could lead into a bad situation which turns ugly.

Start a conversation with them, get to know them, ask questions, talk about things you like, if they are interested in you they might give you eye contact when talking, you might go to places to meet people and you could places that does has things you like such as:

Hobby - if you're into doing things that are creative you might go to a place which does creative things.

Favorite sport - then if you like sport you could go to a sporting event or go play a sport.

To find out if someone might be good for you you might go and take the step to approach them and begin a conversation and see where it leads.

Example:

At a nightclub

Man: Hey there would you like to dance?

Girl: No. I'm hanging out with my girlfriends.

Man: Can I buy you a drink?

Girl: No thank you please leave me alone I love David.

Sometimes people think of different things and they can occasionally misunderstand and misinterpret things. And so its necessary to act in a way so that people don't get confused and misled.

Body language -

Verbal & Physical communication - Use the appropriate language and have a conversation suggesting what you'd like and don't want. That way everyone is understanding what's going on.

Actions

Make contact with them via phone calls, emails etc.

Give out the right signals so people don't get misled or misunderstand you and to be

If you give out the wrong signal the other person/s could get confused and take it to be something its not.

To remember our thinking/thoughts are not always the same as other people so we/they could react in a different way leading them to behave in a certain way. Which could lead to an unpleasant experience causing someone to get hurt emotionally and/or physically depending on the situation. You don't want to jump into something to quickly so you should first get to know someone seeing if there's chemistry and that you are attracted to that person. Finding out how they feel about things their beliefs, their likes and dislikes and see if you're suited for each other.

By being yourself and being upfront what you like and don't will allow you to see if that is the right person for you and when/if you want to do a project making sure you choose the right people who have all the necessary skills which you need. Then this way you can move forward knowing that its going to be easier because you don't have to worry later on that someone doesn't know how to do something. Finding out at the start is better because you can begin to organize your work and carry on without worrying about things.

Find the right person for you by just being you saying yes or no getting what you want and need

Chapter Seven:

Don't Give Up Try Again

Sometimes when things don't work out people usually want to give up and say that's it no more. They at times cannot handle the disappointment and failure of not succeeding not achieving the results they wanted to get. There are people who can't deal with failure it drives them to a point where they get really angry and upset so annoyed that they didn't get what they wanted in life. People say to them try again and don't give up but its hard at times the human mind makes us things things the thoughts saying to yourself this is too hard, why bother trying again I'm just going to try again and other sort of negative thoughts.

Giving up is so easy then falling into a stage where you feel sorry for yourself you feel as though that is your only choice. There are maybe family or friends that might try and encourage you to try again they keep cheering you up and putting ideas in your mind to find the courage and strength to keep motivated to try again.

When people give up they stop trying and become angry, frustrated and annoyed that they cannot get what they want. They might put the idea down and get tired of trying so they feel disappointed and so they might throw tantrums. Some people who are very weak might go into a depression and make themselves very sick. Where they don't want to do anything they avoid going to places and/or they don't want to be around people. Trying again at times for some people can be a difficult thing because they don't want to deal with it again afraid of failing.

EXAMPLE:

Girl: I can't do this anymore I quit its just too hard.

Manager: Don't worry its okay you can do it we'll get you more training.

If you feel like giving up don't because there's always a way to get better at things no one is perfect. There are supportive people who understand that human error occurs and so you can get help try again don't panic.

Boy: This is so ridiculous how am I going to finish one hundred claims in a day this stupid computer is so slow.

Manager: Relax okay thanks for telling me I'll cut down your target for the day don't give up.

If at first you don't succeed try and try again believe in yourself

Don't give up

Chapter Eight:

Take The Risk Or Play Safe

At times people consider taking a risk with decision making and/or gambling some risk takers risk it all and don't really worry about what happens after. They often invest a lot of money including their houses and with other things they are prepared to even lie and do whatever they can for personal gain to get what they want. However some other people like to play safe and are very careful with what they do so they don't take the risk when doing things.

Taking the risk there's a chance you might have an outcome where it's up to you that would be an individual choice some people are ready to go out and gamble and spend their last and others can control their behavior. These risk takers chase and chase trying to win they are addicted to it and they deny they have a problem.

There are people who are just obsessed with gambling and have no control over it they addicted and cannot stop. This is where even though your thinking keep going and keep trying you might get lucky you should be really thinking no its time to stop. Have a break then try again another time or perhaps you’d be thinking no I cannot control this I really do need help and put your hand up for help. Gambling addicts don’t stop and they’ll borrow and some even steal to do this its a huge problem and sometime some only find out its a problem when its too late when they’ve lost it all and they’re homeless with nothing.

If you’re gambling in moderation then that’s okay if you’ve stuck to a strict budget and can control what you use making sure you’ve covered enough money for other important things then its okay. Play safe and stop altogether if you know you’re weak in that area and its too risky for you to do it then just stop and train yourself to say no keeping away from all those gambling places and people.

Think hard about what you're about to do your actions lead to consequences

Chapter Nine:

Learn By Your Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes sometime in their life we are all human and human error happens. By rectifying our mistakes and correcting them getting further training to get better at something this could take time and/or you could try and not repeat that same mistake by being more careful and try by writing things down so you can remember it (diary/notebook) you could also stick up posted notes by your desk depending on your situation. When we are in a situation we can then be much better at it and won't repeat that mistake things happen however if you can see where you went wrong the last time and try do things differently so that it won't be repeated. In our daily life we can easily make mistakes in general with different things and we look at it and its nothing to really worry about however with other problems when you make mistakes it can take an effect on your life and include other people which turns the situation into a big problems. Most times people can forgive you with doing little mistakes but with some other things you can not be forgiven.

Then if you double check, cross check and if needed get a second opinion to ensure that the information/details are accurate and correct especially when things are very important its necessary to make sure things are right. Overlooking things and not concentrating then its possible you can mess things up. Mistakes depending on how big the mistake is can be fixed and/or sorted out through.

EXAMPLE:

The Criminal: Oh no I shouldn't of did that what if I left a piece of mashed up bone fragment somewhere? oops what if I told the wrong person will they set me up and tell the police what have I done oh god I shouldn’t of did that mistake I'm in big trouble.

The Detective: Yeah its MW from the homicide squad we got a call an anonymous tip off yeah this dude was involved in this crime we're checking it out and following this up yeah I managed to get some stuff to catch him his made a big mistake he slipped up what a silly man I've got him now won't be long now we can finish this up soon.

Mistakes can happen anytime anywhere sometimes you don't even know or remember if you made a mistake the human mind at times for some can choose not to remember or know everything depending on the person. They might think they are smart however there just might be someone else who is much smarter than them. We learn from our mistakes and try not to repeat them learning and becoming a better person and becoming better at something. Some people choose to do the wrong things in life and their mistakes they might not be able to undo them its too late they are already screwed and no matter what they say or do they cannot get out of it no matter how much money they have, no matter how many spies they hire, no matter who they choose to go threaten, no matter how many guns they might own and no matter where they hide.

Double check/cross check all information/things

Focus, concentrate and pay attention

Don't do stupid and bad thing

Chapter Ten:

Dealing With Addictions

So many people out there in the world are addicted to something whether its drugs, alcohol, gambling or other kinds of addictions. Either they became that way through someone influencing them or they chose to become that way on their own. Other times people grow up with it in their homes people they live with are addicts and because they've seen it in their lives they've also become that way. And also some other people deny that they have a problem and choose to ignore it and carry on and it becomes worse.

Dealing with addictions can be a hard thing to do facing the reality that you do have a problem and you do need to do something about it. People can be scared and afraid of speaking up saying something is wrong with me and they can be shy or scared to talk about it. Some people can wait and pretend that there's nothing wrong with them but then they become sick and are forced to go do something.

Confronting someone about their addiction problem is hard but if they are family or a friend then you want to be their and support them through this hard times. Having people to talk to it is helpful and also being there to listen to someone hearing about how they feel giving friendly and helpful ideas to make them feel better. Some people may not like being confronted but if you really care about them they need to hear it because if they have no one else to turn to you should be there for them.

When you dealing with people who have addictions you need to be careful with how you say things so they don't feel bad about themselves. Use inspiring and encouraging words when you're talking to them and don't look down on them or do things to discourage them. When they heal and get better and things are looking much better for them they will thank you for that even though at the time it seems as though you're picking on them.

Speak up and don't be scared to talk about it

Face the reality and deal with it.

Chapter Eleven:

Where You Went Wrong

We all go wrong at times in our life and that’s okay we all make mistakes and can learn from mistakes. Try not to hate yourself you can try and fix the mistake and move forward by learning where you went wrong you can try make it right the next time you do it. Whether its a job or relationship or something else we cannot be perfect all the time perfection isn’t the way human beings were created. So find a way to stop feeling so bad about your mistakes and where you went wrong. Things will become too much for us at times and so we are bound to wrong and not be right every single time.

Sometimes we cannot always see where we went wrong and it may take time to find this out or maybe someone will point it out to us to help us out. So don’t be shy or worried to ask someone to check things for you another set of eyes always help so you can go about things the right way less problems, less mistakes and less stress. Do you see it now? do you now know where you went wrong? can you tell? have you picked up how you did it but how you should have did it? so you went about it the wrong way? so don't stress big deal forget it so now you know what you did wrong and now you won't repeat it again because you know its the wrong way how to do things right?

Chapter Twelve:

Change For The Better

You can change for the better and become a better person in your lives so many things can happen sad, bad, hard and painful times. Mistakes, accidents and so much more the human mind can make us think the worse at times and when things like this happen. It can lead us into thinking constant negative thoughts those ideas which float around in our head over and over eventually someday in your life you say that's it no more. You decide to change and do things differently things you did before are no more you move on moving forward in another direction. You get older, wiser and have learned enough growing mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically through the ups and downs, failures and hardships, disappointments and difficult situations you had to face over time your mind just says I need to do something.

Sometimes people are afraid of the unknown and don't want to take the chance and do something totally different they are so used to being who they are now. Trying something new and changing can be a challenge and going out there finding what else is there to do or being different in how you do things with people and how you act towards situations isn't always easy because for some people their minds are filled with thoughts that isn't good and those people cannot control their thinking.

You can try and change slowly not rushing into things do something different each time. Don't beat yourself up if you aren't able to adapt to a new environment or doing something new you're only human don't hate yourself if you cannot do something straight away. If you want to change because your past job or relationship or business etc. didn't work out don't stress out keep going and keep trying change and do something different. Get the training or the qualification or the experience and change for the better because you don't have to live life suffering and feeling down.

Maybe you can keep a journal or notebook and write down your feelings each day writing how you feel about your new way of thinking and how you're doing different things to change. Then over the weeks and months look back and see how you have improved or what you can do to try it again so you can get better at it. Changing can make you do something that can change your life makes things easier and better you.

Chapter Thirteen:

Listen Carefully

There are times us humans don't listen carefully we are too interested in our own thoughts what's going on with us. And our surroundings and people around us are trying to tell us something no matter where you are listening is important. Our minds are so caught up in what we're thinking and wanting to do but listening to other things is necessary when we are outside, at work or school or at home. We live on a planet which at anytime anything can happen so as human beings we need to be aware and alert be prepared for whatever comes our