Polarities of Power: Energy Work for Power Dynamic Relationships
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Raven Kaldera
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Polarities of Power - Raven Kaldera
Polarities of Power
Energy Work for Power Dynamic Relationships
Raven Kaldera
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Front Matter
Polarities of Power: Energy Work for Power Dynamic Relationships
© 2018 Raven Kaldera
ISBN 978-0-359-08643-6
All rights reserved. Unless otherwise specified,
no part of this book may be reproduced in any form
or by any means without the permission of the author.
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Dedication
Dedicated to my darling slaveboy Joshua
and to Brandon, dog and chela
who helped me to learn so much about this path.
Introduction: Dominance, Submission, and Energy
The genesis of this book started many years ago, when my slaveboy Joshua and I were first together. I’m a shaman who does a lot of energy work professionally, and of course I would often incorporate it into my sex life. However, it wasn’t until I took up with Joshua that I found a partner who was equally interested, and who wasn’t frightened when I would play with our energy bodies during sex in order to enhance the experience. We both became interested in Tantric sexual techniques, and we looked into some of the traditional techniques as a way to find even more ways to do this with each other.
However, we are both transgendered — not to mention being a same-sex couple — and nearly all the Tantric energy-sex training was extremely heterocentric. A few books and groups focused on gay Tantra, but mostly it seemed to suggest that one person had to play the woman’s part
and another had to play the man’s part
. The well-meaning Tantrikas that we spoke to had no idea what to do with us. They encouraged us to experiment and figure it out ourselves, and we did. We formed a group of transgendered explorers, and we met monthly to discuss possible energy-sex experiments, go home and try them with our various partners, and report back.
During our experiments, Joshua and I played around with our sexual gender roles, and the genders of our energy body, trying every combination we could think of — for research purposes, of course! We noticed one thing, however. Removing gender
— or, at least the traditional roles applied to dual-gendered sex — from the equation meant that our energy sex
followed a different path. It brought other opposing traits more strongly into play, and the energy followed those routes — most obviously that of our D/s polarity. (Although occasionally it eddied about, foregrounding our age difference.) We learned something important from that work: first, that energy sex really does work better when there is an opposite polarity between two people … and second, that polarity absolutely does not have to be gender.
In fact, even for heterosexual people who have a power dynamic relationship, the flow of dominance and submission between them is just as powerful a polarity as heterosexual gender. It was an Aha!
moment for us: any opposing qualities between two people that can be eroticized will work to create that energy. It could be extrovert/introvert, soft-bodied/hard-bodied, quiet and mysterious opposed to loud and brash. It didn’t seem to matter what they were, so long as both people in question got a sexual thrill out of them. For us, with our master/slave relationship as the most important defining factor, our energy sex quickly arranged itself along those lines. As a same-sex trans couple, we were easily able to pick apart dominant
and submissive
from male
and female
, where they’d been socially stuck together for far too long. We began to observe what ways of moving energy — and, more specifically, doing energy work on each other — flowed better between us when we arranged ourselves in identifiably dominant or submissive modes or positions. These usually also helped strengthen our dynamic on an emotional level … and they were damn hot, too.
I should take a short detour and explain what I meant by Tantra
, and why we are not using that term to refer to the contents of this book. In a general sense, Tantra refers to a diverse and mutually contradictory assortment of Indian philosophies and practices which hold that the material world is a concrete manifestation of the divine. While most forms of Tantra are not specifically focused on sexuality, they generally embrace the idea that the entirety of our human experience has the potential to be a venue to experience the sacred. There is often an emphasis on embracing the sacredness of things normally considered spiritually impure
and rejecting limiting social conventions. A subset of these specifically incorporate sexual techniques in their spiritual practice, but in a traditional context, sexuality is not the primary focus.
What we are talking about in this book is specifically the energetic and spiritual component of a practice that uses the emotional flows of dominance and submission as pathways. While this could arguably be called a Tantric sort of practice, we have too much respect for the actual traditional practice of Tantra to use that term for what we’re describing here. We are also rather chagrined to see how so little of what is claimed to be Tantra
actually has any resemblance at all to the traditional practice, and we don’t want to add to that pile of inaccuracy.
We’re also not going to be focusing entirely on the practices of SM and kinky sex. In fact, most of the exercises in this book will not be sexual, although they may be psychologically erotic for some people. These days, some SM players are figuring out that exchanging energy in various ways during a scene can be a thrilling and bonding activity; they mostly refer to this as energy play
. However, we also want to explode the fallacy that all power dynamic relationships come out of a BDSM practice and necessarily include SM or other activities that are traditionally considered to be kinky sex. This isn’t a book about sexual techniques; it’s a book about ways for people in power dynamic relationships to do energy work, using their power polarity as a way to deepen the connection and make the work more effective. Everything in here can be utilized by people who never do SM, bondage, or anything more than vanilla-appearing sex. Some activities, of course, will revolve around a specific fetish, but they can be adapted to fit your own lives.
At this point, especially if your familiarity with any kind of energy work is either pseudo-Tantra or SM, you may be asking why anyone would bother to do this sort of thing if not for sexual reasons. There are actually many reasons why people do energy work on each other, but this book focuses on the positive results that it has on a Master/slave relationship, if it is pressed into service. Working with each others’ energy modifies behavior over time, for one thing. Its effects can reverberate through the psyche in ways that can strongly bond two people, and bind them into a particular way of being with each other.
That brings us to one final warning. This is heavy stuff. It forges psychic bonds between people, and we don’t mean that metaphorically. This is not something to be done casually, or when a relationship is new. Until time has proven that the commitment is going to work out, be careful what kind of psychic chains you build between you. They won’t necessarily keep each other from leaving, but it will make a breakup far more painful and drawn-out than it would be otherwise, and require a much longer recovery time. You don’t want to be one of the people who ends up in the office of someone like Raven, asking them to energetically remove the bond with their ex so that they can get on with their life. Go into this work understanding that it will create an intimacy that is too deep to walk away from easily … and choose your partners very, very carefully.
Experiencing energy can be the a slightly tangible hum
, but mostly it is a sensing
, a being aware of
something that cannot be seen, tasted, heard, touched or smelled, yet you know it is there. A friend of years ago called it her spidey sense
, and I agree. It’s as if there’s another sense along with those other five. In my experience, we all have this ability. Some are more aware of it and/or have developed it more than others have, but anyone can be taught if they wish. Energy never dies, nor is it created, but it moves around and can be moved around, inside and outside the body. It can be built up or lessened, can be held and released, can be sent and received, and can be exchanged and blended.
I have become aware of different types of energy over the years. My first experience of my own energy and of the energy outside me was when I was about five. My experience — not a metaphor but my actual experience — is that first there’s my own energy; that almost imperceptible hum that exists in my body that I can move around, build and lessen, send to another. Then there’s the energy of another, and then the energy of a place. I can also receive those energies, or