Conversations With Mom: A Memoir of Conversations Between a Black Mother and Her Daughter
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Conversations With Mom - Ordonna R. Sargeant PMP
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MY YOUTH
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42802.pngAS EARLY AS PRESCHOOL, my mom devoted time to our relationship. We would talk and laugh together, as she told me about the stress or humor of her day. While I understood that I was her daughter and she was my mother, she made sure that we engaged in conversation and had open lines of communication. Babygirl, guess what happened? I was on the elevator at work and I looked down and I had two different color shoes on! One was blue and one was black. I was so embarrassed!
Oh no Mommy, what did you do?
I held my head high and wore one black and one blue shoe. Turns out only one person noticed.
My mom was easy to talk to and she made me want to talk with her about my day too.
One day, when I was five years old, we were walking home and I decided to share.
Mommy, there is this girl in my class, Vanessa. She is so pretty, Mommy. She’s the prettiest girl in the whole class. She had Fruit Roll-Ups at lunch time and she shared with me. She’s my friend.
Ordonna, what made her the prettiest girl in your class?
she asked.
I don’t know Mommy, she just is.
Describe her to me.
She has brown hair. It’s long and she is light skinned.
What else?
I don’t know. She’s nice.
Point her out to me tomorrow when I pick you up.
OK!
I said, happy to show her my new friend.
The next day I pointed Vanessa out before we left the school. She was just as pretty as the day before and I was sure she was the prettiest and the nicest person ever. Mommy and I took a long way home. We talked about our day and eventually, she circled back to Vanessa.
Ordonna what do you think is special about Vanessa?
My five year-old self could not come up with anything substantial. I mentioned her hair clips, her light brown eyes, and lighter complexion.
It was then that my mom took the time to tell me, feature by feature, how beautiful I was. She explained that the almond shape of my eyes were gorgeous. She detailed how many people would pay for lips as full as mine and how other people sit in the sun for hours for a complexion as smooth as mine was. She also told me how important it was to understand that beauty comes in so many different shapes and colors. She explained that any of us can be pretty on the outside, mean and ugly on the inside. My mom explained how kindness had a great impact on how we are viewed by others.
It isn’t enough to be pretty Ordonna. You have to be a kind person—a good person. You are a beautiful, Nubian princess with a big heart. Never forget that.
As an adult, I realize how important that conversation was for my confidence. I know many Black women who have issues with their complexion and self-image. My mom gave me a gem in that conversation. I now understand how important it is to see someone else’s beauty and not discount myself in the process. Self-love is not something I could not have described at the age of five but I felt beautiful after my mother spoke to me and it was the foundation I needed to boost my self-confidence.
ASK ME ANYTHING
42802.pngIF YOU WANT TO know about anything, I want you to come ask me. Don’t ask your friends at school, you can ask me. As your mother, and I am going to tell you the truth,
From an early age, I knew I could trust her to do exactly that.
One afternoon, when I was in third grade, I came home from school, and asked, Mommy, what’s a condom?
My mom stopped seasoning the porkchops we would have for dinner and said, I am going to answer that question, but first I need to know where you heard that and who said it.
I heard it on the school bus when one of the boys was talking to his friend. I don’t know what it is.
A condom is something a man uses to protect himself when he has sex with a woman.
What does it look like?
It looks like a long balloon, not the round balloons,
she patiently answered.
What does he do with it?
He puts it on his penis.
Completely intrigued,