From Broken to Beautiful

By Sila Lott

For heartbroken women and men who have been hurt, betrayed, cheated, or feel alone, to get healing through the word of God and my testimony. This book will help you gain a transformed and renewed mind, and to live a life of peace, joy, love, healing, and wholeness.

FROM BROKEN TO BEAUTIFUL
A SELF-HELP GUIDE TO HEAL AFTER HEARTBREAK

Are you heartbroken? Lonely? Hurt or betrayed? Have you lost hope? Are you desperately seeking a way out? From Broken to Beautiful is your guide to healing and life after heartbreak.
I found out my husband was having an affair in August of 2014. We separated and I moved back to my home town with our 16 month-old first born, 6 months pregnant with our second child. After 2 years of separation we were divorced.

I understand the struggle of adultery, single motherhood, separation, divorce, failed marriage, heartbreak, abuse and manipulation, toxic relationships, and depression.
This book is my guide to you on how to heal after heartbreak. I share with you my journey and teach you how to heal through the word of God and my testimony.

In these pages you will learn:
- How to have a good attitude and think more positively about your situation
- How to forgive so you can let go of the pain and experience peace
- How to love yourself again so that you can be happy alone
- How to detox from your past so you can experience healing in your heart
- How to remain joyous so you no longer feel controlled by your feelings
- How to be encouraged and seek after God's purpose in your life
- How to refuse negativity so you do not look back, but keep moving forward

• Language: English
• Publisher: CrossLink Publishing
• Release date: Feb 6, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393151937

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FROM BROKEN

TO BEAUTIFUL

FROM BROKEN

TO BEAUTIFUL

A SELF-HELP GUIDE TO HEAL

FROM HEARTBREAK

Sila Lott

CrossLink Publishing

Copyright © 2019 Sila Lott

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From Broken to Beautiful/Lott —1st ed.

Library of Congress Control Number: 2020938333

First edition: 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1

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Contents

Chapter 1: Salvation

Chapter 2: My Testimony

Chapter 3: Repent: Change

Chapter 4: Attitude and Positivity

Chapter 5: Forgiveness

Chapter 6: Love and Loving Self

Chapter 7: Healing

Chapter 8: Denying Your Feelings

Chapter 9: Joy versus Happiness

Chapter 10: Encouragement

Chapter 11: Giving

Chapter 12: God First

Chapter 13: Purpose: Glory to God

Chapter 14: Prayer

Chapter 15: Listening to God

Chapter 16: Mentorship and Counsel

Chapter 17: False Fruit and Discernment

Chapter 18: God’s Mercy and Grace

Chapter 19: Refuse Negativity

Chapter 20: Moving Forward

Chapter 21: Service and Influence

Acknowledgments

Jesus: Thank you, God, for bringing your Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for me. You are so worthy. I want everyone to know how amazing you are. To you goes all the glory!

Oasis Christian Center: Pastors Ed and Rhonda Lloyd, thank you for bringing me to the One who could bring me through. I thank God for your love, support, and mentorship. You have given me a greater understanding of the biblical principles I have outlined in this book. Many thanks for helping transform my life.

Parents, John and Yasire Lott; sister Mya Nearhoof; and brother-in-law Nic Nearhoof: Thank you for your constant love and support. I would not be where I am without your open arms and doors as well as your financial support. You took me in when I had nothing, and you expected nothing in return. You provided stability in my life and the boys’, which we desperately needed. Love you!

Special Thanks

A big thank-you goes to Oasis Christian Center, Church 360 (previously Abundant Life Fellowship), and Oasis Church International. For those who were a part of the journey along the way in my growth, thank you for your love, support, sacrifice, service, community, fellowship, conversation, inspiration, laughs, hugs, encouragement, examples, and positive influence. Oasis, I thank God for our union in the united vision to develop next-generation leaders and make dreams come true. I love you all dearly.

Jayce and Carter George, I am thankful to God that He gave me the blessing to be a mother to you both. And I thank Him for the health and wellness He has kept in your minds, bodies, and spirits. I thank God that He has kept His shield of protection over you both, and I pray that He gives you both the wisdom and discernment to tell good from evil in your lives. Mommy loves you, and I am proud of you. I know the sacrifice I make now will pay off for our futures in the long run. I love you, boys. XOXO, Mommy.

Neibra Williams, thank you for not only representing me legally, but being in my corner as a fellow sister of faith and purpose. Thank you for the connections you have given me to help promote my book as well as your support for providing me a space for my book signing. I am thankful that God has brought us together.

Sponsors

Wilfred Brown, thank you for your generous donation. It is with your support that my book has come to fruition. You have been a blessing in my life, and I deeply appreciate your help in making my book become a reality.

Editors

And finally, a big thank-you to all those who took the time to look over and work on my book: Frank Nearhoof, Erin Brown (The Write Editor), Jenne Acevedo (Acevedo Word Solutions), and others who have not been named or chosen to remain anonymous. This book could not have been possible without you. I deeply appreciate the time you took to review, revise, and edit my book. Thank you.

How to Read From Broken to Beautiful

This book references several biblical principles and Scriptures.

Have your Bible handy to look up the verses as you read.

Introduction

Have you been hurt? Abused? Cheated? Or broken? Do you find yourself feeling sad, lonely, hopeless, desperate, or empty inside? Are you angry or bitter at the one who wronged you? Maybe you are confused or stuck. If this describes you (or someone you know), then this book is for you. From Broken to Beautiful teaches you how to read and use the Word of God to heal from hurts, as well as to encourage and inspire you. There is life after brokenness.

You will learn important biblical principles that will help you on your journey toward healing. You will read about the importance of changing your attitude and mindset. You will discover the importance of forgiving, loving, and denying unhealthy thoughts and feelings in order to grow and move forward. This book covers not only healing but how to strengthen your relationship with the Lord, resulting in living a purpose-filled and fulfilling life.

In August 2014, I suffered the pain of heartbreak when I discovered that my husband was having an affair, and he told me he wanted me to leave. I was six months pregnant with our second child, and our first child was only sixteen months old.

I understand the struggle of adultery, single motherhood, separation, divorce, a failed marriage, heartbreak, abuse, manipulation, toxic relationships, and depression. If God can help me overcome my heartbreak and circumstances, He can help you too. If God can turn my life around, He can turn yours around, too. It will not happen overnight, and it will require work, but if you choose God over the life you are now living, He will replace it with one you never thought possible.

Seriously consider the principles I share. Applied rightly, you can expect a difference in your healing journey. God promises that when we correctly use His Word, it accomplishes its purpose. These biblical principles will work for you. They helped me heal my brokenness and showed me how to move forward in my journey after experiencing heartbreak. If you are willing to do the work and allow God to speak to your spirit and change your mind as you read through the following chapters, you will find healing and refreshment for your soul.

I pray my words will encourage you to see that a good life is waiting for you beyond your current pain. Though these times may be hard, take comfort that God is close to the brokenhearted, and He has not forgotten you nor forsaken you.

Chapter 1

Salvation

If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

Romans 10:9–10

Your first step toward deliverance and your new life requires a genuine desire to change and an acceptance that you cannot do it all on your own. The Bible says in Romans 8:28 that God works everything together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. This means that if you develop a relationship with the Lord and walk in the Lord’s purpose (not your own), all things can work together for your good and for your love, joy, health, peace, and prosperity.

The Word shows us that when Jesus went up on the cross, He paid the ultimate sacrifice. He gave His life as a perfect atonement for all our sins so that we can have a relationship with God. He loved us and gave us the greatest gift, which is the power of the Holy Spirit inside of us. But none of this will be truly effective in your life unless you open yourself up to receive it and allow it to change you.

My prayer for you is that:

this book will be a blessing to you as you journey through your healing, no matter what stage of the process you may be in;

you will let the biblical lessons I teach guide you to a place of joy, peace, and love; and

the Holy Spirit will fill you.

If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, but you want to participate in this journey toward your healing, I encourage you to spend some time in the Word and in prayer (in conversation with God). Invite the Lord into your life, let Him know you want to change and heal, and open up your mind and heart to receive what He has for you.

Chapter 2

My Testimony

And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.

Revelation 12:11

In August 2014, I discovered that my husband was having an affair.

I was six months pregnant with our second child, and our first boy was only sixteen months old. Our relationship had always been rocky. We had been married for only about a year and a half and had experienced several life changes within a short period of time. I quit both my part-time jobs, and he started his first full-time job; we both graduated from college;