The Grateful Way: Feel Free from Regret in Three Small Steps
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Would you like to feel free from regret? What if you could learn how to right now?
True stories and practical tips in this short, sweet inspirational memoir and 'how to' self-care book will show you the way.
The author's mom's simple and deliberate inclination to make the most of everything―terrible or terrific―served her well; often saying, "Where there's a will, there's a way." But not just any way. At each fork in the road she chose to take the grateful way.
That's how IJ's mom 'took the wheel' in her life's journey, overcoming losses such as: her house in a fire, the 'love of her life' to cancer, her 37 year-old son to a heart attack and, her ability to speak following a stroke. And, it's also how she optimized opportunities, becoming an artist, going on a six-week long European adventure and, posing as a 'Calendar Girl' — all after she turned sixty. (That's her on the cover!)
At age 89, despite the terrible times, given the terrific ones, and due to her thankful outlook, this remarkable woman passed away believing she was fortunate, and genuinely feeling regret-free. This heart-warming and thought-provoking book shares the three small steps of 'T.H.X.' as well as the 'Ten Ways to Express Gratitude' as simple guides to feeling free from regret and reveals if she could do it, so can you—by choosing to live 'the grateful way'.
Ida-Jean Mcintyre
Writing this book, gratitude aficionado, writer and speaker IJ (Ida-Jean) McIntyre discovered we can choose to have a thankful mindset, we can learn to express appreciation, and that living gratefully can free us from feelings of regret.A small-town Saskatchewan upbringing, two university degrees and more than twenty years of experience facilitating workshops and delivering conference sessions have given IJ the insight to guide people exploring their lives, making plans and taking positive actions that are right for them. IJ is certified in two personality temperament tools, holds two retirement life planning designations, has served on two national boards of directors, is a member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers and has written articles for the Vancouver Sun, Calgary Herald, Toronto Star and National Post.IJ invites you to nurture your own grateful attitude by applying insights you'll find inside this book, and at: www.thegratefulway.ca, to your life.
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The Grateful Way - Ida-Jean Mcintyre
In Memory
In loving memory of the most remarkable woman I have ever known,
my mom, Bernice Thomas Hanneson Neil
(1921 to 2011).
And in celebration of how she lived her life
as the epitome of the power of gratitude.
Many to Thank!
My book writing journey has been full of bonuses, for which I am exceptionally grateful.
I am indebted to a wise book coach, Les Kletke, who coaxed me to start even before I knew I had a whole book in me.
Thank you to my brother, Ken Hanneson and my sister, Karen (Hanneson) Saunderson for reading my first draft of the core stories, providing input and making this endeavour feel priceless.
During the writing of early versions of this book, the following people gave me positive encouragement and invaluable feedback for which I’m truly thankful:
•Cathie (Keiller) Godfrey and Debra Wallace in our post book writing boot camp Best Seller Club; plus:
•Anna Abra, Paul Abra, Lynda Clarke, Christine Dittaro, Rob Edwards, Laurie Flasko, Leslie Grant, Lynn Jeffery, Paul Krismer, Jeanne Martinson, Patricia Morgan, Jude Press, Nancy Prior, Graham Scholes, Marnie Scholes, Nell Smith, Deborah Turnbull and Susan Zerr.
Many thanks as well to my whole publishing team at Tellwell Talent; especially editor Helen Davies for understanding my intentions, sharing her impressions and providing constructive suggestions to make this book better.
And, lastly, a mountain of gratitude and an ocean of love to my husband for always being my biggest fan.
I could not have done this without all of you!
Thank you!
What’s in this Book for You?
This book was inspired by the way my mom lived her life. So, yes, it’s partly a tribute to her, but it is really about the power of gratitude.
Gratitude is not magic. It cannot, and does not, make miracles. Regret is inevitable in life. However, writing this book has taught me that living gratefully can soften regret.
Gratitude helps us focus on the positive, which can change the way we feel about what happens and encourage us to take simple, yet rewarding action.
When I look in my ‘rear-view mirror’, it’s clear to me that only when I took individuals, opportunities and experiences in my life for granted have I felt regret. On the other hand, when I expressed my gratitude, I felt joy, love and relief―even in some of the most challenging moments of my life.
What’s marvelous about gratitude is that everyone who expresses gratitude can experience its power. If you don’t believe me, please check out the science. Starting on page 68 of this book are highlights from several studies that examine and confirm the benefits of actively practising gratitude.
This book shares the lessons I have learned about the nature of gratitude, illustrated by stories from the way Mom lived her life, together with my personal experiences.
After each chapter, you’ll find an invitation for you to contemplate and commit to action entitled ‘Your turn to take the wheel’. These pages are designed to reinforce the steps you’re already taking, add an idea or two to your repertoire and help you to enhance the benefits of living gratefully.
Writing this book, I realized there are times I have been a ‘big talker’ with good intentions, but good intentions are not enough; actions are what make a difference. It has become clear to me waiting for the perfect time doesn’t work. What if there is no next time? So, I am committed to stop thinking without thanking.
Like everyone, I sometimes need nudges to get started. That’s why I created a simple formula that helps me―three small steps:
1. Take time to
2. Highlight the positive, and,
3. Xpress gratitude.
I invite you to take these three small steps―T.H.X.―to feel free from regret due to the power of living gratefully.
The Grateful Way to Live
Mom experienced many terrible times, including:
•Our house burning down when Dad was terminally ill;
•Without warning, her 37-year old son dying of a heart attack; and,
•Waking up in an Arizona hospital after suffering a stroke.
Did she give up? No! Even though she faced more than her fair share of tragedies, my mom was a ‘glass half-full’ optimist.
For most of my life I wondered: How did she do it? How did she remain so positive? How did she manage to stay away from feeling regret?
Finally, the answer came to me. She lived gratefully―no matter what. That’s how she was able to stare adversity in the face, accept what she couldn’t