My Differently Tuned-In Child
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Have you sought advice from professionals for your child, but are more confused than ever? Maybe she is struggling with school, behavior, learning, or all of the above, and you aren't sure why. Maybe you are concerned that this is impacting your relationship with your spouse. If you wish someone could help you see your child for who they really are and offer solutions, you are in the right place—My Differently Tuned-In Child is for you.
Teresa's Currivan Protocol™ comes from an empathetic, heart-centered, strength-based approach that gets to the root of a child's needs—whether stemming from ADHD, dyslexia, sensory issues, giftedness, or other conditions. Curating the information and knowledge she's gained over years of helping families as a parent coach and licensed therapist, and from her own experience parenting a differently tuned-in child, her book will help you gain a clearer understanding of your child and his or her behavior. The Differently Tuned-In Child will show you how individual circumstances create a unique constellation for your child—what can be treated, challenges to be accepted, and strengths to be embraced and leveraged. If you are searching for a clear understanding and peace of mind about what is going on for your child, you've come to the right place.
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My Differently Tuned-In Child - Teresa Currivan
Introduction
My Story, Your Story, and the Answers
This book is a collection of articles I have written over the years. I decided to compile them into one volume so that parents would have the information and knowledge I’ve gained over my years helping families, as well as from my experience parenting a differently tuned-in child.
When my son was 5 years old, he was having difficulty in school both socially and academically. Like many parents, I became frustrated trying to figure out how to navigate the world of professionals and educators, many of whom had a piece of the puzzle of my son but couldn’t help me put them all together. I was eventually able to figure out how to get to the bottom of things so that my son could be seen for the truly amazing person he is, and not only as a label or pathology. The result has been that, today, as a teenager, he is finding his way. During that time, I wished I had a place to go — and someone who could oversee all that I needed to figure out, more quickly and less expensively – I wished I’d had the right place.
Today, I support parents while we figure out the best way to help their child and their family. Over the years, I have learned that each differently tuned-in child comes with strengths and challenges in unique combinations. I developed the Currivan Protocol™ out of this experience. It is a comprehensive assessment and treatment plan that involves identifying what can be treated, accepting challenges, and identifying and embracing strengths. I was driven to create it out of my desire to help struggling children quickly, effectively and less expensively than what I had experienced.
I created The Right Place Learning Center so that parents with differently tuned-in children can finally get the unique help they need — from visual-spatial tutors, to parent support groups, to private coaching and relationship help specifically designed for your specific challenges — so that you can take a deep breath and know you are in the right place.
By reading the advice and insights in this book, I hope that parents do not have to struggle as I did but will begin to gain a clearer understanding of their child and his or her behavior.
I understand that parents and teachers are given many challenges in this fast-paced world. My intention in shedding light on the issues faced by differently tuned-in children and their parents is to make everyone’s life less stressful. I hope that you can find the path you need to help your child and yourself, especially if you have been previously misunderstood.
You will see various words in this book to mean differently tuned-in. Differently tuned-in, differently wired, and exceptional can mean any non-neurotypical learner such as a child with dyslexia, ADHD or who is on the autism spectrum. Gifted means high IQ, and twice-exceptional means gifted with one or more learning or emotional challenges.
While I hope you will read this book from beginning to end, you may also choose to read those chapters that call out to you and your particular situation. Many of the chapters share stories of children whose names have been changed for their privacy. You may find your child in their stories. I hope you will learn from them, quickly get to the root of the issues you’re facing, and watch as your child gains self-esteem and thrives with friends, family, and what may feel like a newfound freedom to be themselves.
How I Struggled in School as a Visual-Spatial Learner
After having my own child, and as I helped him and other children find their learning styles, I learned that my style of thinking and learning had a name: visual-spatial. I was elated to know that I wasn’t alone in my ability to think in images and then translate into language. What I was finding out, however, was that many of these visual-spatial learners are acting out, or becoming bored, sometimes even being labeled as defiant, or having other challenges in school. Perhaps a visual-spatial child’s defiance is a way of saying, Couldn’t we make this more interesting?
Visual-spatial thinkers and learners see things in pictures and feel them in spaces before converting them to language.
Experts today say that they are gifted — a word that made me cringe until I understood its full meaning. This is how I describe visual-spatial learners:
Visual-spatial learners take in, create, and process ideas in a very different way than auditory-sequential learners. They think and process in pictures and spatially rather than words. If you can imagine a pre-verbal
thought - that brief millisecond before your thought becomes words, you may be able to understand this. They are coming up with new ideas while listening to descriptions in the same thought process. Therefore giving auditory instructions that have many steps to a visual-spatial person may not bring success. At the same time, these thinkers may be able to solve seemingly complex tasks that others are not able to. They tend to think holistically, connecting all of the bigger picture issues and may sometimes miss details. (Although they can also get hyper-focused on details in many cases.) They can seem to have executive functioning challenges because they do their best thinking when in a flow state, which can be contrary to keeping track of time and being organized. These challenges can be managed when understood. They are often gifted in the areas of math, emotions, technology, and the arts.
In our schools, most teaching techniques are designed for linear-sequential learners whose learning progresses in a step-by-step manner from easy to difficult material. Subjects are taught in a step-by-step fashion, practiced with drill and repetition, assessed under timed conditions, and then reviewed. It approaches problem-solving and learning in a systematic manner, using a series of logical steps:
Memorize the math facts and then do algebra.
Learn to read and write and then make up a story or write.
This is the counterpart to the visual-spatial style. By adulthood, we typically use both of these styles to a certain extent. But more and more, I see children who are further on the visual-spatial spectrum who don’t yet have the more sequential learning skills that are required in school at an early age, (and who often develop them later than a typical child).
Since our education system does not, for the most part, support visual-spatial learners, we have many children who are not equipped for success in our schools.
Some cultures are dominantly visual-spatial. In my experience, it seems that families from some non-dominant cultures within the United States tend to be more open to understanding visual-spatial thinking. For many of us, it can be difficult to see that the norm in the U.S. and in our education system is the linear-sequential thinking style because we are immersed in it. And most visual-spatial thinkers, I’m guessing, like me, don’t know it has a name, or even that some people have a different way of thinking.
I hope my story helps to more precisely illustrate the visual-spatial learning style.
In third grade, I remember my older sister helping me memorize math facts with flashcards over and over. I looked up to my sister and enjoyed her attention. I would have let her test me with flashcards forever, if just to spend time together. Like me, many of these kids are relational learners — it’s all about who