Let Yourself Be: A past you must embrace
By CJ Lacsican
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Overflowing with grace, humility, sincerity and stunning photography, Let Yourself Be will leave you refreshed, determined, and with an entirely new perspective. It is just the book you need.
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Let Yourself Be - CJ Lacsican
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A past you must embrace
Let
Yourself
Be
CJ LACSICAN
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ISBN: 978-1-5439970-9-5
Dedication
To my family, friends, teachers, mentors and colleagues, I am a product of your genuine and unwavering support, trust, loyalty and love. Despite all my imperfections, you have always been there. I am forever grateful. Thank you. This is for you.
Contents
Cover
Dedication
Normalcy: What is good enough?
What was your darkest hour?
When was your first real independence?
What does it take to live in a man’s world?
Is travel just a temporary escape?
Decluttering your mind?
Do you have a big bad wall?
Is it time to wake up your inner child?
When will you say hello to the real you?
Where are you going?
Chapter 1
Normalcy: What is good enough?
Have you ever wondered what your life’s purpose is? I bet you have! At a certain point, everyone tends to question why we are here. Why are we here? What is meaning to you? The question of purpose is innate to every one of us. If you have the answer, share it with the world, please. A lot of us would appreciate it.
Would you agree that we were born in this world not knowing exactly what we need to do? Growing up, certain societal standards have been imposed upon us—good grades, good behavior, good friends, staying healthy, excelling in sports or the arts, and so on and so forth. And because of these standards, whether we admit it or not, internally, we also expect the same for ourselves. We feel that we must be this or that to achieve our purpose. Do we simply exist here to be good? Is that it? If it’s that straightforward, why do we still feel incomplete and undecided about our life’s directions. What is right or wrong, good or bad?
Then we get to ask ourselves, if we constantly fall short of the standards of good as we know to be true in our minds, as instilled since childhood, what then is good enough? Should we consider ourselves failures in life if we do not achieve what is expected by others or even ourselves? Are we absolute screwups when we have wronged and terribly hurt other people? If we have failed and become better but again make a mistake, are we still not good enough?
If you’ve never at some point in your life asked these questions, I may be standing in the world alone with these thoughts because I have certainly asked them over and over throughout the years.
I wish finding the right path and purpose was simple. But no, this isn’t black and white; that’s only for photography and old movies. There’s no straight answer. We all know this—every journey is dependent on a multitude of factors. That is what makes life interesting. However, we often talk about other people’s lives rather than ours. Note to self: Mind your own business!
Day in and day out, we try our best to be the best version of ourselves.
Day in and day out, some of us go to school to learn. Arguably, some people even think that school is where we practice discipline. Though some of us feel that teachers are either modern-day heroes or demons pretending to be angels. Sometimes they really test our limits and make us question the point. Even if better time-management skill is developed, we feel that the required schoolwork is too much. I may be saying this largely from an Asian context, but do they really expect us not to sleep at all in order to complete all our required homework and projects? Are we not good enough if we choose to sleep eight hours instead of doing what is necessary for good grades?
When you consider the current generation of students, you realize that expectations have risen in a significant way. Succeeding academically was already difficult 20 years ago, but I don’t remember the workload being this heavy.
Getting accepted into a good school now creates so much anxiety for children and parents. Families are required to live in proximity, are expected to earn x amount per year and must have excellent letters of recommendation. The many months of waiting to find out whether you are good enough for academia is highly emotional.
It is equally tough to stay and earn good grades. Where are the pragmatic expectations? If work-life-balance is becoming a huge issue right now—so much that companies around the world are creating all sorts of benefits for their employees to achieve it—can we not create school-life-balance?
And then, when we graduate and enter the workforce, there are more expectations. Day in and day out, we go to work, give it our best shot hoping that at some point in the future we are rewarded for excellent performance. And we strive toward our chosen careers largely for two reasons—recognition and money. Well, there is a minority of people who really kick-ass for the sole purpose of helping other people grow. Bless those souls. They are the modern-day saints.
Let’s be real, most of us work to survive and be able to buy the things that we want for ourselves and for those that we love. The majority of us also have this insatiable need to be recognized for doing something good. For some reason, we need validation that we are on the right track or at least doing something worthwhile. We have a deep need to be someone that our family and friends can be proud of.
When you have achieved a certain level of work status or are able to purchase high ticket items, such as a house