Consequences of Divorce
()
About this ebook
In her poignant memoir, Barbara Hege discusses her feelings about "the other woman" in her dad's life. She recounts how her mother reacted to the affair, and laments over an inheritance that should have been hers. The lessons she learns and how God causes her to "grow in grace," despite the difficulties, will inspire you. If you are a child of divorce, this book will be a life changer; the author aptly shows that coming from a broken home doesn't mean one has to be broken.
Related to Consequences of Divorce
Related ebooks
Two Things I Know: God Saved Me for a Reason and He’s Not Finished with Me Yet Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGlitz to Glory with Grace Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFinding the Dad I Never Had Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFrom Foster Care To Faith Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWhat If?: The Real Walking Dead Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAmazing Grace Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsI'm Still Standing: How God Turned My Pain into Purpose Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTreading Water with God: Lessons in Love While Care Giving Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGod, do you know what you are doing?: P.S. You've made a mistake! Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings12 Months Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsStanding on the Promises of God Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDon't Give Up!: God Is Not Through with You Yet Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Love of a Father: and the Journey of His Prodigal Son Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsKnees in the Breeze Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Life of a Complete Single Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSole Survivor Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsCovered by His Grace Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsCaught Red Handed Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5No Order in the Church Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsShattering of Glass, Scattering of Seed Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAbusive Submission: Overcoming Trauma by the Grace of God Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Big Reveal: Loving Your Lgbtq+ Child While Strengthening Your Faith Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsProdigious Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEnrolled in God's School of Ministry Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsPassage into Paradise: The True Story of My Own Mother’S Struggle with Alzheimer’S Disease Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMending Holes in the Soul With God's Love Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMy Father’s Eyes Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMy Story for His Glory Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGod's Hand, My Choices Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGod, the Devil and Me Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Relationships For You
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Big Book of 30-Day Challenges: 60 Habit-Forming Programs to Live an Infinitely Better Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'm Glad My Mom Died Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better (updated with two new chapters) Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5ADHD: A Hunter in a Farmer's World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: The Narcissism Series, #1 Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Becoming Free Indeed: My Story of Disentangling Faith from Fear Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Codependence and the Power of Detachment: How to Set Boundaries and Make Your Life Your Own Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Art of Loving Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5It's Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5All About Love: New Visions Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for Consequences of Divorce
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
Consequences of Divorce - Barbara White Hege
White.
Chapter 1
E mily, I saw Adam and Ruth together up at West End.
This was Daddy’s sister, Mattie Mae, talking to my mother. I think I was five or six years old when I heard those words. My brother, Bill, was two or three years old. Little did I know how those words and what they revealed would affect the rest of my life. I remember exactly where we were when Mattie Mae uttered them. I don’t think it could be so, but it seems I understood what those words meant, even at that young age.
Daddy and Mother ran a little country grocery store/service station a few miles from Elkin, North Carolina, which was owned by my paternal grandfather and was located next door to where he and my grandmother lived. This was one of those stores where people didn’t just come in to buy something. They often sat, drank sodas, and visited together. I remember my maternal grandmother telling my Mother to watch Ruth, that she was after my daddy. She stated she had seen her flirting with him. Ruth lived just down the road from the store and was in and out sometimes. My Daddy was not a Christian then and had an eye for the ladies. So started an affair that would go on for eleven years or more.
During those eleven years, Daddy left twice, returning home each time after a few months. He had broken off the affair a couple of times and somehow allowed himself to be lured back into it. I was told that at least one of those times, Ruth threatened suicide. About five or six years into the affair, she became pregnant, giving birth to a daughter, Vickie, in March 1950. I was in the seventh grade. That year at Christmas, Daddy bought Christmas presents for me, Mother, and Bill. This was the first and only time he ever did this by himself. I received a new gold watch. Bill received a new bicycle. Mother received a new gold wedding band. Looking back on this years later, I believe this came from the guilt he must have been feeling.
The second time he left, he ended up in the hospital with a nervous breakdown and was placed in the psychiatric ward. Vickie was around two years old at the time. I think I was thirteen years old, and Bill was ten. He sent someone to ask if Bill and I would come to visit him. He asked for Mother to visit with us, also. We discovered that he and Ruth were living together in a small town about two hours away. We did honor his request and visited him in the hospital there. After being there for some time, he was released by his doctors and came back home. He left for the third time when I was a senior in high school. He never returned.
Chapter 2
Let’s go back for a minute. When I was seven or eight years old, Daddy and Mother bought a large farm. We were living there when Daddy left. Each time he left, he would just disappear. Mother, Bill, and I would be visiting a neighbor or my grandparents, only to return home and discover that Daddy had packed his clothes and left. We had no idea where he was living. I don’t know how we made